Radha on January 2, 2012 at 6:43 am
hey i am a Brahman girl and i am dating a boy who is muslim shia. i love him a lot and want to spend my whole life with him. but neither my parents nor his parents want us to marry now plz tell me what should i do ???????????????
Shefali on January 2, 2012 at 11:14 am
Ask him to marry you in court. Go for civil marriage.
Radha on January 2, 2012 at 10:57 pm
this thing i know but tell how can i marry him with his parent agreement.
Admin on Janyary 8, 2012 at 9:57 pm
Shefali made an excellent point…. if you are smart, go marry by the Indian Special Marriage Act 1954. There are many 
Radha on January 13, 2012 at 1:16 am
he is agree to marry me with this act.
Admin on January 14 at 12:11 pm
The Special Marriage Act is great and stick with it.
Next, is he financially independent to support you (and your kids in the future)?
In addition, read what Seema Maheshwari has to say to Zoya at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=1017 . Good luck!
Radha on January 23, 2012 at 8:59 am
he had his enginneering last year and helping his father in his construction work.
Admin on January 23, 2012 at 9:54 pm
It will take a lot to make it work. It is good that he is well educated. Unfortunately he is not financially independent, at least not for the near future. For this reason, probably he cannot go against wishes of his parents. Under pressure from his parents, he may change his tune and may start asking for shahadah/nikaah.
Best is to find fact sooner than later. You both collect courage and go present your plan to both parents. Let it be a big hangama (will be painful for all) but you may find a good way out of it. If not, we will be talking the same thing even after 3 more years. Best wishes!
Radha (after about 3 months) says: on April 20, 2012 at 4:16 am
now we have decided to marry. his parents are now agree to accept me but not my parent? what should i do???????????
Radha says: on April 20, 2012 at 4:15 am
…but i love him sandy n i knw he will not cheat me… i knw him very well.
Admin on April 20, 2012 at 10;23 PM
Dear Radha,
We are glad that you made progress in the right direction; that is to talk to both parents. We are glad that his Muslim parents are supporting for the marriage, however you still have to work to convince your Brahmin parents who have doubts.
We see that you are desperate, please cool down and make a rational decision. Like you, probably at one time Leona, Hinu, Roma, Diva, Ron, Dee and Madiha’s mom were also desperate for their loved one and now they regret it for their life. You may be hoping that your bf is life Salman, SRK and Seema, but find out if that is really true.
Below, suma made an excellent point, one day that will come. If you are smart, you will find it out in next 6 months. If you are foolable, you will find it out after 6 years of romantic time.
Do not go against your parents or think of running away from home, one day you will need your parents! Instead, convince your parents that he and his parents are not what they think, i.e. love jihadis.
First ask your boy friend and his parents these ten questions below. Write down their answers in their presence. Later, you and your boy friend sign this Q&A paper and present it to your parents.
Q1) How will you get married? Hindu wedding? Islamic Nikaah? Court only marriage? All three?
Q2) Do you or you do not have to have a religious conversion to Islam by Shahadah?
Q3) Do you have to accept a new Muslim first name?
Q4) Are you allowed to bring a few Hindu Gods/Murtis in their Muslim home and will be allowed to have a daily bhajan/pooja? (and also have a photo of the Kaaba in your altar).
Q5) Are the Muslim bf and his parents planning to join you to your Hindu temple and be a part of Satyanarayan Katha while at your parents home (and you reciprocate by attending a Mosque)?
Q6) Do you have to eat meat during Muslim festivals like Bakra-id?
Q7) Can your first child have a Hindu name like Arjun (and the second child could have a name like Muhammad)?
Q8) Do your male children have to have a sunat circumcision?
Q9) Can you teach your child from Geeta as well from Koran? Will your (future) husband also do the same to educate kids?
Q10) What will you teach your children…… Who is the God(s)? ….. Who are Krishna-Radha, Allah, Rama and Laxmi?
It is important for you (a Brahmin) and him (a Muslim) to make an “informed” decision. Do not assume anything; instead find facts now. It will be good for BOTH of you to know what you are getting into.
The main reason for any divorce is a complain that the other party “changed” after the marriage. Actually no one changes, but in love, one fails to recognize the other person. You are smart and we know your will make fully “informed” decision. We wish you have a happy and long lasting Brahmin-Muslim married life with EQUALITY. -Admin
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radha says: August 12, 2013 at 1:15 pm
Yet we are not married but still together….. see what our destiny decides…..-Radha
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Thanks for everyone’s support. I got married and i am leading a happy life.
Note this is a fake post, read below..
This is a fake post. The same person wrote with these names earlier on this site. If this continue, we will ban you from this site.
Every Soul Shall die
Educated
Eye Opener
Honest
Chaii Pakoda Party
and now Radha
Exactly bro.that’s what i wanted to prove here.here people are giving fake muslim names and taking rubbish about islam.they are from bajrng dall or rss.
Dear admin
why don’t you take action on people who are giving wrong information and wrong reference about islam?
Or you are also in support of them ?
Please let us know ?????
Now use only one name otherwise we will ban you from this site.
This also proves that we are monitoring and catching cheaters like you.
Tell us why you said “Radha says: May 10, 2018 at 9:14 am Thanks for everyone’s support. I got married and i am leading a happy life.” Who taught you to lie in life? Is that Islamic Taqqiya and trying to make Islam look good? Shame on you!
I got fed up by seeing so much hatred for muslim here.here people are not supporting the girls for their love instead they are giving wrong information about moslem men and trying to convince them that moslem are bad.i have many muslim friends who married non muslim girls and they are living happy life..
Dear Kabir,
Thanks for sharing your views. Can you tell us if those non-Muslims converted to marry that Muslim?
Hi Admin,
Would you please do let us know whether Radha married to her mulsim man or not?
THOSE HINDU GIRL WHO MARRIED A MUSLIM ARE FAR WORST THEN BITCH. THEY ARE PROSTITUTE….. SHAMELESS
Is that what your mother taught u . Cant u accept ppl for who they are . Have u ever went to a mosque or a chruch or a temple with this thinking that u r going for peace .. Never … ppl like u are shame on human race
http://tarekfatah.com/this-is-female-genital-mutilation-fgm/
This is barbaric. Too sad!
Admin,What about this
http://www.huffingtonpost.in/2015/10/20/dalit-children-haryana_n_8335826.html
Sad.
This class system is bad, including that you are trying to create that … Muslims are upper class, Jews and Christians are second class and Hindus are third class citizens. We ALL are God’s children! Your ideology is equally sad.
Again, admin is targeting me, i didn`t create any class, it is humans who create class, don`t blame me for their class, i didn`t coin the term hindu, FI has repeatedly said that according to Hinduism islam is satanic, kumar repeatedly without any provocation from us abused and degraded islam and muslim as people, gang of chand osmani,kartar,etc has gone beyond human extent to disown Muslims and you are here to target me, what a double standard dear admin, also you being admin, only defend Hinduism and ask questions on islam and Christianity. but you never defend islam or Christianity and you never questioned hinduism, so tell me are you a admin or a hindu or both
Guys you people are just fighting on the basis of religion Hindu is saying my religion is the best. Muslim is saying my religion is the best .Christian is saying my religion is the best and just criticizing each other forget every thing just believe in humanity. The only problem In holy Quran is its says just believe in my religion ie muslim and peolpe follow it with a fear of going to hell. A Muslim guy is allowed to marry a non Muslim but a Muslim girl is killed if she thinks about marrying a non Muslim guy. why ? This is just about population.if a girl marries a non Muslim the children may not follow Islam and this will reduce the population a guy is allowed to marry 4 times. Why ? Just because he is the who is solely responsible for taking the anything may it b the culture or religion to next generation.This shows its all about population. Open ur eyes guys and stop being folish. Believe in humanity.love u all
If you stil dont know that,
“why you are a Muslim? A Hindu? A Christian? Or A Jew? Etc etc etc..
Then its *time* to ask yourself, who you are and why you are, whatever you are!
We fight for freedom, we love freedom, we want Freedom, yet becomes blind followers in the matter of religion! Why??? Not fair, no?
Shri Shri Ravi Shankar says- “Changing Religion is No Solution!!”
I say- Untill that Religion provide *Solutions* to all the problems! smile emoticon
*Changing Religion is No solution, but if a particular Religion provide Solution to all the problems then you need to Ponder upon it* Isnt it?
And Islam, not just provide solution, It also teaches an Ideal way to live a perfect life, yet people question it, without knowing it! *sad*
#Time To Wake Up, ting ting ting..!
