Priya says: on November 10, 2012 at 10:29 pm
Dear all,
I am a hindu girl and in love with a muslim boy. Now we had decided to get married. The boy has decided we married in hindu then in muslim.
As per the boy imaan the boy can perform all tituals except the saath peyre round the fire. But I am telling the boy he need to do that because it is necessary in the weeding
Please advice -Priya
Admin says:
Priya,
Thank you for reaching out to us, there is plenty of information on this web site for you to make fully “informed” decision for your life.
The boy has to decide if he wants a Hindu Priya or wants to please that Imam; he cannot have both. If you ask an Imam, what else you expected answer other than “except the saath peyre round the fire”. The Imam is just doing his job. Further, be very clear that the Muslim wedding, Islamic Nikaah, cannot be between a Hindu and a Muslim, both must be Muslims only. That means you MUST CONVERT to Islam before your Nikaah. This week is Diwali, may be this is your last Diwali!!
Now you have to decide if Islam is a right religion for you. Please read the Hindu Girl article and all references there in. If you decide to convert to Islam, make sure you mean it and are willing to be an obedient Muslim wife and ready to raise Muslim children. Unless you are 100% sure for it, do not “fake” convert just to please your lover. This “fake” conversion, just to please the Imam, will bring hell in THIS life not only for you, but also for your bf and both extended families (read Anita, Nirmala, Hinu, and many more).
Talk to your bf for what conversion has to do with your love? Ask him to read the Muslim boy article. Please get back to us in a month for what new you have learned. We will address your more specific questions then.
We have excellent Hindu and Muslim marriage advisors and they will get back to you soon for their views for what you should do. Best wishes. -Admin.
Sadia says: November 11, 2012 at 11:04 PM
Please be aware in nikah, your hindu parents are not allowed to attend, your guy wouldn’t be a true muslim if he allowes them to attend, as you said you are not going to convert plz leave the muslim guy, plz don’t spoil the muslim boy, our religion does not permit marriage to you a kafir, you are haram and you kids will be harami, if you marry him.
I wonder how did our muslim boys are marrying you Hindus, as your parents have no love for you, so they tolerate you getting our muslim guy, you hindu girls are cheapest. I hope you see the truth and become muslim and leave you stupid faltu religion. I will never allow my daughter to marry a hindu, bloody F….. -Sadia.
Priya says: November 12, 2012 at 5:13 AM
Ok, now I am realising. Thank a lot. -Priya
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Priya.. If you love that guy… And you love him for who he is and how he is, then talk to him and not to these ppl. If he loves you the same way as you love him then just do a register marriage and settle down.. Dont make him do something that you dont wanna do so stop talking to unknown ppl and start talking to him! Religion doesnt matter, what you feel matters most! No matter which religion.. Itz god’s will that the two of you met amd fall in love… 😉
Priya, did you got married by registered marriage?
Actually i am also a hindu girl and i also love a muslim boy. I know that its necessary to convert myself into muslim but how to convert myself into muslim before getting married. My boyfriend loves me a lot and i also love him like anything his name is Wahidul. But i am not getting how to escape our marraige from our parents.. There are lots of problems we need to suffer for our love what can we do to avoid this problems. People just goes on comment passing that being a hindu girl i love a muslim boy i just feel like killing them i can bare everything but i can bare anyone saying anything about my boyfriend like that.. What can i do to avoid this people and their rubbish conversations?
Reply to Apurva at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4303
Shakeel,
please dont show false brother love, also dont show false information.
“400 million arab women leading successful life” – name atleast one who is well known, instead of faking details, why dont you show 9000 million women who are honor killed?, have been raped by arabs, forced to make 10 – 15 babies, killed for not wearing burqa, given no freedom from house work and four walls.
Show your concern when hindu girls are kidnapped and raped by muslims like you- in Maharashtra,mumbai, muslims killed parents of girl, who dis not convert and married a muslim mechanic, another girl was thrown acid on her face by muslim. This happens everywhere where muslims are prevalent. Show your concerns there instead of persuading innocent hindu girls like priya.
You Muslims kill the muslim girl who marries hindu or Christian guy, what peace are you talking about. You support terrorist, who just need india to be muslim nation, do you muslima ever contribute to development of india? And dont give just 2-3 examples, hindus have 1billion people who has helped the world, you just name atleast 1%.
Secondly islam does not allows for muslim boy to marry hindu girl, so the boy must be converted to hindu, as per islam. Throw your fake secular image shakeel, tell the same when your sister wants to marry hindu girl.
sadia, chand osmani and veena malik are actually hindu boys but pretending to be muslim girls/boy. Well, Priya,you should have realised it by now and if not, it’s high time to unveil these hindu junks.
Now come to priya’ problem…
Look sister. It’s your life and only you should have the conclusive say.whatever you decide, we should support.
