Friend, Boy Friend and Intended Spouse

Excellent message by Imran here. This is applicable to ALL interfaith friendship, dating and marriage.

Imran says: May 24, 2014 at 2:51 am

Unfortunately your (Aleshia) boyfriend considered a Kaafir, and therefore marriage will not be recognized by your parents, and your community etc, and most likely your family will disown you.

It never work, i know Muslim men and on the rare occasion women whom married Sikh people in the hope of proving people wrong, but it always goes wrong, and ends up in divorce. Often i wonder, whether such relationships were in fact inspired by watching too many Bollywood movies. Stop watching lot’s of fantasy and get back to reality, if you really truly know him, and e truly loved you, he would have changed everything in his life to accommodate you, even change his religion, and study Islam to it’s entirety for a good 3-4 years before marrying you, but it seem that this guy really took you for a ride, even though he doesn’t know it him self.

People use the word boyfriend so casually, not realizing that the word means that you are on the road to get married with each other. Just because a man respects you, treats you well, or says things that you agree with, or like, doesn’t mean he’s made up of the right material. This form of agreeance is described as Mutual Understanding, nothing more, it allows for peace around the world, between people of different faiths, race, sexes etc allows us to be empathetic with one another and be friends with each other, but does not constitute boyfriend material. For boy friend, you must put into consideration, family, children, life ambition, religion etc.

Often friends can steer you in the wrong direction as they belong to your peer group, and have very little understanding about the institution of marriage, and what constitutes a relationship, if i was you leave him, and follow your true hunch, that Muslim guy that was shy, but his friends have told you that he likes you, that’s the guy that you should go for, however if your relationship with the Sikh guy was a physical relationship, you might have already tainted that avenue, repent, and find a Muslim guy whom had similar experiences with Sikh women (most likely to be a bad apple though). In your heart of hearts you really know deep down who the right guy for you really was, you’ve just chosen the easy route, and it’s taken you here.

Keep away from friends when you looking for reassurances, they truly know nothing about relationships, it’s only married people, who’ve been with each other for a long time (at least 15 years) that can better advise you, erm for instance .. your parents, aunties, uncles, etc. if you think that your parents marriage is boring, watch what your’s is going to turn out to be with the sikh person, once all the lovey-dovey phase is over.

If your age is 16 – 24, go back to school, get your education, find a successful job, and we’ll all be running towards you, it’s not the other way around, any mature person will tell you this. -Imran


Also read if in relations with a Christian: Hindu-Christian Marriage, Will Gandhi go to Hell since he was not Baptized?, Bible on Hindus?, Idol-Worshippers, I am a Christian mother, I converted without knowledge of my family, I am Christian getting married to a Hindu, Do all Christians go to Heaven?, Ignorent Molly trying to convert a Krishna believer to Christianity ..a video, Namastey London movie…intolerant Christians ..a video, All religions are not same, A Hindu America?, Why I am a Hindu?, A fundamentalist Christian, Why I came back to Hinduism?, Dharma is not the same as religion, Text book on How to convert Hindu Students to Christianity,

Also read if in relationship with a Muslim: Muhammad, Hadith, Koran, Inter-race marriages, Hindu-Muslim marriages, Hindu girl/boy, Muslim girl/boy, Christian-Muslim marriages.
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