Guys you people are just fighting on the basis of religion Hindu is saying my religion is the best. Muslim is saying my religion is the best .Christian is saying my religion is the best and just criticizing each other forget every thing just believe in humanity. The only problem In holy Quran is its says just believe in my religion ie muslim and peolpe follow it with a fear of going to hell. A Muslim guy is allowed to marry a non Muslim but a Muslim girl is killed if she thinks about marrying a non Muslim guy. why ? This is just about population.if a girl marries a non Muslim the children may not follow Islam and this will reduce the population a guy is allowed to marry 4 times. Why ? Just because he is the who is solely responsible for taking the anything may it b the culture or religion to next generation.This shows its all about population. Open ur eyes guys and stop being folish. Believe in humanity
neither a muslim girl nor a muslim boy is allowed to marry a non-muslim, they are only allowed to marry if non-muslim partner wither male or female convert to islam. Read this verse from Quran, it doesn`t say what you wrote above, it includes both men and women.
And do not marry polytheistic(non-muslim) women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.-Quran chapter 2 verse 221.
I’m a brahmin girl in love with a mia muslim.he never talks about conversion or anythng.first of ol v started s a random dating.none f us wer serious.bt nw s days r passing evrythng seems to b getting serious.i nvr knew untill one day dat he’s so serious abt hs religion.i am proud to b a hindu nd wd nvr want to cnvrt my religion.i think i shd brk up wd him cz he’s becoming serious abt our rrelationshp ..nd wants to marry me..i cnt imagine myslf in s burkha.i am a fun lving grl nd hv drms gf my future.i lv my parents.hlp me .i want a brk up after reading dis website.(i nvr knew hw islamism is b4 goin thru this page)..i wer hpy being singl nw.hlp i nid a brkup wdout brking hearts..or d least
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the world is changed people become different and not bonded in customs and values the interactions now rapidly getting closer to closer every one aware what is what but still in india people are still conservative adn orthodox
coming to faith and love, love in other words speaks peace a symbol of peace so everyone likes love and peace. faith is different nobody force to change your faith and should not pressure to change the faith or convert itz stupidity lets everyone enjoy freedom of religion but for example a both lovers have different religion but they have understanding and love and care why not they start life together and nowadays it becomes common becuase of education and civilization in socieities so it is advisable to respect each other religion and live a happy married life without fear and chaos. a common understanding is the best way to bring closeer people different faith at one platform.
ss khan
Yet we are not married but still together….. see what our destiny decides…..
Radha,
It is pleasure hearing from you. It is almost 20 months since we talk. Why are you not marrying that guy? What are your concerns that is holding you? Can you list three main concerns marrying that guy?
Meantime, please join us this site to advise other girls, especially Brahmin girls like you. Should these Brahmin girls marry Muslims? Best way to learn is to teach!!
miss radha many thanks for your notification about your love with muslim guy. itz good i appreciate and pray for you both to reunion and live a happy and prosperious life.
dont be panic and go head with your marriage plan. i adivse you to keep your faith with you and he has his own and keep aside all barriers to merge as one sacred souls.
if you really deeply in love with this guy dont be afraid and i dont think that he will put pressure on you regard to conversion and all must respect everyone faith never touch this sensitive issue so the two people from different religions lead a happy and successful life without any problem
ss khan
dear Radha
I am also a brahmin and please dont do this. I am tellng you. A marriage is not a date its something u live with. Rememeber if he leaves u in brahmin culture its rare to remarry while he can have another wife gladly.
Plus even if you dont convert you will take his surname and yes your kids will be muslims as they will be living with his parents mostly.
Why cant he convert to hinduism? if he does will your parents agree?
Its freedom and love for you both? why should only you succumb dear?
More power to women.
its not about hindu or a muslim here its because he is not independant. When a man is not independant it becomes a huge issue for wife later and she and her husband both have to suffer as he is helpless and bount to his parents.
Money matters when it comes to a succesful marriage. He might be an awesome guy but you got no chance but to submit to all their wishes once they see you wont convert. They might threaten you that they will get their son married again what can you do? You love him and he loves you yet he will have no choice.
I will recommend wait till he is standing on his feet ITS A MUST FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE.
God bless.
one more thing most interfaith marriages break down. Most women get back to their parents and resume their own faith but its very hard for them not all parents and once coming to know our society is brutal to such girls. He can easily adjust where he was as neither he left his faith, parents, people, society for you but you did.
Lets say his parents are not happy with you being a hinsu and threaten another marriage for him are you financially stable to live by yourself? and what is a child is involved? will you be able to take care of both.
When all this happens remember its always a woman on the downward slide and to face the brunt be it any faith.
So he might never cheat but his circumstances can make him do things.
No guy wants to keep fighting with his parents while you will be saying bye bye to your parents forever and even his parents might never accept you whole heartedly.
Plus you will have to live with in-laws of a faith you dont know. he is a great guy what about them? have you met them? told them you wont convert? your kids will have hindu names and will learn about both faiths?
marriage is not impulsive dear its for a lifetime. Your life is precious.
I will put it this way:-
Ask your partner to convert to your religion then marry you, if you are thinking “why he should convert?”, read below:-
Muslims are not allowed to marry outside there religion, coz other religion is filthy and bad( acc. To Qur’an). So he may say he is not that religious, that does not means anything – ask him to pray with you in temple, eat the Prasad, take part in prayer arti? This will prove that he is secular thinking, but most of cases non Muslim girl is forced, not by guy, but by his family, to convert the girl to Islam, and they put condition that child WILL BE Muslim, just be very sure. If you feel his family is very lovable, loves you too much etc. See if they are following there religious, if they are religious then lady unfortunately, they WILL GET you converted after marriage. What if you refuse? Simple you are going to live them, coz your guy would go for work, you would have to dedicate a lot of time to them, you can’t live at a place where people differentiate you. Leave this game here itself.
the ultimate litmus test would be to see if the guy has sister, if he does, see if his parents feel ok to marry her to a non Muslim. What are there views on this. If you ever feel that you can’t ask this question, then how will you feel openness once married. If you can’t get this answer from them, its better to leave him now, all the guy was doing was- he loves you because of what you are. But you will convert- this is what his family wants, guys will not be able to parents unhappy.
next is freedom- ensure you do not feel different when go to his home, do not pretend to be different when , respect is fine, but does not mean you change for few minutes.
experience says that Muslims are double standard in marriage related issues. You know what Muslims do, don’t think your guy would be different, see his and his parents view on topic of Muslims terrorism etc. The had truth about Muslims in current world is – either you are secular or a Muslim. There is nothing called moderate Muslim or secular Muslim.
ask any questions you may have, I just don’t want you to see a soulless person after marriage. Give a long thought on this, search internets for opposite scenario, Hindu guy and Muslim girl, that’s when you see clear picture of Muslims.
you are saying right ! great job
i think so you should not marry a muslim guy. Look after your parents and i have seen many muslim guys they are cheaters. You will not get respect in their family. Most important don’t change your religion you can marry him in a court by special marriages act if you want to marry him.
Suhail is spreading FALSE information about Hinduism. You don’t know anything about Hinduism and Islam.
In Islam women are treated like shit, covered in burka, while men are allowed to marry 4 times women are allowed to marry only once. As far as inheritance rights and maintenance after divorce is concerned one only has to read about shah bano case to know how badly women are treated in Islam,
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shah_Bano_case
As Hinduism is concerned women are given equal status as men, equal rights to education and inheritance, sati and and white sari for widow is a thing of medieval history.
For Radha I only have this to say, if you are not already married to that Muslim guy, please think twice. I know of a case where a Brahmin girl in my neighbourhood ran away with a muslim boy. That boy was all too liberal and secular in the beginning, but reality dawned upon her soon. She was forced to convert to Islam, underwent 5 pregnancies in 4 years with 3 abortion. She filed rape charges against her father-in-law after which her husbands family disowned her. Her husband divorced her and married to another girl.
She is now living at her parents house.
This is the reality of love jihad. They only marry non muslim girls to increase their population.
this is the truth of love jihad
http://www.mid-day.com/news/2009/oct/301009-Islamic-body-Love-Jihad-Hindu-Christian.htm
Suhail you are spreading FALSE information about Hinduism. You don’t know anything about Hinduism and Islam.
In Islam women are treated like shit, covered in burka, while men are allowed to marry 4 times women are allowed to marry only once. As far as inheritance rights and maintenance after divorce is concerned one only has to read about shah bano case to know how badly women are treated in Islam,
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shah_Bano_case
As Hinduism is concerned women are given equal status as men, equal rights to education and inheritance, sati and and white sari for widow is a thing of medieval history.
For Radha I only have this to say, if you are not already married to that Muslim guy, please think twice. I know of a case where a Brahmin girl in my neighbourhood ran away with a muslim boy. That boy was all too liberal and secular in the beginning, but reality dawned upon her soon. She was forced to convert to Islam, underwent 5 pregnancies in 4 years with 3 abortion. She filed rape charges against her father-in-law after which her husbands family disowned her. Her husband divorced her and married to another girl.
She is now living at her parents house.