As far as your post marriage life is concerned, i,being a muslim guy,will say only one thing. And that is, all the sufferings described and warnings issued above on the page are fully concocted and away from truth. If it would have been the case, 400 million arab women would not have been still muslims and leading happy successful lives. There is no truth in fanatcies.
Thanks. It’s all on my part.
Hello every one.
Please have a look on the following islamic text?
This is from a book called “Kanz Al Umal” (The Treasure of the Workers), in the chapter of “The issues of women”, authored by Ali Ibn Husam Aldin, commonly known as Al-Mutaki Al-Hindi. He based his book on the hadiths and sayings listed in “Al-Jami Al-Saghir,” written by Jalal ul-Din Al-Suyuti.
Narrated by Ibn Abbas:
“I (Muhammad) put on her my shirt that she may wear the clothes of heaven, and I SLEPT with her in her coffin (grave) that I may lessen the pressure of the grave. She was the best of Allah’s creatures to me after Abu Talib”… The prophet was referring to Fatima , the mother of Ali.
The Arabic scholar Demetrius explains : “The Arabic word used here for “slept” is “Id’tajat,” and literally means “lay down” with her. It is often used to mean, “lay down to have sex.” Muhammad is understood as saying that because he slept with her she has become like a wife to him so she will be considered like a “mother of the believers.” This will supposedly prevent her from being tormented in the grave, since Muslims believed that as people wait for the Judgment Day they will be tormented in the grave. “Reduce the pressure” here means that the torment won’t be as much because she is now a “mother of the believers” after Muhammad slept with her and “consummated” the union.”
VM
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Hi Indian,
Here are people who are at the crossroads in their life, who are scared to reach out to people in their immediate world for help. They are resorting to people online with experience for help, sometimes anonymously, because they don’t want to be judged. Most posters are young and in the prime of their life.
The least you can do is to be unbiased and help them with information and support to make their decisions.
Strong language, and denouncing their stories as fake is just a) taking away space on the screen/ website, b) a turn off for people who would like to see healthy communication, c) turn off for the posters who need solutions.
You aren’t helping anyone. If you find this website to be fake you can avoid visiting the link, and go facebook instead.
hi everyone….
i am in love with a Muslim guy from last 4 years and even he love me lot. and we both mutually decide to marry each other. but now as always, the problem arises about inter caste relation.i talked about my relation to my parents nd they stictly said no… and even restricted me in doing the job. they stictly stopped my relation with him nd told that, this can never be possible.
but i really love that guy. even he tried to talk with my father but my father was nt ready to hear his voice.
and they started searchin a groom for me.. nw i dnt knw what should i do. m totally alone nd cant find any way.
Should i go with my love and run away with him or should i agree with my parents and forget him.
plz help me.
Please reply to Mansi at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3408
Another victim of collectivity of our education dominated by Left, Bollywood hideous culture, super masculine Islamic ideology and its offshoot Love Jihad.
If she is clever and caring she herself would have tried to read something about Islam before getting in to this situation..
But when culture of Bollywood Islamic mafia and its propagandist i.e. main stream media (i.e. English) is dominating the life at this stage, they virtually feel morally superior, and take this kind of marriage as a proof of that.
Hasn’t the movie Jodha become a hit even when it indulged in creating fiction out of necessity rather than showing the truth i.e Jodha was one those 5000 Hindu women sex slaves in Akbar’s harem or that she converted to Islam and her burial place is still in Delhi even today !
Fiction is romantic always !
I am sorry if I offend Satyen because I assumed that taking of 5000 Hindu women as sex slaves as a crime on Hindus rather than women…..
Mansi,
Read the life history of Muhammad at:
http://www.islam-watch.org/MAsghar/StoriesNotTold/stories_not_told_before11.htm
and know about Islam. Every Muslim is supposed to consider Muhammad as his role model. Best thing is to ask your boyfriend what he thinks about Muhammad. In short, he had 12 wives including a grand daughter like girl 0f 6 years when he was at the age of 52 and the girl became a widow at the age of 18 years for the whole of her life. Also, he married his daughter-in-law after getting her divorced by his adopted son. One interesting thing is his father and grand father (It was the second marriage of his grand father) were married on the same night and at the same place in the same marriage ceremony!
It’s a very important decision and hence you must display maturity and consider all the post marriage aspects before taking any decision.
I agree fully with Srinivas except, Akbar had only Hindu sex slaves. Akbar might have some Muslim sex slaves as well.
It is a common practice that some Hindu women used to convert to Islam for variety of reasons.
1. After conversion, her master might manumit her.
2. Hope of better treatment after conversion to Islam in the palace.
3. It was noted down that some Muslim Queens uses to marry off their Muslim slaves.
4. Chances of getting married and leading blissful married life are much better only after conversion.
and other reasons.
