Ann says: February 9, 2015 at 12:45 am
Hi, May I know these couple got married or not. If yes, I like to have a few words with her. Because am in that same situation except that both families are against our relation. Please give me a reply. Please…I really want to know -Ann
Ann added: February 15, 2015 at 8:25 pm
Thank You for replying. Yes…we are financially independent. But we cant have a church marriage as i am a sinner before my church for having a relationship with Hindu guy. We are planning to have Register marriage. My family is very orthodox and they wont accept this marriage. They are repeatedly warning me that God will punish me if I marry a Hindu. They are very strong in bible and they warn me using bible verses. I do love my parents but I cant loose this guy. -Ann
Ann says: June 18, 2015 at 10:51 pm
Hi all,
Thanks for all of your opinions. I couldn’t follow up because I was going through hard situations. I like to explain my current situation and expecting more opinions from you. Because its always good to listen to those who are in same situation than others.
Its been 5 months and am out of my house (My father don’t let me in with this relation). My mother contacts me but in a sad way. No one else in my family is ready to accept my decision and they don’t contact me. Am going on with my job and we(me and boyfriend) are going fine.
He is waiting for his family to accept us. But they are also in a firm decision that they won’t accept me as a christian. But the funniest part is that they don’t talk or discuss about our matter in their home anymore(He lives with his family and am with my roommates). Now a days I feel so lonely without a family or companion. So am asking him to bring that topic in his home and take a decision(a register marriage). But he is waiting for some “RIGHT MOMENT(I wonder then what is this moment)”. Sometimes I feel pain when I see him enjoying with his family and I remain alone. But he loves me, he is taking care of me in all ways he can, he is assuring me that he will marry me. But still I feel empty.
Should I change my way of thinking..? I think I gave him enough time to take a decision. I don’t want to make a fight with him because I will end up with crying and feel alone(ofcourse he don’t console me if am sad about this matter). So I don’t know how to live this situation. I don’t have much friends to get engage. So how can I find a positive solution..? –Ann
Ann says: August 13, 2018 at 10:50 pm
Hi Merlin,
I am very happy to share what happened in my life. But I am not encouraging you or anyone to follow my way. Because whatever I did and my decisions were what I felt right in my life.
Yes, I am married to the same Hindu guy and we have a baby now. We are happy and living a good life.
Here is what happened after Jun’15. As Admin suggested me, I waited till Dec’15 waiting for him to take a decision, which he didn’t. So by Feb I asked him to take a final decision because I was living all alone, he with his family and I waited enough. He convinced his family(His family had no other option) and they agreed for our marriage, because they knew we are not leaving each other. Their condition was to host a Hindu marriage ceremony which I agreed. Its been 2 years and we held hands in every situation. His family is happy with me. My only sadness is my family has not accepted our relationship yet. But it was my decision and i know there is no logic in being sad over it. Hoping one day they will accept me for what I am.
Merlin, I don’t know what your situation is. Leaving your own family may not be a good option for you. But you can be strong and confident in what you really need. -Ann.
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I Belong to Hindu Family but I Like Muslim Girl
I belong to Christian family and and wheni was small my parents left Me so my uncle and aunt took my all responsibility of study and all the things my study n all but my partner is non Christian and we both are comfort with each other but I m thaught that my uncle aunt won’t accept him. But we decide to marry each other.. What should be done know… I can’t leave that guy Bcz he is good Nd makes me always happy for that why we should not leave with each other boy is ready to take all the responsibility of my but.. I want an opportunity to tell my house but Wht should b done shld I leave him just because of non Christian,??? Or my family,??can u give any suggestion..
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I was belong to Christian family and grown up but I n my partner is from hindu. And he is good guy I want to marry him we both my parents left me Bcz I m girl
Dear Shine,
This is too sad. Is your boy friend still with you? Are you both financially independent (meaning earning)? what are you expectations about religion after marriage with this guy? Lets talk and we can help find some way around your current situation. Get back to us, thanks.