This is the reality of love jihad. They only marry non muslim girls to increase their population.
this is the truth of love jihad
http://www.mid-day.com/news/2009/oct/301009-Islamic-body-Love-Jihad-Hindu-Christian.htm
Position of woman in hinduism
hinduism really oppressed women, such as:
* If a woman was widowed, she would always have to wear a white sari (costume), eat vegetarian meals, cut her hair short, and never re-marry. The bride always had to pay the dowry (bridal money) to the husband’s family. And the husband could ask for anything, irrespective of whether the bridewould have difficulty giving it.
* Not only that, if after marriage she was not able to pay the full dowry she would be both emotionally and physically tortured, and could end up being a victim of “kitchen death” wherethe husband, or both the mother-in-law and the husband try to setfire to the wife while she is cooking or is in the kitchen, and try to make it look like an accidental death. More and more of these instances are taking place. The daughter of a friend ofmy own father’s had the same fate last year!
* In addition to all this, men in Hinduism are treated literally as among the gods. In one of the religious Hindu celebrations, unmarried girls pray for and worship an idol representing a particular god (Shira) so that they may have husbands like him. Even my own mother had asked me to do this. This made me see that the Hindu religion which is based on superstitions and things that have no manifestproof , but were merely traditions which oppressed women could not be right
You are wrong from start to end about Hinduism, if you want to know Hinduism go here – http://www.himalayanacademy.com/
if you want to revert back to the real religion of peace. Visit any arya samaj temple and accept the truth, leave your violent and evil religion back. Your religion is the cause of terrorism in the world, terrorists are just symptoms, the root cause of terrorism is Islam.
Have you even read our book. Dumbass. Have you heard of this Abhinav Bharat, Ajmer Dargah attack, and Saffron terror. These are extremist group in India. Even there are Christian and Judaism extremeist. See there are extremist in every fing religion.
Mr. suhail you are apsolutely making mistake by raising criticizm against a religion. Islam never allows to speak anything wrong against other faiths.
pls mend youself and never sepak against other religion itz very bad that you are insulting the faith of other people.
we live in india and we are all like brothers and sisters for example, ur friend may be a hindu and u have good relation with him like brothers do you criticize and insult his religion oh my god itz a big sin ur committing pls i suggest you to stop insulting other religion and if you are true muslim never say again.
sskhan
Very influensive response SS khan……people like u will take our nation far and high…….
SS Khan,
Agree to you, lets work to remove this religion bashing here and other places. All religions have one or other things to throw dirt at and all have beauty into it.
This web site is created to promote pluralism/religious tolerance and help youths achieve InterfaithMarriageWithEquality. Please plan to visit us often.
no sir we are not criticizing islam but islam clearly states a marriage with non muslim is haraam. why dont you be honest about your own faith? plus why muslim girls are not allowed interfaith? why this hypocrisy?
Rights of hindu woman vs islam
1. The Hindu Woman has no right to divorce her husband.
2. She has no property or inheritance rights.
3. Choice of partner is limited because she can only marry within her own caste; moreover her horoscope must match that of the intending bridegroom/family.
4. The family of the girl has to offer an enormous dowry to the bridegroom/family.
5. If her husband dies she shouldcommit Sati (being cremated with her dead husband). Since today’s law forbids Sati, society mainly punishes her in other”holy” ways (see below).
6. She cannot remarry.
7. The widow is considered to bea curse and must not be seen in public. She cannot wear jewelry or colourful clothes. (She should not even take part in her children’s marriage!)
8. Child and infant marriage is encouraged.
The Muslim Woman:
1.The Muslim woman has the same right as the Muslim man in all matters including divorce.
2. She enjoys property and inheritance rights. (Which other religion grants women these rights?). She can also conduct her own separate business.
3. She can marry any Muslim of her choice. If her parents choose a partner for her, her consent must be taken.
4. The dowry in Islam is a gift from a husband to his wife (not the other way around as is practiced by some ignorant Muslims).
5. A Muslim widow is encouraged to remarry, and her remarriage is the responsibility of the Muslim society.
6.Mixed marriage is encouraged and is a means to prevent racism creeping in society.
7. A Muslim mother is given the highest form of respect.
What right do the Hindus have to criticize the Muslims? Have youever heard of a Muslim burning his wife? In parts of India women die daily of dowry deaths – Hindu women being burnt by the husband or in-laws. The Brahmins are trying to claim that Muslims do not give freedom to their women. I ask you again. “Do the Hindus respecttheir women?
Suhail you are spreading FALSE information about Hinduism. You don’t know anything about Hinduism and Islam.
In Islam women are treated like shit, covered in burka, while men are allowed to marry 4 times women are allowed to marry only once. As far as inheritance rights and maintenance after divorce is concerned one only has to read about shah bano case to know how badly women are treated in Islam,
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shah_Bano_case
As Hinduism is concerned women are given equal status as men, equal rights to education and inheritance, sari and and white sari for widow is a thing of medieval history.
For Radha I only have this to say, if you are not already married to that Muslim guy, please think twice. I know of a case where a Brahmin girl in my neighbourhood ran away with a muslim boy. That boy was all too liberal and secular in the beginning, but reality dawned upon her soon. She was forced to convert to Islam, underwent 5 pregnancies in 4 years with 3 abortion. She filed rape charges against her father-in-law after which her husbands family disowned her. Her husband divorced her and married to another girl.
She is now living at her parents house.
This is the reality of love jihad. They only marry non muslim girls to increase their population.
this is the truth of love jihad
http://www.mid-day.com/news/2009/oct/301009-Islamic-body-Love-Jihad-Hindu-Christian.htm
*sari and white sari, it’s sati and white sari.
MISCONCEPTION #1: Muslims are violent, terrorists and/or extremists.
This is the biggest misconceptionin Islam, no doubt resulting from the constant stereotyping and bashing the media gives Islam. When a gunman attacks a mosque in the name of Judaism, a Catholic guerrilla sets off a bomb in an urban area, or SerbianOrthodox militiamen rape and kill innocent Muslim civilians, these acts are not used to stereotype an entire faith. Never are these acts attributed to the religion of the perpetrators. Yet how many times have we heard the words ‘Islamic, Muslim fundamentalist. etc.’ linked with violence.
Politics in so called “Muslim countries” may or may not have any Islamic basis. Often dictatorsand politicians will use the name of Islam for their own purposes. One should remember to go to the source of Islam and separate what the true religion of Islam says from what is portrayed in the media. Islam literally means ‘submission to God’ and is derived from a root word meaning ‘peace’.
Islam may seem exotic or even extreme in the modern world. Perhaps this is because religion doesn’t dominate everyday life in the West, whereas Islam is considered a ‘way of life’ for Muslims and they make no division between secular and sacred in their lives. Like Christianity, Islam permits fighting in self-defense, in defense of religion, or on the part of those who have been expelled forcibly from their homes. It lays down strict rules of combat which include prohibitions against harming civilians and against destroying crops, trees and livestock.
NOWHERE DOES ISLAM ENJOIN THE KILLING OF INNOCENTS..
The Quran says: “Fight in the cause of God against those who fight you, but do not transgress limits. God does not love transgressors.” (Quran 2:190) “If they seek peace, then seek you peace. And trust in God for He is the One that heareth and knoweth all things.” (Quran 8:61) War, therefore, is the last resort, and is subject to the rigorous conditions laid down by the sacred law. The term ‘jihad’ literally means ‘struggle’. Muslimsbelieve that there are two kinds of jihad. The other ‘jihad’ is the inner struggle of the soul which everyone wages against egotistic desires for the sake of attaining inner peace.
MISCONCEPTION #2: Islam oppresses women.
The image of the typical Muslim woman wearing the veil and forced to stay home and forbidden to drive is all too common in most peoples thoughts. Although some Muslim countries may have laws that oppress women, this should not be seen as coming from Islam. Many of these countries do not rule by any kind of Shari’ah (Islamic law) and introduce their own cultural standpoints on the issue of gender equity.
Islam on the other hand gives men and women different roles and equity between the two is laid down in the Quran and the example of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Islam sees a woman, whether single or married, as an individual in her own right, with the right to own and dispose of her property and earnings. A marriage gift is given by the groom to the bride for her own personal use, and she keeps her own family name rather than taking her husband’s.Both men and women are expected to dress in a way that is modest and dignified. The Messenger of God (peace be upon him) said: “The most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best in manner and kindest to his wife.”
Violence of any kind towards women and forcing them againsttheir will for anything is not allowed. A Muslim marriage is a simple, legal agreement in which either partner is free to include conditions. Marriage customs thus vary widely from country to country. Divorce is not common, although it is acceptable as a last resort. According to Islam, a Muslim girl cannot be forced to marry against her will: her parents simply suggest young men they think may be suitable.
MISCONCEPTION #3: Muslims worship a different God.