At the time of capture those women were all Non-Muslim. Islamic law prohibits taking Muslim men as slaves or Muslim women as sex slaves.
Hey mansi I wud suggest don’t think of anything in emotions..think practically..Do not jump into the well.. I knw how It feels. Mansions I have gone through all of this.
My ex was a Muslim guy. He met me at my work place. Initially as a friend , he was the sweetest guy but when we got into the relationship, true colours came out. He was very posssesive which initially I loved it. But when the days passed, his possesiveness became a burden on me.
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Hello Priya,
Be aware that you are not trapped? Hindus are liberal and considerate but muslim guys are cruel and biased against non-muslims. I have experience of cruelty of muslim males against females. I have found Hindus educative, considerate and humanitarian. Muslim girls can adjust with Hindu husbands but it is hell for a hindu girl to adjust with a muslim guy. Once you are married, first you will be asked to use burka, restrict your movement, you cannot do job and even your basic rights shall be snatched.
CHOICE IS YOURS
VM
Priya:
If you want to make this easy , screw both the hindu and muslim ceremonies and do a court marriage. And sign a document with both of your signatures, stating that your kids will be raised with 2 religions.
If his parents are broad minded, they should agree. Its a middle solution.
If they can;t agree for you not performing a nikaah, when your not muslim, I don’t see how things are going to pan out in the future peacefully for you.
They might get passive-aggressive and eventually buy you into conversion. Which you secretly will not be happy with, but might not express for fear of ruining your relationship. Lots of heart ache.
I have to add this:
All of my friends who have had inter religious weddings (there are plenty – since I partially grew up in North America), were either
a) non religious (both parties didnt care much about religion)
b) had only a social wedding with friends and family – no religious ceremony
c) married foreigners – in which case 2 weddings, one in india and one in US
And all of them live in US, where things are alot easier because the laws help you out. There is no space for force/ coersion/ unreasonable expectations, because it will likely end in a divorce. Maybe metro cities of India fall into this category too?
But don’t marry a muslim and live in an Islamic country. You’ll have most odds against you, except possibly luck.
Priya,
Agnostic has an excellent advise, make sure “your kids will be raised with 2 religions”. Click on her name above and you will learn of her personal experience, very smart girl.
Even in non-Islamic countries, think your sister-in-law may be like Sadia, how are you going to handle this? Best is to go and meet his parents and tell them openly what are your wishes. Do not trust what that guy may have promised you.
sister priya
think carefully muslims men are very dangerous , they treats women like domestic cattle , quran sanctions wife beating (4:34)
just check the condition of women in muslim countries , islam treats women as baby machine , ur children will be raised as muslim
one thing i want to say conversion of religion is the creation of a new nation
Priya,
I am a muslim girl, I have already written in a separate blog, that in the name of islam all sorts of attrocities are committed in the muslim community, even in Quran, so many vulgar texts have been incorporated against females. Females are treated just like sex dolls. Islam is religion that gives priviliges to the criminal type persons and women have no say against curelty. Even if she is raped, she has to procduce two witnesses to seek justice?Where from she will bring witnesses?Beating women is genuine as per Quran texts.
It is genuine for muslim girls like us to get attracted towards Hindu boys, who are normally liberal, adjusting nature but for a hindu girl to marry a muslim just like jumping into the well.
Please be aware in nikah, your hindu parents are not allowed to attend, your guy wouldn’t be a true muslim if he allowes them to attend, as you said you are not going to convert plz leave the muslim guy, plz don’t spoil the muslim boy, our religion does not permit marriage to you a kafir, you are haram and you kids will be harami, if you marry him.
I wonder how did our muslim boys are marrying you Hindus, as your parents have no love for you, so they tolerate you getting our muslim guy, you hindu girls are cheapest. I hope you see the truth and become muslim and leave you stupid faltu religion. I will never allow my daughter to marry a hindu, bloody F…..
Sadia,
Thank you for clarifying Islamic expectations. This is exactly that we understood over years. We are wondering how come Priya’s boy friend has not told all these yet to her.
Hindu boys and girls are stupid to believe that a Hindu can marry to a Muslim by Nikaah without conversion. If they spend even 10 min on Google, they will have their answer. Their ignorance for Islam is totally unbelievable.
Sadia, you are doing Godly work by telling truth. Please come back again and again to guide all Hindu-Muslim lovers on this web site. We hope one day Priya will come back to thank you for opening her blind eyes.
What the fuck is wrong wih you guys?!?! And Sadia.. Who the hel Watch your tongue do you think you are? ?watch your tongue biatch! That guy n girl loved each other and they wabted or maybe not to get married.. Whateva their prob was.. Who are you to pass sucha low life comment abt Hindu girls! Fuck u biatch! Why izit the girls fault… Why the muslim guy cant think for himself izit? Please i think u should use ur brains if u hav them! Listen to this before i finish wasting my time with you! I AM A HINDU AND MY HUSBAND IS A MUSLIM AND WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND GOT MARRIED AND LIVING TOGETHER FOR YEARS!!! AND DARNNN WE ARE IN BLISS!! Take it away’ ha
How did you got married? Did you converted?
ok now I am realising thank a lot
Don’t feel bad, it is better to wake up late than never.