Yes he is earning doing private job and my study is going to be completed.only 5months r remaining.. But we can’t leave without each other.. But my uncle won’t accept him Bcz he isnon Christian.. But he is in good nature.. He understands me but only he truly but whtto do Bcz I can’t leave him economically his father died he took all responsibility of his family and he truly..lvs me… Wht shld I do now?
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Ann,
Being a Christian, I married to a Hindu girl and this was a arranged marriage. I am in a confusion that what religion should my children own.
May expect clash between my parents & wife regarding this issue. Please advise.
Hi Believer,
This is where clashes happen in every inter-caste marriage. My advise is any decision should be taken between You and Your Wife. Please avoid including both of your families in taking decision regarding your kids. I did that in my family. We never invited anyone else to say opinion about how we or our kids should be. We discussed and solved. It becomes debate when more people with different opinions are in the discussion(Yes, Clash) and it will affect no one but you and your wife.
1. You can let one child to be Hindu and one a Christian
2. Don’t impose any religion, let them grow and choose when they reach age. Here both of you can teach good values of both religion. I’m sure they will grow up respecting both values.
Remember one thing, you respect your wife and her religion and she does the same. If you don’t teach your children the same, they will grow up confused and tomorrow they will end up having religion clashes. And the chain goes on.
I hope you already found solution. If not, please sort it out immediately and please don’t make a religious fight in front of your children.
Superb message, thanks Ann.
Hi.. Am from the Hindu family background but I started believing Jesus and am in Christian life for the past 1.2 years meanwhile my parents are forcing me to marry a Hindu guy,I explained them that I want to marry a Christian guy but they are not hearing my words. They are very stubborn in their point that I should marry that Hindu guy.Am clear in bible words that a believer should not marry a non-beleiver.. So pls suggest me what I should do
Reply at https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=12676
It is sad that parents are forcing you to marry someone you don’t like to.
Why you said, “a believer should not marry a non-believer”? Do you think Hindus, Jains, Jews, Muslims, Sikhs are non-believers? Who decides who is believer and not?
for we (christians),non-believer means a person who does not believe in Jesus and is not a christian.
How about Mahatma Gandhi? Will he go to hell?
Dear Gowsi,
A) how old are you? If you are young and not financially independent then this may be a reason why you cannot stand your ground and are feeling pressure from your parents regarding marriage. One’s parents should never force their child to marry someone they don’t want to marry. Even some people I know who had an arranged marriage, they were always asked for their will before agreeing to marry that person. It’s not a joke – you are committing to spend the rest of your life with that person!
B) if you believe in Christianity and Jesus, marrying someone who isn’t Christian is probably not the best idea. It may create problems in the future if your belief is Christianity and that’s what you want to pass on to your children. A practicing Hindu husband will certainly have a problem with that.. It’s always best if husband and wife come from a similar background
Rabia,
Note that probably Gowsi’s church may be teaching that Rabia (a Muslim) is a non-believer and sinner. Is this not a time to give up such exclusivist thinking? Some Muslims believe that Shia and Ahmadia are not true Muslim, that is exclusivity. Rabia, as a future author, have you read the Bible? Our book has this ending-exclusivity as a core message. We hope you do believe the same.
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Hi,
My name is emima
I am a Christian ano I am loving a hindu guy it’s only 7 months that we got committed now I am in a great confusion because my guy is very good and perfect in everything but he is Hindu. Some plp tells me he is very good never miss him in ur life but some tells we cannot marry a hindu guy when u have taken baptism . Yes I have taken a baptism now can u plz help me in giving a suggestion. Is it a sin r not r can I marry him or not and one more thing my mom is completly into God she will never accept this . Someone plz help me in giving a solution
Thank you,
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Wel, am also a Christian and
my boyfriend is Hindu too. Both parents are against us. Especially my parents r full against it. They even let me go anywhhr alone. Thinking I might run away. But he is from diff state. So staying in other place nd working there. We hardly meet.4,5 times in a year.and since his parents are pressuring him to marry soon, but not with me. He keeps asking me to hurry n get marred with him soon. But how can I marry now if my parents r totally against. I thought if he only understands and wait till my parents says on atlas.