Allah is simply the Arabic word for God. Allah for Muslims is the greatest and most inclusive of the Names of God, it is an Arabic word of rich meaning, denoting the one and only God and ascribing no partners to Him. It is exactly the same word which theJews, in Hebrew, use for God (eloh), the word which Jesus Christ used in Aramaic when he prayed to God. God has an identical name in Judaism, Christianity, and Islam; Allah is the same God worshiped by Muslims, Christians and Jews. Muslims believe that Allah’s sovereignty is to be acknowledged in worship and in the pledge to obey His teaching and commandments, conveyed through His messengers and prophets who were sent at various times and in many places throughout history. However, it should be noted that God in Islamis One and Only. He, the Exalted, does not get tired, does not havea son ie Jesus or have associates, nor does He have human-like attributions as found in other faiths
MISCONCEPTION #1: Muslims are violent, terrorists and/or extremists.
This is the biggest misconceptionin Islam, no doubt resulting from the constant stereotyping and bashing the media gives Islam. When a gunman attacks a mosque in the name of Judaism, a Catholic guerrilla sets off a bomb in an urban area, or SerbianOrthodox militiamen rape and kill innocent Muslim civilians, these acts are not used to stereotype an entire faith. Never are these acts attributed to the religion of the perpetrators. Yet how many times have we heard the words ‘Islamic, Muslim fundamentalist. etc.’ linked with violence.
Politics in so called “Muslim countries” may or may not have any Islamic basis. Often dictatorsand politicians will use the name of Islam for their own purposes. One should remember to go to the source of Islam and separate what the true religion of Islam says from what is portrayed in the media. Islam literally means ‘submission to God’ and is derived from a root word meaning ‘peace’.
Islam may seem exotic or even extreme in the modern world. Perhaps this is because religion doesn’t dominate everyday life in the West, whereas Islam is considered a ‘way of life’ for Muslims and they make no division between secular and sacred in their lives. Like Christianity, Islam permits fighting in self-defense, in defense of religion, or on the part of those who have been expelled forcibly from their homes. It lays down strict rules of combat which include prohibitions against harming civilians and against destroying crops, trees and livestock.
NOWHERE DOES ISLAM ENJOIN THE KILLING OF INNOCENTS..
The Quran says: “Fight in the cause of God against those who fight you, but do not transgress limits. God does not love transgressors.” (Quran 2:190) “If they seek peace, then seek you peace. And trust in God for He is the One that heareth and knoweth all things.” (Quran 8:61) War, therefore, is the last resort, and is subject to the rigorous conditions laid down by the sacred law. The term ‘jihad’ literally means ‘struggle’. Muslimsbelieve that there are two kinds of jihad. The other ‘jihad’ is the inner struggle of the soul which everyone wages against egotistic desires for the sake of attaining inner peace.
MISCONCEPTION #2: Islam oppresses women.
The image of the typical Muslim woman wearing the veil and forced to stay home and forbidden to drive is all too common in most peoples thoughts. Although some Muslim countries may have laws that oppress women, this should not be seen as coming from Islam. Many of these countries do not rule by any kind of Shari’ah (Islamic law) and introduce their own cultural standpoints on the issue of gender equity.
Islam on the other hand gives men and women different roles and equity between the two is laid down in the Quran and the example of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Islam sees a woman, whether single or married, as an individual in her own right, with the right to own and dispose of her property and earnings. A marriage gift is given by the groom to the bride for her own personal use, and she keeps her own family name rather than taking her husband’s.Both men and women are expected to dress in a way that is modest and dignified. The Messenger of God (peace be upon him) said: “The most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best in manner and kindest to his wife.”
Violence of any kind towards women and forcing them againsttheir will for anything is not allowed. A Muslim marriage is a simple, legal agreement in which either partner is free to include conditions. Marriage customs thus vary widely from country to country. Divorce is not common, although it is acceptable as a last resort. According to Islam, a Muslim girl cannot be forced to marry against her will: her parents simply suggest young men they think may be suitable.
MISCONCEPTION #3: Muslims worship a different God.
Allah is simply the Arabic word for God. Allah for Muslims is the greatest and most inclusive of the Names of God, it is an Arabic word of rich meaning, denoting the one and only God and ascribing no partners to Him. It is exactly the same word which theJews, in Hebrew, use for God (eloh), the word which Jesus Christ used in Aramaic when he prayed to God. God has an identical name in Judaism, Christianity, and Islam; Allah is the same God worshiped by Muslims, Christians and Jews. Muslims believe that Allah’s sovereignty is to be acknowledged in worship and in the pledge to obey His teaching and commandments, conveyed through His messengers and prophets who were sent at various times and in many places throughout history. However, it should be noted that God in Islamis One and Only. He, the Exalted, does not get tired, does not havea son ie Jesus or have associates, nor does He have human-like attributions as found in other faiths
The Quran says: God forbids you not, with regards to those who fight you not for [your] faith nordrive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them; for God loveth those who are just. (Quran, {60.8::qs60.8})
It is one function of Islamic law to protect the privileged status of minorities, and this is why non-Muslim places of worship have flourished all over the Islamic world. History provides many examples of Muslim tolerance towards other faiths: when the caliph Omar entered Jerusalem in the year 634, Islam granted freedom of worship to all religious communities in the city. Islamic law also permits non-Muslim minorities to set up their own courts, which implement family laws drawn up by the minorities themselves. When the caliph Omar took Jerusalem from the Byzantines, he insisted on entering the city with only a small number of his companions. Proclaiming to the inhabitants that their lives and property were safe, and that their places of worship would never be taken from them, he asked the Christian patriarch Sophronius to accompany him ona visit to all the holy places. The Patriarch invited him to pray in the Church of the Holy Sepulchre, but he preferred to pray outside its gates, saying that if he accepted, later generations of Muslims might use his action as an excuse to turn it into a mosque. Above is the mosque built on the spot where Omar didpray. According to Islam, man is not born in ‘original sin’. He is God’s vicegerent on earth. Every child is born with the fitra, an innate disposition towards virtue, knowledge, and beauty. Islam considers itself to be the ‘primordial religion’, din al-hanif, it seeks to return man to his original, true nature in which he is in harmony with creation, inspired to do good, and confirming the Oneness of God.What does Islam say about war?
Like Christianity, Islam permits fighting in self-defense, in defense of religion, or on the part of those who have been expelled forcibly from their homes. It lays down strict rules of combat which include prohibitions against harming civilians and against destroying crops, trees and livestock. As Muslims see it, injustice would be triumphant in the world if good men were not prepared to risk their lives in a righteous cause. The Quran says:
‘Fight in the cause of God againstthose who fight you, but do not transgress limits. God does not love transgressors.’ ({2.190::qs2.190})
‘If they seek peace, then seek you peace. And trust in God for He is the One that heareth and knoweth all things.’ ({8.61::qs8.61})
War, therefore, is the last resort, and is subject to the rigorous conditions laid down by the sacred law. The term jihad literally means ‘struggle’, and Muslims believe that there are two kinds of jihad. The other jihad is the inner struggle which everyone wages against egotistic desires, for the sake of attaining inner peace.
For further information you can vist http://www.usislam.org
First you should understand that we muslims do not worship kaaba but it is a only direction of worship to attain unity and displine. If it was allowed to worship in any direction then it may have lead disunity among muslims.secound thing is that those who vist durgahs or any other are not muslims and will go to hell fire.if someone kept idols in his will get hell fire.
Now look hinduism againest idol worship.
belive your religion is epic or corrupted religion.
now convert to islam the religion of truth
Bhagavat Gita 7-22 : Endowed with such a faith, he endeavors to worship a particular demigod and obtains his desires. But in actuality these benefits are bestowed by Me alone.
Purport: The demigods cannot award benedictions to their devotees without the permissionof the Supreme Lord. The less intelligent living entity does not know this, and therefore he foolishly goes to the demigods for some benefit. But the pure devotee, when in need of something, pray only to the Supreme Lord. A living entity goes to the demigods usually because he is mad to fulfill his lust [for material things]. Devotional service to the Supreme Lord and the worship ofa demigod cannot be on the same platform, because worship of a demigod is material and devotional service to the Supreme Lord is completely spiritual.
Bhagavat Gita 7-23 : Men of small intelligence worship the demigods, and their fruits are limited and temporary. Those who worship the demigods go tothe planets of the demigods, but My devotees ultimately reach My supreme planet.
Purport: Some commentators on the BG say that one who worships a demigod can reach the Supreme Lord, but here it is clearly stated that the worshipers of demigods go to the different planetary systems where various demigods are situated, just as a worshiper of the sun achieves the sun or a worshiper of the demigod of themoon achieves the moon. It is not that everyone, regardless of whatever demigod is worshipped, will reach the Supreme Personality of Godhead. That is denied here, for it is clearly stated that the worshipers of demigods go to different planets in the material world but the devotee of the Supreme Lord goes directly to thesupreme planet of the Personality of Godhead.