There are million others who still don’t know this basic fact.
Best way to learn is to teach.
Now come back to this site every week to educate other boys and girls.
Allah (God) will be happy with your new good Karma.
Also, I would suggest, that if you still chose to go through with this wedding, get a lawyer and discuss all the “what ifs” BEFORE you get married.
Register your marriage BEFORE any hindu or muslim ceremony.
Sign a prenuptial agreement of some sort. You don’t want your parents property and wealth being transferred to your boyfriends islamic family later on. And include a clause of no conversion/ no <> for your kids in that document. I don’t know of any resources to do these things, but I am sure there are lawyers who can help you out. Maybe others can point you to some resources, depending on your location, etc?
These things are normal. And its wise to think of it, esp. when your thinking of a wedding with so many religious and cultural differences. A lot of girls/ boys these days think of this, esp when one of them comes from a wealthy background, or has something to possibly lose. It’s a way of making sure that both parties have no ulterior motives, and are doing this solely because they want to have a future together and are committed to making it successful with equality.
u muslims are bloody fuckers.assholes.blood suckers parasites.go n bury urself.nobody is intersted in taking ur daughter also.let her die in ur bloody hell.we hindus dont want ur cheap daughter.she needs a cheap muslim only.who roams wid four wifes at a time.n has sex wid fifth one.let her have such husband.she deserves it.bcoz she is born in that dirty religion.god save us from u dirty beggers.
Priya,
It’s so nice to know that finally you have decided to retain your heritage and will remain a Brahman as your ancestors/family/relatives. But you should know that Nikah is not possible without your conversion to Islam. If you read Shahada (which is a must before the Nikah), you become a muslim. So, you must make it clear that you will not read Shahadah. Also make clear to your would be husband and their family about the points I mentioned in the previous post.
Also, must register your marriage before Nikaah so that in case of exigency, you may have control on the situation.
All the best for your future conjugal life.
So, the boy will not be converting to Hinduism but you will be converting to Islam because Muslim marriage can be performed only after your conversion to Islam. If you doubt, you can ask any Imam. As you will be a Muslim, you accept the following:
1. No more a Brahman, just an ex Brahman. You will not worship or have photographs of Hndu gods such as Durga, Kali, Lakshmi, Shiv, Ram, Krishn-Radha etc. You will also not take prasad etc. neither play Holi or celebrate Diwali. A farewel to temple visits as well.
2. You will celebrate Qurbani (killing of animals on Bakr-id), probably cook non-vegetarian food in your kitchen even if you don’t eat that food.
3. Your children will be circumcised and you will celebrate it. Also, your children must be willing to sacrifice themselves to protect the Muslims only.
4. Your will definitely losing your parental relatives and hardly your parents will visit you. Probably, it doesn’t matter much to you.
Alternatively, still it’s not too late, you can remain as you are. Just, try to find a way. Where there is a will, there is always a way, if you wish.
Wish you all the best, if you are still willing to go ahead leaving your family/parents, cultural heritage and religion behind for a boy!
No I will marry in hindu and afterward the boy will do nikah I will not convert into islam
Priya,
ISLAMIC NIKAAH IS NOT POSSIBLE WITHOUT CONVERSION.
Go ask 100 Imams and you will hear the same answer. You boyfriend knows this, he is just playing innocent, ask him to explain it all. Best is to go and meet his parents and tell them your plan to get married and they will explain it better.
Please read more here https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=76
Dear Muslim girls and guys, is Islamic Nikaah possible without a Hindu (or Sikh, Jain, Buddhist) converting to Islam? Please clarify on above link, thanks.
this site is made by us hindu to guide hindu girls from muslim boys and to trap innocent muslim girl..
Can you stop this Taqiya play? Muslim girls are smart enough to see through your scheme of things.
Priya is determined to ruin her life, which will only a 9 days wonder and then she will repent soon,loosing every thing.
Priya remember you are trapped, dont you know how cruel is muslim society. Soon after marriage, you will be put in various restrictions, and if you resist, you will be beaten mercilessly.
If you are determined, go to hell or jump in to the well.
priya dont get married with muslim.muslim is not loyal,they are all about their religion.my advie that please be confirm about that guy.
Anju is right, in most cases, “they are all about their religion” is very true. Find out if your lover could marry you without conversion. Further, find out if he is like Aamir Khan who said “My kids will always follow only Islamic”. Is Aamir Khan a Male chauvinist or an intolerant Muslim?