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Yes if you are a christian and marry a idol worshiper, according to god of Bible. he will punish you. So leave Christianity and marry him, even if they don`t ask for convert to Hinduism, but Hinduism is such a religion where method of conversion or method of leave doesn`t exist. Almost in every ceremony,ritual in his home will go against Christianity.
Ann,
A great point here. If you believe the Bible is God’s 100% word and nothing can be changed to it, yes, you should leave him now otherwise you will bring miseries for both of you and extended families.
Interfaith marriages are for those who respect their faith and other faiths. It is for those who believe religion is something to share, give in something and take something. It is for those who believe this whole world (and every one in it) are all God’s sons and daughters.
Hi all,
Thanks for all of your opinions. I couldn’t follow up because I was going through hard situations. I like to explain my current situation and expecting more opinions from you. Because its always good to listen to those who are in same situation than others.
Its been 5 months and am out of my house(My father don’t let me in with this relation). My mother contacts me but in a sad way. No one else in my family is ready to accept my decision and they don’t contact me. Am going on with my job and we(me and boyfriend) are going fine.
He is waiting for his family to accept us. But they are also in a firm decision that they won’t accept me as a christian. But the funniest part is that they don’t talk or discuss about our matter in their home anymore(He lives with his family and am with my roommates). Now a days I feel so lonely without a family or companion. So am asking him to bring that topic in his home and take a decision(a register marriage). But he is waiting for some “RIGHT MOMENT(I wonder then what is this moment)”. Sometimes I feel pain when I see him enjoying with his family and I remain alone. But he loves me, he is taking care of me in all ways he can, he is assuring me that he will marry me. But still I feel empty.
Should I change my way of thinking..? I think I gave him enough time to take a decision. I don’t want to make a fight with him because I will end up with crying and feel alone(ofcourse he don’t console me if am sad about this matter). So I don’t know how to live this situation. I don’t have much friends to get engage. So how can I find a positive solution..?
Ann,
You are certainly in a difficult situation. It is difficult to say what direction he will go ultimately. It is possible that he may be saying one thing to you but may not have guts to go against his family or has courage to raise voice against his parents to protect you (we don’t know). Instead of spending next 5 years in this limbo situation, give him an ultimatum to make up his mind by December 2015 for marriage.
Hello Ann, I’m exactly in the same situation like yours. Could you please share what has happened later in your life? Thank you!
Hi Merlin,
We have requested to Ann and certain that she will get back to you soon.
We have experience with some 1200 youths and can help you. Can you share your main issue with the guy? We can help you. We hope to hear from you.
Hi Merlin,
I am very happy to share what happened in my life. But I am not encouraging you or anyone to follow my way. Because whatever I did and my decisions were what I felt right in my life.
Yes, I am married to the same Hindu guy and we have a baby now. We are happy and living a good life.
Here is what happened after Jun’15. As Admin suggested me, I waited till Dec’15 waiting for him to take a decision, which he didn’t. So by Feb I asked him to take a final decision because I was living all alone, he with his family and I waited enough. He convinced his family(His family had no other option) and they agreed for our marriage, because they knew we are not leaving each other. Their condition was to host a Hindu marriage ceremony which I agreed. Its been 2 years and we held hands in every situation. His family is happy with me. My only sadness is my family has not accepted our relationship yet. But it was my decision and i know there is no logic in being sad over it. Hoping one day they will accept me for what I am.
Merlin, I don’t know what your situation is. Leaving your own family may not be a good option for you. But you can be strong and confident in what you really need.
Hi Ann,
Congratulations for your success story. We are glad the trick of giving deadline worked. Guys are indecisive and such stern deadline works. If he is not ready, why to bother any ways?
What is the problem now with your parents? Tell us and we can help how to convince them. Now you have a new tool to soften your parents, your baby! One time, under what so ever excuse, go leave your baby with your parents for 6-8 hours. If not for you, they will get soften with their grandchild. Let us know how it goes.
That is not something that can be easily resolved. My Parents don’t contact me anymore and they shifted to some other place which is unknown for me.