Bhagavat Gita 7-24: “The ignorant believe that un-manifest Para Brahma (One God) incarnates or takes manifestations, because they do not completely understand My highest, immutable, incomparable, and transcendentalexistence.”
Bhagavat Gita 7:19-21: “All those who do idol worship, All those who worship demigods are materialistic people.”
Yajur Veda 3:32: “…Of that God you cannot make any images.”
Yajur Veda 32:3: “God is formless and bodiless”
Yajur Veda 40:8: “All those whoworship the uncreated things, they are in darkness, and you’ll enter more into darkness if you worship the created things.”
Rig Veda, Vol.8,1:1: “All Praise are to Him alone”
Rig Veda, Vol.6,45:16: “There isonly One God, worship Him.”
Suhail,
Thank you for enlightening information. Very impressive. Please come to guide others, especially to Muslim sisters.
Hinduism is a religion of freedom of worship, one could worship the God however one desires and with what ever name. There are very few restrictions (compared to Abrahamic faiths) and less stress on sin.
We agree that Allah (or call him LORD God, Father God or Isvara) is the only God and should be worship. Explain us what Muhammad has to do with someone’s desire to reach to the God?
Two most idolized human humanbeings in total human history are Jesus and Mohammad, why? Why Muslims idol-worship to Kaaba and Muhammad and Christians to that two pieces of wood and Jesus?
Stop idol-worshipping to Mohammad and Kaaba and we will convert (Shahadah without Muhammad name in it) to Islam today!
Continue
If Rama loved Sita so much and Sita is held as an ideal Hindu wife,can Hindu women tolerate their husbands leaving them in forest for the years? Rama left Sita in forest after se became pregnant and she delivered er two kids in forest. (DR. B. R. Ambedkar : Riddles in Hinduism Maharashtra Govt. Publication, 1987).
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WHAT LEADERS SAY ABOUT GOD RAMA?
*. “My Rama (god Rama) is not the Rama of Ramayana”. Mahatma Gandhi
*. “The Ramayana and Mahabaratha are nothing but another Arabian Nights Story” Jawaharlal Nehru
*. “Rama is not a god; but he is a hero” Rajagopalachari, First Governor-General of India and agreat Brahmin leader.
*. “Ramayan is not a divine story; it is only a literature” (Kaliyuga Kamban, T.K. Chidambaranatha Mudaliar). Babri Masjid was demolished by Rama Bhatkas claiming that it was his birth place.
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LORD KRISHNA
Lord krishna was very fond of looking at naked young girls. Once upon a time Krishna, in order to get a full view of some bathing virgin girls, went to the extent of hiding their clothes on the tree top just to get a panoramic view. Does he have divine immunity from looking at naked women?
The Gita, a Holy book of the Hindus, quotes that when these bathing low caste girls begged for the return of their clothes, Lord Krishna demanded that theycome out of the water with theirhands raised instead of covering their bodies.
Oh my innocent Hindu brethren! Can this action be attributed to god? Is this God capable of indulging in such ungodly acts? Will Hindu mothers tolerate their son imitating god Krishna??
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THE RIDDLE OF RAMA AND KRISHNA
The “Times of India” reported on 12-11-87 that the Education Department, Government of Maharashtra, had published a book called “The Riddles of Hinduism” by Dr. Ambedkar.
The report said that various statements contained in the bookaroused the ire of some Brahmins, particularly the author’s observation on Rama & Dasharth’s many wives and also Krishna’s moral character. (The Riddles of Rama and Krishna is available from Dalit Saithya Academy, Bangalore-3).
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GOD SHIVA, LORD GANESH & GODDESS PARVATHI
According to Hinduism, god Shiva’s head is the source of the river Ganges and his head is also the place where the moon is located (if this was really a fact then why should America send astronaut Neil Armstrong 240,000 miles away to the moon)
According to Puranas, goddess Parvathi, wife of God Shiva, sought Shivas’s permission to have a baby When Shiva refused,Paravathi took dirt from her body and created Lord Ganesh
Views about islam from great hindus
Mr. Mahatma Gandhi:
“Someone has said that Europeans in South Africa dread the advent Islam — Islam that civilized Spain, Islam that took the torch light to Morocco and preached to the world the Gospelof brotherhood. The Europeans of South Africa dread the Adventof Islam. They may claim equality with the white races. They may well dread it, if brotherhood is a sin. If it is equality of colored races then their dread is well founded.”
And in “Young India”, he wrote:
“I wanted to know the best of one who holds today’s undisputed sway over the heartsof millions of mankind….I became more than convinced that it was not the sword that won a place for Islam in those days in the scheme of life. It was the rigid simplicity, the utter self-effacement of the Prophet, the scrupulous regard for his pledges, his intense devotion to this friends and followers, his intrepidity, his fearlessness, his absolute trust in God and in his own mission. These and not the sword carried everything before them and surmounted every obstacle. When I closed the 2nd volume (of the Prophet’s biography), I was sorry there was not more for me to read of the great life.”
Miss. Sarojini Naidu, Poetess, in Ideals of Islam:
“It was the first religion that preached and practiced democracy; for in the mosque, when the minaret is sounded andthe worshipers are gathered together, the democracy of Islamis embodied five times a day when the peasant and the king kneel side by side and proclaim, God alone is great.” The great poetess of India continues, “I have been struck over and over again by this indivisible unity of Islam that makes a man instinctively a brother. When youmeet an Egyptian, an Algerian and Indian and a Turk in London, it matters not that Egypt is the motherland of one and India is the motherland of another.”
Prof. Ramakrishna Rao, in”Muhammad the Prophet of Islam”:
“The personality of Muhammad, itis most difficult to get into the whole truth of it. Only a glimpse of it I can catch. What a dramatic succession of picturesque scenes! There is Muhammad, the Prophet. There is Muhammad, the Warrior; Muhammad, the Businessman; Muhammad, the Statesman; Muhammad, the Orator; Muhammad, the Reformer; Muhammad, the Refuge of Orphans; Muhammad, the Prot ector of Slaves; Muhammad, the Emancipator of Women; Muhammad, the Judge; Muhammad, the Saint. All in all these magnificent roles, in all these departments of human activities, he is alike a hero.” … Muhammad is the “Perfect model for human life.”
Suhail,
Again, very superb quotes. Thanks for sharing.
Mr. Mahatma Gandhi, Miss. Sarojini Naidu and Prof. Ramakrishna Rao are great icons. One difference between them and you is….. they do not mind saying great things about others. However, are you and your Muslim brothers willing to say that these great personalities will go to heaven on the Judgment Day?
How can Gandhi, who worshipped Lord Krishna (and not THE Allah as defined by Muhammad) and was never a Muslim, go to heaven? Is doing good karma good enough for Allah? If Gandhi could go to heaven without being formally a Muslim, then why any one has to convert to Islam?
Please let us know if these three will get HELL FIRE or Allah will take them to heaven on the Judgment Day?
Views about islam from great hindus
Mr. Mahatma Gandhi:
“Someone has said that Europeans in South Africa dread the advent Islam — Islam that civilized Spain, Islam that took the torch light to Morocco and preached to the world the Gospelof brotherhood. The Europeans of South Africa dread the Adventof Islam. They may claim equality with the white races. They may well dread it, if brotherhood is a sin. If it is equality of colored races then their dread is well founded.”
And in “Young India”, he wrote:
“I wanted to know the best of one who holds today’s undisputed sway over the heartsof millions of mankind….I became more than convinced that it was not the sword that won a place for Islam in those days in the scheme of life. It was the rigid simplicity, the utter self-effacement of the Prophet, the scrupulous regard for his pledges, his intense devotion to this friends and followers, his intrepidity, his fearlessness, his absolute trust in God and in his own mission. These and not the sword carried everything before them and surmounted every obstacle. When I closed the 2nd volume (of the Prophet’s biography), I was sorry there was not more for me to read of the great life.”
Miss. Sarojini Naidu, Poetess, in Ideals of Islam:
“It was the first religion that preached and practiced democracy; for in the mosque, when the minaret is sounded andthe worshipers are gathered together, the democracy of Islamis embodied five times a day when the peasant and the king kneel side by side and proclaim, God alone is great.” The great poetess of India continues, “I have been struck over and over again by this indivisible unity of Islam that makes a man instinctively a brother. When youmeet an Egyptian, an Algerian and Indian and a Turk in London, it matters not that Egypt is the motherland of one and India is the motherland of another.”
