Fake-convert for marriage?

Rahul Brahmin says: August 26, 2012 at 2:31 pm

And yes I come from a MULTI RELIGIOUS family myself.

Dad is Saraswat Brahmin (we eat just about anything under the sun although his family was pure veg).

Mum is Half Christian (Father is half Portugese CHristian and half Goan HIndu) and Half Muslim (Mother is a Bohri / Bohra Muslim).

Mum’s sister is married to a Muslim man and he is the only one who is venomous when it comes to hypocrisy. He never lets his daughters mingle with me because they were really close to me. But he encourages his son to mix and mingle with his non muslim cousin sisters. TOOO MUCH!

My own sister is in love with a Muslim man for years, although its not working out in my opinion.

My brother is married to a Muslim Sunni Pathan girl, and well he did not have to convert as she came from a secular and rich family

I am married to Muslim Shia Pathan girl and I had to temporarily convert to make her folks happy. Now I have come back to Hinduism and although I havent asked her to convert (to Hinduism), she has NO ISSUES AT ALL to perform Hindu customs as long as I do not force her. now thats AMAZING isnt it ? She prays her style and I never question her.

Rahul continues….

Karan, about your girl here is what you can do-
– sit her down speak to her calmly. Tell her see I love you very much but my religion is as important to me as yours is to you.
– You continue praying to yours and I will to mine. Ask her why she is so adamant for you to convert. is it to please her folks or for herself? If its only to convince her folks, I dont see a reasonwhy you cant temporarily convert, get married and come back to your religion. I have done this for my girlfriend.

– She is my wife for over three and half months. Her family is happy, but she does everything hindu like and appreciates me going to my temple, doing just about anything hindu under the sun. She has never been happier.

– If it something she cannot come around, tell her you can do this much, convert to make her folks happy but then will revert and she MUST accept this. If she is not ready for this either, then you have to find a way to leave the woman. -Rahul.

Admin says:

Rahul Brahmin,

Why to make lies and deception a foundation of your long lasting married life? If you do not have any intention to be a Muslim, why to take a fake-shahadah oaths and fake-convert to Islam. Is this not an insult to her faith, her parents, her imams and to Islam?

Why a person with high self-esteem would go and lie to everyone just to get married, when there are many good options available? What is wrong having a civil marriage?

If you believe in God, why will you lie to Allah (or Krishna)? Alternatively, if you don’t believe in God, why you have to marry by religious ceremonies? Why can’t you keep your marriage secular?

Are you saying lies and fake-conversion are good, while to be honest and do truthful things are anti-Islamic?

You are no longer living under the British Raj, why have you not developed free thinking spirit. Who are you fearful of that prevent you from doing right things? This shows your weakness to fight against un-justice. Gandhiji fought against British Raj for a handful of salt, he was not fearful of his life. Honesty is the best policy. With people like you, this intolerance and irrational conversion business will go on even for 1000 more years.

What if your sister fake-convert and try to fool her Muslim lover and marry him? What is the guarantee that her life will not end up being like that of Madiha‘s mom, Nirmla, Liona, victims of Jihadis, Dee, Roma, and many more? We hope you are not a role model for your sister. We hope your sister has guts that of Jodhaabai.

If Aamir Khan has to run a new episode of Satyamev Jayate on religious conversion practices for marriages, what would he say for Rahul-Brahmin? Will India be proud of heroic actions of Rahul-Brahmin? Will other Indian young-adults look at Rahul-Brahmin as a role model and be proud of him?

Rahul, you are not alone. We know a (former?) Hindu girl who performs Krishna pooja every day in her home, while her Paki in-laws think she is converted and are very proud of her. Another Muslim guy, married to a Hindu, greets all Hindu relatives saying “Jay Shree Krishna”!! So, to them and many more, this Shahadah is only a 5 min of hollow ritual devoid of meaning. It is an easy way of fooling their rigid Muslim in-laws and to get married to their loved one.

What do other Muslims think? Are proud Muslims happy with this fake-conversions by Hindus?? What Islam will do collecting these fake-Muslims? Does such practice make Islam strong or weak?

Rahul-Brahmin, we do not mean to be HARSH on you. What is written above is not for you; but written on the society. It is not your fault, but rather you are a victim of the politicians and the priest class. You are not a liar, but compelled to lie. At your age of 23-something, no one expects you to be a Gandhi out to change the World. Please love and take good care of your Muslim wife in a Brahmin home; this is really a Godly work. Lets hope others learn from your example (except no fake-conversion!) and some day Aamir Khan admires your good deeds. Please come back to this site to guide other youths.

Also read: Fake-conversion, Hindu girl-Muslim boy,

Readers, is it okay to convert and revert to make parents happy? Is Shahadah a hollow ritual devoid of meaning? Is it not a win-win for all when the Muslim parents think this couple is Muslim and Hindu parents know that they are Hindus?? Alternatively, is this a marriage full of lies and deception? Express your views on this temporary conversion-reversion concept.

Also read: Islamic Women Today, Hindu-Muslim marriages, Hindu girl, Muslim girl, Hindu boy, Muslim boy,

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