How can parents disown their own child, especially when they know that you are happy? Is that because you married to a Hindu? Do they believe you committed sin? Do they believe your wonderful child is a sinner? Is their church more important that you? This is not something Jesus would approve (we have high respect for His messages, read).
I just met a beautiful hindu woman. We met online and had been talking online for one month straight. We met face to face and had our first date today. I asked her about her faith and her beliefs, and she informed me that she was raised to be tolerant of all people and to respect all religions. Is it a sin to date someone who isnt a christian? Or is it okay, as long as i dont let our religious differences influence what i’ve been raised to believe?
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Hmm. .you need to be strong sister..see when you fell in love with your man, you knew his faith at that time..but still you chose to love him right? Now you should accept him as he is..If your a devout christian lady and he’s a devout hindu,i don’t think it will last for a long time once the rose tinted glass comes off after marriage..Once you have kids , what faith will they have?All these issues need to be discussed and discussed again in interfaith relationships..I’m saying this being in an interfaith one myself..also if your not practising, you can and should have a look at the Bhagwad Gita..not only to convert or something but also to know about your man’s faith..hinduism is not purely monotheistic like say islam or Judaism but it does believe in Krishna being the supreme god and other gods as demi gods..is feel it’s kinda similar to Christianity, in that jesus pbuh is God but saints are also worshipped(please forgive me if I made any mistakes as I’m not a christian)..also if you cannot go for hinduism,and hes an atheist/agnostic(many Hindus are agnostic these days esp in cities), ask him to take a look at the bible..maybe being saved is exactly what he was missing from his life..it’s personally feel that it’s better to have a single faith than 2 contradictory ones..It can create clashes later on..as for your family, please give them time..right now creating a ruckus at home will not be a good idea..be calm and SHOW them how happy you are rather than arguments..Most parents just want their children to be happy, which they fear they won’t b able to be if they marry into a different culture..give them time. .I’m sure everything will work out..All the best 🙂
Good advise!
Hello all,
First of all I pray for Ann that everything gonna be alright and finally you and your loved one get merry eachother soon and live happy life ahead.
I think we are also facing the same problem as Ann is facing right now.
My name is Hardik (Hindu) and I am in love with Christian (Methodist) girl and we are in a relationship since last 1 year and 4 months.
Our relationship was going very smoothly with full of love in initial stage and we both decided to get merry with eachother but suddenly the thought of our different religion came between us. She told me she don’t want to convert to Hinduism and Wants me to accept as christian only. I told her that I already accepted her as what she is and I also told the same thing to my parents and my parents are with me. And I being hindu, was not orthodox even my family is not too much religion oriented and I rarely went to temples, never played Garbas, never attend any social events, rarely participate any Pooja, Aarti and very rarely attend any of our rituals. I was really feel too much uncomfortable with the lifestyle of Hindus(Not to intend to hurt anyone’s feelings).
I am really too much comfortable with the lifestyle of christian as I came to know about it after she came into my life. And she is strongly believer in GOD JESUS, and by seeing her faith in GOD I also decided to be same like her. And I took decision to convert me as christian and I also shared this with my parents and they agreed with me. She has also told her Granny about our relationship and her granny agreed with her decision to merry me. She asked permission from her granny to allow me to come in Church and learn ways of prayer and all rituals and I visited Church for few Sundays. Initially I was too much scare and uncomfortable to attend Church but later on I was okay with it.
Unfortunately since last few months, her Granny stands against us and say NO to accept me, may be her Granny is scare of my decision to convert as Christian (as nowadays more issues are there related to religions). But we both are stick to our decision to merry eachother. Nowadays her Granny stop talking with her and not pay that much attention to her. So she is upset with this and I am also upset because she is upset. We totally depend on GOD because he only can help us and We believe in GOD that may lead us and make us together.