Prof. Ramakrishna Rao, in”Muhammad the Prophet of Islam”:
“The personality of Muhammad, itis most difficult to get into the whole truth of it. Only a glimpse of it I can catch. What a dramatic succession of picturesque scenes! There is Muhammad, the Prophet. There is Muhammad, the Warrior; Muhammad, the Businessman; Muhammad, the Statesman; Muhammad, the Orator; Muhammad, the Reformer; Muhammad, the Refuge of Orphans; Muhammad, the Prot ector of Slaves; Muhammad, the Emancipator of Women; Muhammad, the Judge; Muhammad, the Saint. All in all these magnificent roles, in all these departments of human activities, he is alike a hero.” … Muhammad is the “Perfect model for human life.”
why u want to marry a muslim guy? u know they will be so conservative still if u want than go to hell! actually u born as a muslim. that’s what u want to marry a muslim guy. and if u r a bengali hindu brahmin girl, it’s a shame of u!
may name is sahida khan pakistani girl may email sahida_khan@ymail.com and call number 00903432785909
dear Sahida,
Salam. Apke email aur mobile no. ki zarurat nahi hai. Apka rai kafi hai.
arun tu ak kaam kar pahele muslim ban ja fir shaadi kar lena uske ghar walon ko bhi taklif nahi aur tere ghar walon ko bhi nahi ok .lekin ak baat batau woh ladki chal dang thik nahi hai bcoz muslim ladki kabhi bhi kisi dusre dharm ke ladko ko nahi dekhti lagta hai chalu hai sali.
gita agar aap aur hum ek ho jaye to baat ban jaye hur taraf apne dharm ka prachar karenge to kab dogi humara saath ans me kaha akar milu mai
gita hindu dharm ka prachar sahi tarike se nahi ho raha hai bcz humare paas authentic proof nah i hai apne charm ke bare me kise kya proof denge kyon ke humare paas proof nahi hai.
Dear Amar,
Hinduism neednot be proved to anyone its already proven thats the reason you can find some western communities practicing Hinduism. We differ from others totally in defining God. We are the best critics for our own community. Ask a Hindu or Muslim whether God is there or not He will tell God is definitely there. Ask a Hindu atheist he will tell you God is not there. So Hinduism and God is proven fact in India. I would rather like to touch upon Ramayana and Mahabarat which some of of the stupids said was a bundled story. Then while trying to understand the essence of the story Mahabarat started because of a Intercaste Marriage otherwise Ganaga ka putru Bhismaji Maharaj Banjathe…..The same was the case with Ramayana started because of mutiple wives….So its better to have one wife of your own community.
dear gita i want u love me & marry me pls mere bachho ki ma ban jao taki unka bhavishya uzzawal ho jaye pls gita
HI, every one…
can you please advise to my problem..
first of all i have one problem..
hey i am a Hindu boy and i am dating a girl who is muslim. i love her a lot and want to spend my whole life with her. but neither my parents nor his parents want us to marry now plz tell me what should i do ???????????????
Reply to Arun at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3166
Dear Arun,
Only the Hindu’s will foolishly give their girls to other communities. Others will not give their daughter. Even if you have had everything with her she will be married to someone of their community. Muslims and Chirstians will only absorb girls from other community they rarely give freedom to their girls. We have only changed from Pattu Pavadai, Chudi, Madisar, Saree to Jeans & T-shirts and showing the size of Boobs. They still were Burka(am not sure about the black viel spelling). So everything is covered here. I will tell you a tamil proverb take the help of some Tamil boys who know Tamil to know the meaning “oru kasuku pathu thuluka kutti kadachalum vandam pathu kasu koduthavathu oru chetty kutti katanum”.
gita yaar tum baten badi ac
hchi karti ho tumhare jaisa hi jeevan sathi mujhe chahiye tha so pls marry me gita.
Dear friends,
we suppose one high caste having a blood Group -A- in low caste people
Having same groupA.
Just understand religion and caste not yet blood.
We are all humans if u need blood for
Survive then u dont see religion or caste.
We agree but unfortunately kids are taught that Gandhiji will go to hell, while any Baptized Christian will be saved. Similarly, only Islam is a true religion, rest will get Hell Fire.
Not only Blood God has created many common things in all Human Beings but differentiates Human beings from Animals based on the characteristics. All human beings are not Human beings and Some animals are God. Why?
Hinduism is a community which doesnot believe in coverting other religions. Its a religion by birth. By birth you need to be a Naidu, a Chettiar, or a Thevar.
A muslim girl or a Chirstian girl can marry a Hindu boy but they are not converted to the respective community though people may speak to them the couple are set aside and their children are not married in the Hindus by the respective community.
Radha you can cheat your parents because some girls like you are enjoying life without knowing the background(you will suffer for sure). God has given Intelligence to women and Brilliance to Men. Other community girls will not love a Hindu boy coz they know that the boys are more attached to their religion and will not marry them. Becoz the Hindu boys are more wiser and they don’t fall into cheap pleasures. You can find many as Bachelors in the Hindu communities becoz of so many silly girls like you going behind men who show their body. Body is not permanent Brains are permanent. To satify a women body is not required becoz women cannot be satisfied. True love is more important for a woman than body. If you go for the muscles you will never be satisfied and you need to keep finding muscles only.
You can rarely see other community girls marrying a Hindu boy. Even if it happens the Hindu boy allows the girl to follow any religion which is not the case for a Hindu girl in a Muslim or Christian family.
Hindu girls are having good colour, earn well which is now required by others to enjoy…………Hindu boys are waiting for good Hindu girls and already there is derth of Hindu girls in any Hindu community since they are attracted towards alien religions. Radha you come from a minority community (Actual minority community in terms of nos.) and other religions are trying to expand their nos. by marrying others having more wives producing too many children. Our country is the biggest problem in the name of democracy it has killed the culture and heritage. Everything is jumbled but you can find the answer only if you are Brilliant Radha. God save you.. Now that you have loved him as you said that he should have left you 2 years back itself…bla..bla…bla…..I don’t want you to spoil any Hindu Boy’s life. You have commited a sin and go with it(Get lost) don’t spoil a good hindu boy’s life by coming back…………
i have same problem as radha does..im a secular hindu girl and deeply in love with a muslim boy..he also loves me truly and deeply!! we both are 18, and we have to make a long journey of study n career before our marriage..n he is also secular and can marry me without converting religion!! i dont have any doubts on him!! but the biggest problem is future we may have to encounter that our parents wont agree, i cant compromise wid my parents and boyfriend..i wanna satisfy both of them n secure our future..what am i supposed to do?
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Radha ji dekho Muslim ladkiya kabhi Hindu ladke se shadi karti hai nahi, o unki population badhana chahte hai. Proud 2 b Hindu shadi karke pachtana mat meethi meethi baatein bolna to Muslim ladko ki aadat hai.
Muslim statue puja nahi karte tuje Hindu god ki puja nahi karne denge. Shadi hone k bad sirf ghar aur burkha soch le
Radha,
i’m not writing to u as a Hndu Fundamentalist….my only concern that u consider that he came in ur life as an accident and u try to save urself…………. don’t emotionally get blackmailed…..keep into urself….. PLZ SAVE URSELF
dear radha,
i suggest u to not to go for interfaith marriage… we r hindu n we cant enjoy the festivels like bakra eid etc… go for ur religion n forget abt him.. u will find a better hindu boy in our community…
– jai shri krishna
can any1 tell me the process of court marriage… plzz make it very clear…
Court marriages can be done in 2 ways.
1. Get a marriage registration application form thats available at court filled by both the girl and boy.
After submission of the form both get a notice at their addresses and they have to respond to it in court which will issue a marriage date accordingly. You will then appear before the magistrate on the given day with 3 witnesses and get married then and there. You also get a marriage registration certificate.
2. There are times when 2 consenting adults want to get married without letting their parents know about it. In case you dont want a notice to reach your home you can directly appeal to the court for marriage.
Please visit any nearby court and meet with any available marriage counselors or lawyer about the same.
The lawyer will prepare your papers and present both the guy and the girl in front of the magistrate and get marriage orders.
This process hardly takes a day or two. You have to provide your identification proof and photographs.
PS- A lawyer will guide you the best. They charge nominal fee for it but in case they charge you a hefty amount visit another lawyer/counselor.
Excellent information. We have also posted this in https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=981
Both of you should marry, and convert to buddhism
Dear Radha,
It’s up to your decision whether marry with him or not. But believe me it is very hard to live with a religious muslim family, specially for that who live in a secular family and a humanitarian religion like Hinduism. Islam is not a humanitarian religion, you can see in quran, hadith and islamic history how muslims treat non-muslims. and all this is very very hard for a open mind women, but a man can live and fight easily. so You can marry if your BF will ready to accept Hinduism which is your religion, or you both leave religion and accept third Indian religion, like Buddhism, Jainism, Sikhhism or vaishnavism (ISKCON).
LIVE HAPPY.
Are you trying to start a debate about religion!!
Are you a Hindu… I don’t think you yourself are secular at all..
Else you wouldn’t have been portraying your prejudiced thoughts about other religion. The moment you start talking wrong about other religion you’re no longer secular.
