Nina says: July 14, 2013 at 4:06 pm
I just had a marriage on the 15 of May 2013, since then I have seen my husband only twice, he converted to Islam and marry me, I am his second wife, then his first wife found out, and Calgary tragedy make him lost half of his house. They have been seeing each other for a year, I told him many time the relationship is not going to work, is because he is not a Muslim, and I want to be a good Muslim no zinah without married, then he rushed to comforted to Islam and married me.
His wife found that, that he become a Muslim and married with me, his wife is threatening him, he will lose family and friend, and humiliate him that he become a Muslim, which he never believe on anything before. also is wife took all the money, locked him.
I have not registered our marriage, that because I want to do prenuptial agreement, and he will file a divorce. I waited for 5 weeks, then last week on Saturday, he come and he told me, that he had made decision to be with his wife, because he cant afford to fix the house by him self, and his wife make more money then he is.
I was shocked, all the words that he promised, is gone, the life we were planning together is disappear, in the waiting period, he always suggested me to get the pil where I can be cool and forget what we did, so Dr gave me the anti depression pil, that I swallow on Saturday, it hurt myself.
I was collapsed, He took me to an emergency, and left right away, I did not even know. my son told me, he told him that he is taking me to emergency.
The next morning I was still lying in bed, I called him, then he told me:” listen: I talak you, I talaq you, and I talaq you, I divorce you, I divorce you and I divorce you, dont talk to my family, freind, or work, other wise I call the police for harassing. but he told me if I want to talk to him, He will take my call.
I have been crying over this, we still texting, until this morning, he texted make sure I am not calling the police, I told him : I forgive what you did to me, and I hope God too. he is been deceiving me, and he play with God words. he is just pretend to becoming muslim. that the most hurt by him. I am still confused. his wife said, that our marriage is a crime because he already married, Then I will call stat Canada to ruin his life too as he did to me.
I need help to ease my pain from betrayed, and insutled my religion. -Nina
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Nina,
First of all you are the biggest culprit in real world. After going through your post, I am feeling that you are more islamic religious than true love and forcing your husband to change the faith eventhough you well knows about his married life. So there is no compulsion for him and please note that it is very easy to marry and divorce a muslim women as per your sharia law and he did it rightway.
nina,
what he has done with you obiously very bad. but mind it, you expected him as a muslim husband.he has done all (from marriage to devorce) as a muslim.according to shariya law, a muslim husband can devorce his wife any time without showing any cause
I AM A ARYASAMAJI HINDU FEMALE MARRIED TO A ROMANCATHOLIC MALE SINCE 1998. THERE WAS A LOT OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN OUR BACKGROUNNDS BUT ,I ADJUSTED . AFTER MY MARRIAGE I HAVE LOST MYSELF FOREVER . I HAD A DAUGHTER IN 1999 I GOT BUSY WITH HER, I HAD DONE A COURSE IN INTERIORDESIGNING BUT BECAUSE OF HIS POCESSIVE NATURE AND I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE OUR RELATIONSHIP I GOT SUCKED INTO IT. TO HIM I WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING BAD THAT HAPPENED TO HIM. HE IS 9 YRS OLDER TO ME SOME WHERE I HAVE ALWAYS GONE WRONG IN THIS RELATIONSHIP . \IT IS A LOVE MARRIAGE WHERE WE DO EVERYTHING EXCEPT LOVE , WE RUNM EACH OTHER
DOWN , BUT I AM AGAINST DIUVORSE I FEEL GUILTY THAT I WENT AGAINST EVERY BODY TO MARRY SO I CANNAT SUBJECT THEM TO MY PAIN . I GOT THYROID AFTER I HAD MY DAUGHTER BUT HE WAS NOT VERY UNDERSTANDING . MY PARENTS DID NOT INTERFERE , WHEN WE FIGHT WE WANT TO KILL EACH OTHER THE DAY MY DAUGHTER LEAVES FOR COLLEGE EDUCATION I WONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WIH MYSELF OR HIM.I AM NO MORE AN EASY PERSON TO LIVE WITH . IN INDIA ITS SUDDENLY VERY DIFFICULT TO WALK OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP. IN TEMPER HE HAS PULLED MY HAIR WHEN HE KNOWS IOM HAVING HARFALL PROBLEM ,BUT OVER THE YRS IAM LIVING WITH HIM BECAUSE HE SAYS I AM SELFISH. I DOINT LIKE ANYBODY IN HIS FAMILY , ALL WANT ME TO CHANGE INCLUDING HIM. I HAD MARRIED HIM IN A HURRY I M STUCK FOR LIFE BUT I AM DOINGF ALL MY DUTIRES AS A WIFE , MY DAUGHTERI ARCATHOLIC. I AND ONLY I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS MESS MY LIFE IS SPOILT. HE IS REED THIN IAM NORMAL AND LITTLE OBESE .HEIS FOREVER JUDGING ME IN EVERYTHIUNG I WISH I COULD JUST DISAPOPEAR INTO NOWHERE FROM THIS SITUATION.I ALWAYS THOUGHT IN THIS RELIGION CRAZY WORLD MY CHILD WOULD BE LIKE A SYMBOL OF WORLD PEACE BUT I WAS ALWAYS WRONG. EATHER I AM CRAzY OR IAM LOOSING IT ,MY COPING SKILLS ARE ZERO ,I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE LEFT IN ME ,EVEN DUGFFERS AROUND ME ARE DOING BETTER THAN ME IN REAL WORLD IAM A FAILURE
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Since islam provides opportunities to the horny and sexy people, even non-muslims pretend to be converted to Islam just for entering so called marriages for sexual pleasure only.
Such people need to be taught a lesson and the girls should be cautious with such persons attitude.
Dear Nina,
Sorry to hear for what happened to you. That guy is fooling around with different girls and should not go unpunished.
Apparently you are from Canada. Polygamy is illegal there. He was married to two ladies at one time and he should be punished for his act. Please contact a good lawyer and file a case against him.
In Canada, the Sharia laws are not applicable so we have to only talk about Canadian laws. However, your Islamic marriage, if documented well, is an approved marriage in Canada.
You should have formally registered your marriage immediately after your Nikaah. Canadian police does not recognize or understand Nikaah, but they will take steps if you registered your marriage. Again, this is a civil dispute and not a criminal, thus you need a lawyer and not police.
Apparently you knew that he is not divorced from his prior marriage, in spite of it, why did you got married to him?
Now come to your Islamic thinking. You got excited when that non-Muslim got converted. You are fool, nothing more. Why you think that just by saying 5 min of Shahadah oath in Arabic someone can become a true Muslim? Islam is not an On/Off switch! This is nothing but a love-proselytizm by you and results in a FAKE-conversion by him. Remember, Canadian laws don’t apply here and he could freely convert back to his own religion tomorrow.
Muslim girls must know that if Islam is important to you, they should marry to only some one who is a true Muslim, who is performing Namaz five times a day. Love-proselytizm will get you only FAKE-conversion and more problems in life.
As far we see, these are all legal: He become a Muslim, married by Nikaah and decided to give talaak without giving any reason. This are all valid acts for a Muslim to do. Only wrong he did is to have two wives at one time and for that contact a lawyer and file a lawsuit against him to teach him a lesson for life. Let us know how it goes.