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Hi Hardik,
Am also in similar situation lyk urs. My guy is a brahmin and we both are in relation for about 1 and half years. When we revealed out relation to our patents, initialy tey
didnt agree and later agreed as my parents thought he wil become christian nd his parents wished me to be a hindu. And because of this we both started to fight. Then he asked me to just act as hindu atleast. I refused it. As days go he stoped loving me as he did earlier and i started to cry evryday. One day i thought its nothing wrong in doing what their parents wanted me to do. Then we spoke and he told abt my decision to his parents. But still they refused. Before this decision i said we didnt talk right, i thought we parted and told my parents. They started to see a groom for me. So now they dont know that i still love him. But the problem is, he initialy said that i have to act as if am worshipping the idols in front of their parents but now he himself wants me to convert to an hindu. I said okay but everytime when i go to church or pray i used to cry. I prayed to God that instead of me having my guy in my heart and to live a life with someone else, its better to live with him having U(Jesus) in my heart and to worship their gods. My decision is good but am afraid. Now we both are in good relation and waiting for our marriage. Register marriage. Because my parents doesnt know that i still love him. And his parents wont accept me. But before we get married we wil invite them. Its up to them whether to attend our marriage or not. Hoping for something good.
And Ann dont worry. 1 good advice from me do what u want to do so that you wil b happy. Dont think about what the world wil think about u or what they wil say. God bless u.
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Hi Ann!
When you are confused pray to God and Keep prayin!God has the solution for every problem.Our God is bigger than the problem. Dont worry Ann.God will make a way ,even if there seems to be no way,HE works in ways we cannot see but God will make a way! Prayer brings VICTORY!Jesus replied, “What is impossible with man is possible with God.”-Luke 18:27. Keep praying for the guy and the family. God will change things in favor for u! Have faith in God.Dont give up but keep praying. God parted the red sea for isrealites,God rained bread from heaven for the isrealites. God made the bitter water into sweet and loads of miracles. GOD is same yesterday,today and forever.Be patient and keep praying Ann.Jesus said to him, “As far as possibilities go, everything is possible for the person who believes.”- Mark 9:23.I would say,keep praying and have faith in GOD.Leave it to GOD and God wil do things for you. Don worry Ann! God will touch the guys heart and family and they will come to you!!Christian marriage will happen!
Dear sarah,
Dear sarah you are very right. I appriciate your thoughts but you might be knowing that god is the name of that sweet thing which is being felt and seemed. Who is so sweet innocent and caring who always help his child and nurture them. God is only one {you might be knowing that when throne is one no other emperor can sit except one same as like case of sword where only one sword fits.} If god is differnt as religion so in heaven they might be fighting daily for one kingdom and that would have affected lot here at earth. Everything would have been destroyed. So my dear all friends don’t fear by name of god. Only love him and that will give us prosperity and happiness. I say in hindi suppose, when we help anybody then we think ourself as a great man and get proud whether you help hindu or muslim or sikh or christian. Because you did what god wants so u happy but if you kill people to not changing their religion in yours then you will be punished lot by him that time he will become a great and great danger and will punish you. We can not imagine his dangerous role. you know god is happy in his childrens happiness and if we manipulate in his way or happiness then we doing crime. As like hindu regards him as idol and get peace by that and god also happy in that and giving them love. If we talk about hinduism is bad so we are wrong not only hinduism but all religion is good but some deeds are bad which god don’t like like killing animal and eating their meat and giving trouble to his people. As you all know we are human being and like being sacred and clean but by eating meat or other bad things can we feel sacred and fresh? And god always lives in a clean and holy places as you all know and give sacred place to him as like church and mosque and temple where always incesnce is present. And we all peope do bad works like eating meats and killing lives. I will say in one line which enough…………………”We want god in temple,mosque,church and gurudwara but not want to give space in our heart because he will do reaction when we would like to do bad work. Also we can not make him stay in our heart because he doesn’t like to live in a dirty place as we all know.” Our body and heart can not be get sacred till we don’t stop doing dirty works like killing lives and bad politics for benefit. I would like to say you all people god is only one and one only please mind it believe it if u are human being and look your growth by doing fair work and atleast remember him by any type of way of pray which may be by lighting candle, or touching feet of a idol or rememebering him by closing eyes he will listen it my full guarantee. ” Bhagwan wahi he jo sabko pyar karta he sabko maaf karta he bada sundar aur bahut hi mast cute dikhne wala dad he wo apna jo hass hass ke hamari galtiyo ko bhulata rahta he. Uski puja kisi bhi tarah se karne walo par wo apni kripa daya barsaata he chahe wo hath jodkar puja karne wala ho ya bible ko padhkar ya kuran ko padhkar. Sab uske bacche he sabka tareeka alag ho sakta he par way ek hi he kewal usko pana. So any person of any religion can marry with any religion’s man or woman. That is not crime which is love and which will grow faith and humanity between eachother. I love you god. Please pardon me if any mistake. Ummmmmmmmmmmaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh my lovely sweet god.