Its not a debate of which is the better religion. Kindly refrain from such ideas..
We should try to accept each others religion specially if you want to marry someone outside your own religion.
Trust is what will keep you happy in a relationship.. Try to find out common points and respect each others religion.
@ jay,
I do not know about veer.
But, I am not secular if secularism means respecting all religions. I do not respect Islam.So, I am communal and I am proud.
At the same time, I do not care what kind of religion Hinduism is. It may be ugly or may not be. I do not care what kind of religion Christianity is. It may be bad or worse.
But what I know is Islam is not just a religion. Muslims hide fascist ideology, which Islam is, behind the name religion, so that people like you will serve as useful idiots in their cause.
Please, do not behave like you know everything and start questioning others so blindly.
They read secularism in textbooks, see about it in Bollywood movies and listen to speeches of politicians.
But why don’t they take a moment to consider if secularism can be compatible with Islam by doing something independent reading.
Why go by what ‘so and so’ said all the time? Why not read and learn themselves for one time?
and prabhu if he follow me just bcoz of sex ,then i want to clear u he shud leave me 2 years before only. he truly love me .
Dear Radha,
Muslim men dont leave women so easily. They never get satisfied and go in for more women. Till he finds an alternative to have the pleasure he will be enjoying you. You can call it love and since you may not find such shameless Hindu boys you can have fun with him till you finally marry a poor Hindu guy for money.
if his love is true,, True love doesn’t include sex,, so you can love as a brother
i love him very much but not more than my parents and he also love me but not more than his parents ,now we will marry with their agreement ,if they will not agree we will never marry to any one….this is our decision .
@ Radha,
Just read from below link; only thing is that just replace Christian girl with a Hindu girl…
And Islam treats Hinduism much worse than Christianity…
http://islamqa.info/en/cat/2021#6659
(Why is it that a catholic girl married to a muslim man CANNOT celebrate her religous festivals? even though she is married to a muslim she still remains a catholic. shouldnt she be able to worship what she belives?.)
Radha,
I heard mixed opinions from so many people before I married my Moslem husband, in the end I went with my emotions which said “as long as we 2 are happy that is enough, doesn’t matter about the difference in religion” That was 10 years ago. I can truly say that once the period of “marriage bliss” wore off, life has been sooo difficult…10 fold after the children come, I’ve realized I cannot be a true mother to them. I had to give them Islamic names, go through Islamic traditions at their birth. Now that they are older I have to observe them praying and learning the Koran, I can’t give them the experiences that I had in my childhood-certain dishes, clothing, Holi, Diwali. Birthday parties and photographs are forbidden in my home. My family don’t try to intervene, nor do they don’t want their children to start thinking it’s ok for them to have an inter-religious marriage, so they avoid us. We don’t quite fit into my husbands family so we avoid them…my husband wants our children to be strong Muslims so wants to create this atmosphere at home….so he doesn’t allow the children to play in the street where they might mix with neighborhood non-Moslem children. I feel isolated now and wish that things could be different. I hope this message gets to you in time, before you make a decision that would change your life. Remember it’s not just your lives that would be changing but the lives of your parents, siblings and extended family. My family doesn’t EVER say anything negative to me but I see it on their faces and their behavior.
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hi nirmala,
was it not told to u that u had to give ur babies muslim names? i am sort of stuck in a situation similar to yours and i am confused! because right now all i can think of is i love the guy.
please help
Stuthis,
Can you give more details about your relationship? We can help. Do not get trapped, make fully informed decision. If not, you will ruin your life. We hope to hear from you soon.
In a similar situation to you only I’m a Muslim woman married to a Hindu. Pregnant and scared that life will only become hell after the child as my husband is very rigid and hates Muslims- not sure why he married me. We used to live in the UK and he decided one fine day to move to India. I stupidly followed him here and find life very suffocating. He is a very dominating man who always has to have his way. I just want to go back home to a life that I had some control over 🙁
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I dont know who is Radha, and what happened to her. But I want to say something to her, if she is still in this Blog. Love is Nothing to do with Religion, even if U love “Laden”, You can marry him, It’s your wish. But Sigmond Fried, Father of psychologist told that A boy follows a girl (whoever it is in this world) Because of sex, when he gets it, he stops to follow the girl(wife), But after getting sex the girl starts to follow his Boy(Husband).
Love and Sex are Intra-connected in Ladies mind,[thats y they elope , or ready to marry anyone whom they loves,they always ready to do anything to get their Love) Other things are just egoistic. To fulfill there ego, lovers will come out with all types Debates instead of talking Love and sex.(Love always comes with adultery)
I am a Hindu Brahman Boy
I cant Marry Muslim, Becaz They are all under Burca,(How can I find) King Akbar was a secular Muslim(had 300 wives) Jodha was a secular Hindu, But their children and Grand children(Ex:-Aurangzeb)are Anti- Hindus. All love stories ends like this, Love is just a sweet Illusion, it can not change SOCIETY or with-in themselves, as it is 90% one sided,(have Authentic proof).
one of my Scientist Girl friend who was married Muslim always compares the two Religions, and says Hinduism and Islam Both are grate Religion [she is not a Theologist. Most of the girls who married Muslims says without studying THEOLOGY and HISTORY]. Its completely wrong. For Example Our religion gave Birth to many Religions in India. But Islam killed all Tribal Rituals and small group of people’s Religion. There is no Democracy in It.( Therefore in Islamic countries There is only one Religion Exists), Most of the HINDU Girls gives Big Lecture Before marring Muslim as they Have done a PHD in Theology? Love and sex are Intra connected in Ladies Mind. (Told by Sigmond Fried, Father of psychologist) So just enjoy your married life, The girl should have to loose her Identity, Health, Time, Emotions to rise the Family, as our mothers did. But still we all say we are Biologically Inherited By Father and we always use Fathers name as sir name.
So the solution is we need to stop the High Birth rate in Muslim families. Their Population is Dangerously growing in India Day by day. Unfortunately In Muslim Dominated countries, Hindus population are dangerously Decreasing Day by day, Not completed,
WHAT happened next? has radha decided to avoid this short period/non-sense marriage decision?
Thanks for posting this. I think we should promote inter-religion marriages in society since this is the way for peace in india. I was lucky to find Laxmi and we both fell in love. Her husband understood our love and he got us married.
Although, most people wont understand our love, our love is only for us and very personal. Why should society decide our fate?
Aamir
Aamir, agree. Curious, how did you got married to Laxmi? Islamic Nikaah, Hindu ceremony, civil court or mixture of these? Such information will help other youths. Thanks.
I am not a religious person so i didnt have difficulty to give Laxmi the right to choose. We got married in a temple and later had a reception.
We have CONCERNS for validity of your marriage!! Unless you formally converted to Hinduism, your Muslim-Hindu marriage by a Hindu marriage ceremony may not be valid. Check with an attorney in your country (India?). Check if you have to remarry by the Special Marriage Act of 1954. Make sure your marriage is properly registered with a governmental authority. Update to us what you have learned on Muslim-Hindu marriage laws for the benefit of others.
Enjoy your Hindu-Muslim married life with equality. Best wishes.
Dear Radha,
Ur name if one of the greatest & respected woman of/from hindu spiritual tradition….Raadha is the name of LORD Krishna….
Plz confirm to ur soul that, ur parents put ur name when u born HAD THIS WAS IN THEIR MIND THAT THEIR CHILD WILL DO SUCH WRONG THING?? SHE WILL THEM IN SUCH DAM UPSET SITUATION??? what will they do after ur marriage? will they be able to face their community? will they go to any function? what will they do? WHAT IS THEIR MISTAKE? why do u want to hurt them??? is ur bf is Celebrity? so ur taking such risk….these people can do 4-5 wife …he will take ur responsibility is till all things goes well …otherwise u will be nowhere …I have 3-4 examples of such kind girls who have made their life like HELL after marriage…
ONLY FOR SAKE OF UR Parents…plz avoids such non-sense things…..
otherwise tell ur bf to convert to HINDU & then let see his & his family response …??
and if he refuse to convert to Hindu for sake of his parents ….then u will have to learn here that, our parents are god for us..& we must not act against them or or act should not hurt them at all…
then I think u will get ur answer & u will change ur decision …
But plz don’t take a decision in emotions…after 1-2 or max 6 months of marriage enjoyment, REAL LIFE STARTS…& then u will need ur close blood relation people ….
Lastly don’t forget that, in Muslim tradition they can marriage 4 times OR kept 4 wife’s at a time too…
think with ur soul & take decision…
Jai Shree Krishna!!!
and if he refuse to convert to Hindu for sake of his parents ….then u will have to learn here that, our parents are god for us..& we must not act against them or or act should not hurt them at all…
then I think u will get ur answer & u will change ur decision …
But plz don’t take decision in emotions…after 1-2 or max.6 months of marriage enjoyment, REAL LIFE STARTS…& then u will need ur close blood relation people ….