Yours :
Deep
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Hello Ann,
We understand if you are confused between what your soul is telling you to do and what your church is telling you.
First, know that InterfaithShaadi does not have any personal interest if you marry to that guy or not. However, we will be happy to hear from you in year 2020 that this discussion helped you to make a right decision for your life, what ever that decision was.
You are intelligent and you have a free spirited soul. You are like PK (watch the movie; who just dropped form mars on this earth) who had no clue how things are suppose to work here. Every one will tell you what to do and what not. At some time in your life, you will have to raise your head and say enough is enough and now I am going to use my own brain.
It is good to respect your parents but you cannot be their puppet. You are no more their “baby” but an adult. At some point, you have to learn to find good balance following advises from parents and do that your soul is telling you. Parents may come around later when they see you are really truly happy in your marriage. However, going against your parent’s wishes is risky, thus you need to make fully “informed” decision.
To start, lets clarify what is idol worshiping.
You said Hindus are idol worshippers. How about Christians who are using two pieces of wood to pray to God? Is your cross (who does not speak, talk, hear or see) not an idol? Why your church uses only certain shape of cross and will not tolerate a different shape of cross from other denomination of Christianity? Is praying to Mary’s statue not idol worshipping? Is praying to three forms of God not polytheist practice? Let us answer these questions for you. Christians believe in One God but different people uses different ways praying to the God or different ways expressing their love for Jesus. Hinduism is exactly the same, they believe in One God but have liberty to pray Her/Him as many ways as one wishes.
“God” is undefined, unseen, unknown, only hear-say. On the other side, our mind is always wavering and difficult to control. To help one’s mind to help focus on God, people have devised different objects and practices. Jews use candle (or Jerusalem Wall), Christians use the Cross, Muslims use Kaaba, Sikh’s use their Guru Granth Sahib, etc. Likewise, Hindus have murtis in temples. Murtis are no different than the Mary’s statue, wood-cross, Kaaba or J-Wall. If one stop going to a temple but sits and meditate, he/she is still a Hindu. If you stop going to your own church and instead start going to a Mormon or Pentecostal church, you are not any less a Christian. Jesus will love you equally even you are not baptized, but we cannot say the same for your church (read).
Change comes slowly. For example, if you marry (to whom so ever) and if that family is using lots of salt in their food, you should not expect them to stop eating high salt diet right a way because now you are there. Instead you take over the kitchen and slowly and slowly reduce salt consumption over next 2 years. In that case, no one will realize that their diet is now changed. Likewise, do not expect to make a drastic change from what they (Hindus) are going from very first day. First join them and do what they are doing and then make gradual changes. Do you have that type of patience?
You have rights to believe what you wish to. If you are convinced that Hindus are idol worshippers, then you have to also accept your church’s belief that your non-baptized boy friend is a sinner. Is he really a sinner? If yes, dump him now!
Do all these discussion make sense? Let us know what you think. Lets talk more later.
Ann, sometimes explaining things face to face becomes difficult. Don’t worry, you’ll convince your parents. If possible, think about the specific things your parents will oppose and write them down. Think of the suitable explanations and write them down too. You can write a letter to them, if you dont have the guts to talk to them. It really helps. I, too, write letters to many of my close ones when things become difficult to handle.
But, Ann, if the boy’s parents are against this marriage and if you are going to live with them, it can be a serious problem for you. So, think practically too. Will you be able to tackle his family with love? Will you be able to live peacefully after marriage?
Also, being a Hindu, i can tell you that if your guy’s family is orthodox, you certainly will face problems. There are MANY celebrations, stories, occasions, fasts, etc. So, its complicated. If you aren’t converting, still you’ll have to follow some rules of the family. Do you want him to convert? Or is he asking you to convert? Or will it be an interfaith marriage with equality?
We feel Ann has to do inner soul searching. She has to first decide if she …believe in the original sin? …believe in the Judgment Day? …believe Jesus is the savior? …believe Hindus are idol worshipers? If answer to any of these questions is yes, then she rather marry someone from her own church, even not educated guy. Interfaith marriages are for 1) those who believe in 50%-50% share and enjoy all type people and 2) for love-Jihadi love-proselytizer out to expand his/her faith’s vote power (a ticket to heaven!!).
Am very confused about what to do…Because I need this guy. He is so perfect for me. I really feel special about him. I cant think about loosing him just because he is a Hindu. Leaving this relation is very hard for me
But Yes..I believe in Jesus. I cant go to a temple and bow down before an idol. I cant do that too.
Sarah, Thanks for your advice. But my parents are repeatedly saying that if I marry him I will be out of my family and church. I cant convince them anymore. And he is not forcing me to convert or visit temple or anything. But later in life, if his parents accept us, am sure they will force me to above said occasions,celebrations and all. I hope my guy will stand for me in such a situation.
Admin, Arranged Marriages are still there in my place. If I marry someone from my church, it will be definitely an arranged one. After all these fight for love I finally have an arranged marriage, I don’t know how am going to live that life. So my inner soul is asking to hold him.
Ann,
You are certainly in a difficult situation. There are some easy fixes and some VERY difficult long term fixes. Please keep in touch and we could walk with it all. You being intelligent and financially independent, probably difficult but a just path may be worth it.
If you wish to please parents in a short run, dump that guy. Even that guy was a different type of Jesus believer (like Mormon), still you would be a sinner and your parents and church will not accept it. That proves that it is not about Jesus but the church. Do you agree?
Do you believe in sin? Do you believe in the Judgment Day? Do you believe Jesus is the savior while Hindus are idol worshipers?
Other easy fix is to convert the Hindu. That is what all Christians and Muslims do. Hindus are fool. You tell them that Jesus is one of Gods and he will be ready to be baptized. Once he is in, slowly and slowly you make him 100% Christian and 0% Hindu. Let us know if he is ready for a dip in water for your love.
Lets talk more later. Get back to us.
Do you think if she loves him…..she will do like this? By the way admin, I didnt expect this from you – “Hindus are fool. You tell them that Jesus is one of Gods and he will be ready to be baptized. Once he is in, slowly and slowly you make him 100% Christian and 0% Hindu”
Sarah, we love to talk to you. Thanks for sharing your concern.
We hope to have lengthy conversations with Ann, but right now we are showing her all easy options.
Most Hindus who marry to Muslims convert to Islam before their Islamic Nikaah. Likewise, most marriages in church means conversion of Hindu (or ask to sign child-rearing document for them being Christians only). We did not say all, but most. If you don’t believe us, go and talk to 10 imams and go visit 10 churches and let us know what you learned.
We do not believe in religious conversion or religious labeling on children. Our views are expressed here. Let us know if you agree with our views.
What would you recommend Ann should do?
Totally agreed with the video. I think That the parents’ reaction can be considered obvious in some situations. Because, many experiences of interfaith marriages are so horrifying that they certainly will not want their children to go through it. At such times, neither the parents are wrong nor the children. So, it becomes very confusing for the children. They don’t realize that they aren’t wrong.
By the way, who anchored the video? very sweet voice. 🙂
That’s one of our team members. We will pass the word to her.
Sarah, as you know we are non-profit. Actually we could make money by advertising (because of very high hit rates on this site) but we wish to remain non-profit. That also means we have to put lots of money out of our pocket to cover routine cost. We hope our efforts are helping youths in love.
Sarah,
Here the “children” is a wrong word, it should be “young adult”. Parents should know that the young adults is no more their baby. The young adult also have to take full responsibility for their life, meaning after quick talaak, never call parents for help. Where will you go?
Which video??