Lastly don’t forget that, in Muslim tradition they can marriage 4 times OR kept 4 wife’s at a time too…
think with ur soul & take decision…
Jai Shree Krishna!!!
Dear Sameer,
Get your facts right.. Radha had her husband. She was married to Ayan. Yet she was always said to be in love with lord krishna..
She hasn’t set a very good example of a married woman.
Yet on the spiritual level What we praise about her is the passion and dedication towards lord krishna.
Lord Krishna was married to Rukmani not Radha..
See.. even Radha-Krishna did everything for love. Love is all you need..
we will do court marriage
…and his Muslim mother and father agreed to it? Do not count on what your bf is talking in love, it is very important that his parents are in full support of your plan.
It is a very difficult choice. The environment, the food, the culture, the dress codes, choice of number of children, etc etc will make the present love a lot diluted. What Radha has not informed is that whether she will be permitted to practise her Hindu religion at her in-laws place. I am very sure that it would not be. Muslims cannot stand the presence of a Hindu GOD in their homes. The best option would be that the couple live separately and practice their way of life. I wish them the best but still am skeptical. Excuse me.
n we have decided to marry . his parents are now agree to accept me but not my parent? what shud i do???????????
but i love him sandy n i knw he will not cheat me… i knw him very well .
but i love him sandy n i knw he will not cheat me…
hi radha……
really u r awesome……please keep on waitinng for your parents permission definitely they will accept your love….am in same stage but still we didnot relieve our love to our both parents…..wish u good luck..
……at the end this loving man will tell you, “oh you know, my parents are depressed they want a muslim cleric to perform the wedding, and it will take only 20 minutes.”
When you agree for nikah, you will be alone with him and his parents. First you will end up signing a legal document that states you are converting to islam. The second document is the nikah document that states the wedding is according to sharia law. In future if something happens and if you go to court, the legal system says you have to go to a muslim court because you are a muslim at the time of wedding, you can not go to regular civil/marriage courts hindus go to.
You are not the first one to get into the scheme laid out by the muslims. My relative is already in the mess, she cant even get the child custody, since muslim law makes dad the custodian of child. She ended up serving all his needs and was tossed out and now lives with her parents. By the way they live in india.
DON’T convert, if you do then you are doomed. If he is helping his dad then financially he is dependent, everything is against you here.
You mentioned a excellent point.
You are 200 per cent right. I was about to make the same mistake but I went to Arya Samaj for advice and they told me exactly what you said and I got out of it in the nick of time. My ex muslim bf told me I would only have to sign an affidavit and take on a new muslim name, it would not show on the marriage certificate blah blah. When I told him I needed time to think about it and that I was not ready to convert or sign any legal document, he brought the roof down. That’s when I saw the ugly side of him and got away from him.
Radha dont listen to idolators they will not show the rightous path never and they will drag you in hell so pls goahed and marry your muslim friend and get rid of this traditions and adoring million gods
forget it and become pure secure and you know when you taste the fruits
those hindus who speak of their religion goodness its totally wrng they are living indarkness never get light or spiritual guidance and they will be burnt is this good custom and also the fire of hell is waiting for them
you dismissed hindus as idolators, do you know Brahman is without form and gender. I know you have a chip on your shoulder. As a muslim you give me the names of wives of your Mohammed.
the muslims specially hunt for brahmin girls so as to insure religious superiority.peole like saif are love jihadis, islam is an outdated phenomenon.pl.ignore the advances and never trust a muslim.
Dear Saif, Hindus are not the only idolaters. Even your religion practices the same. Why then all muslims keep their face towards Kabah while praying. What is inside Kabaa is also an idol. Will all muslims come forward and go against the Apostle’s (PBUH) act of kissing the stone. Plz talk rationally. Every Church has an idol of Christ on the Cross and they kneel down before it. Is that not an idol? Don’t talk about hell and heaven in these days of science. Their is no such thing. U r saying that Hinduism is unscientific. One small example for proving that the Astrology within Hinduism of 1000’s of years old even today can predict much before any other scientific calculation as to when an Eclipse is going to occur. This has puzzled even NASA. Can u show me one religion which is more scientific than this.
As per Islam or Holy Koran, no image or any form should be in the house of a true Muslim, but u enter any Muslim home and you will find so many images of Mecca Masjid and other Persian writings. Further the Holy Koran preaches that apart from ALLAH, a devout Muslim should not bow down before any other person or thing. Then why Muslims are going in thousands to the DARGAH’s of saints. Is that Islamic? Their is no such thing as Love for a Hindu girl except that they are using LOVE as a weapon to draw away Hindu girls. I can keep writing but stopping because I know that getting a reply on these points from u itself will become a hard task.
Dr Gv Rao,
Please do not stop and continue…..I would really like ti listen to all that you have to say against muslims and Islam.
Firstly—Kaaba or Mecca is simply a direction for all muslims to pray. It means Qibla in Arabic which is direction. This gives a unity to all muslims and a direction to pray.
Secondly- The black stone has no relevance in Islam. It is not even mentioned in Quran. It is mentioned in one Hadees that says that because Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) once kissed it hence it is there for people if they wish to replicate him. It has no significance in Islam.
Thirdly- Dont Bullshit us about astrology. There is no way any one can predict the furture except if God wills.
Fourthly- If you really need to have scientific knowledge about Islam. I would recommend you read the book Quran and Science written by a Non muslim. In Last 1400 years there have been not a single instance where Quran has been proved wrong. But in Vedas/Upnishads/Geeta I can show several things which you would say you dont believe it. For example do you believe in Low caste and high caste. Do you believe in one women marrying 5 husbands?
Doesn’t the Quran talk about the place that the sun sets and rises? Since there is no actual geographical point on Earth where that occurs (assuming the Earth is round) doesn’t that imply that the Earth is flat-there is an actual spot where the sun rises and sets? Do Muslims believe the Earth is flat or is this an example of scientific liberty, if not error, contained in the Quran? What about the seven heavens mentioned in the book?
I don’t think Islam is unique in scientific error, but I do think it stretches credibility to say the Quran has no scientific error.
radha better you marry him and also you will find a sacred atmosphere u know what are muslims so dnt hesitate Allah has opened your eyes to move in righ direction and rightious path iam not telling but when you practise you come to know why live in past so spiritually you will be suceeeded in entering into paradize this is sure no dooubt see there are relgions in this world but Allah chosen the only religion for you is Islam
Very nice reply ….. when people accept double standards and no-reciprocity as legitimate, they can never be reasonable in their life.
Run away from him… he will cheat one day…
dont feed the serpant that will bite u later … leave him now!! there will always be another good hindu for you. its only a matter of time and it requires stregth from your end. they are brought up in a very bad culture and family atmpsphere and it will show up sooner or later when things go wrong. have pride in your culture and remember what horrific things they are capable of ….
Better you marry a person whom you love… and make your mind set to enjoy your happy life with your lover till the end.
becoz its impossible to forget your lover even if u get married to someone else. u will get to think about them always.
dont think about others opinions. live ur life. adjust with your lover to make your life happy.
Muslim shia’s, like the Muslims Sunni’s are only to marry believing Christian, Jewish or Muslim women. She can convert to Islam. Shia’s believe in temporary marriage, where for a period of time you marry a woman (without) her even knowing in order to have sex and then leave her, even if she is pregnant. In Sunni Islam they believe this is forbidden, that there is no such “temporary” to marriage that it is life long commitment. If she converts to Islam she will be as a newborn baby- all her sins removed. If both families already object just imagine the fire they will play with when they discover you had married.
It is immensely difficult to discuss with such girls…..because they already made up their mind and whatever one says and explains truth, she will be self-explaining it (rationalize her decision or try to do )…..
God save this country …..
Don’t forget you will not get a return ticket to hinduism.
never marry a muslim. they change their colours after marriage and they pressurise u to convert as in their religion it is a swaab to make people to convert,
First of all never fall in love with a muslim
Dear,
I work as a researcher for Swedish Educational Broadcasting Company, UR, which is one of the Public service companies of Sweden. We are making a TV-series with four programs about ethics and moral from a religious perspective, and the target group is pupils in High school here in Sweden. Our reporter/producer Erik Sandström is travelling the world to meet people with different religions and he is coming to Kolkata, India in about a week.
I wonder if you would like to participate or help me finding a young couple who are from different religions and has a hard time because of this? We would like to interview them and tell their story, and we will be discreet and understand that this is a delicate matter.
Please get back to me.
All my best regards
Emelie Jönsson
Emilie, sweden is no india and india not sweden. You are way too naiive to understand south asia. First read the history and then analyse why the hindus are worried about muslims.Also read wafa sultan, Ayaan hirsi ali, taslima nasreen.just google the names.
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