Ara said to Vicky: May 28, 2012 at 4:45 PM
Hi,
I am a Muslim girl in exact same situation (a Hindu bf) as yours.
Its no child’s play. I always thought I could get married in both the styles Muslim as well as Hindu. I don’t believe in idol worship but I respect his faith. He himself is not very religious. One sad thing that comes along specially if you are not from city like Mumbai is that constant disgrace and comments in public. I am so scared of all this. I can’t hurt my parents but I want my love. I have always been their fav kid and now I have a Hindu bf this will blow their minds off.
Why can’t life be just easy like Genilia and Ritesh , SRK and Gouri.
@Shinivas: Please do not convert this thread into a HINDUISM V/s ISLAM war. Religion was made at those times to unite ppl, make them civilised but today we are divided and united only by being uncivilized. – Ara.
Admin replied:
Dear Ara,
Are you indirectly indicating that Vicky should convert to Islam, just for the heck of it? There is no legal hassle when a couple marries by a court, then why convert if he has no intention of being a true Muslim? Are you telling that Shahadah is a hollow ritual devoid of meaning? Are you teaching Hindu lovers to go and lie to Allah, to Islamic religious leaders, to religious institutions and to all their new Muslim relatives? What a shame! Why make lies and deception a foundation of a married life?
Ara, if you forgot, Shahadah is the declaration that “there is no god but Allah (…meaning Lord Rama and Goddess Laxmi are nothing but idols?) and Prophet Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah (…meaning only Muhammad’s messages are true while Lord Krishna messages are fake?). Associating partners with Allah is called Shirk (…meaning praying to Lord Rama and Goddess Laxmi is sin?). Shirk is not only the worship of idols (…is Kaaba not an idol?), but also offering prayers or supplications to anyone (…so no more eating prasad offerings at Hindu temples?), living or dead, believing that they hold the same attribute as Him (…should Christians stop praying to Jesus as His Son and convert to Islam?). The Koran considers Shirk as an unpardonable sin.
Instead of teaching to lie, why not ask Vicky to be truthful and honest. Tell him not to take Shahadah oaths just for marriage, unless changing his birth religion is his main objective. Why mix love and the business of religious conversion? If he has interest in Islam, ask him to go to a madrasa and spend 6 months there; not with a girl friend! Why waste lovely premarital dating time preaching about religion? Asking to take Shahadah “for the heck of it” is nothing but a love-trap (and a sin).
It you ultimately convert your Hindu boy friend to Islam; you are nothing but a love-proselytizer. For the heck of it, why don’t you convert to Hinduism (read Ayesha)? Do you feel Hinduism (and Christianity and the rest) is an inferior religion while Islam is the only true religion? Do you consider dating a Hindu is, in your word, “disgrace,” but converting him to Islam is an honor? If pleasing your community is so vital to you, why are you dating a Hindu to begin with?
You gave a big lecture to Srinivas of “civilization and unity,” and the same time indicating Vicky to convert to Islam, for the heck of it? What an “uncivilized” thought! Don’t preach that you cannot put in practice.
If you want an “easy” life, just do like that of Shah Rukh Khan…marry in a court and later perform pooja to Hindu Gods to show respect to your spouse. Show that you have guts to do right things.
Please make up your mind. Instead of proselytizing, tell your Hindu bf that you will never ask him to BBS and prove your true love.
Indian Said: May 31, 2012 7:32 pm
…i do agree with Admin on Ara… She is hypocrite, who dates a hindu boys and then tells him to convert for the heck of it. She is not only betraying her family, God, Faith but herself as well.
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Readers, what is your thought on religious conversion just to please your lover? Is religious conversion an “on” and “off” switch? Why these Muslim young adults have so much desire to convert others?
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HI Ara,
I am a Hindu Brahmin boy whose mother is Half Muslim half christian . My mother’s mother was Muslim and father was Indian but of half portugese descent.
We have had life easy in my house. My mother’s maternal family are muslims, her sister is married to a muslim etc.
The only reason I have refrained from being inclined to it is because my uncle who is a muslim ( mums sisters husband) has two girls Alia and Anjum and he hates me being close to them. He even complained to my mother once that I was trying to make them fall in love with me .
What is so hypocritical about this is the fact that at no point in time, the families ever complained when my aunty married him . And now he does not wish for his daughters to fall in love wiht a kafir !
I am SHOCKED because our family never believed in religion and now the MUSLIM half is THROWING IT AT OUR FACES! The duplicity within the religion is unprecedented. When I tell my mother about this, in the early years she used to get hurt. But lately, she herself says how glad she is that her mother married a non muslim.
I am not saying this to hurt your feelings. Just stop thinking about what the Koran says for a minute, and just reason objectively what is right or wrong, wihtout referencing any religious book.
Some of the things within Islam can be NOT GOOD , some of the things within Hinduism are equally bad or sometimes worse, and some parts of Christianity can be indigestible as well.
I personally would NOT mind converting to marry my girlfriend to keep her family happy. BUT I WOULD LET HER KNOW THAT I WILL SECRETLY RECONVERT BACK INTO MY OWN RELIGION and expect her to accept that.
Our kids I would not specifically teach them Hinduism NOR Islam but I wouldnt hesitate letting them go to either.
If you are willing for him to continue with whatever religion he wants without trying to constantly propogate yours to him and mentally psyche him, I do not see the reason for him to NOT convert just to make your parents happy. But Id expect it to be a temporary transition ONLY !
Conversion for marriage makes marriage a conditional marriage, not love marriage.
Ara you are a hatemongering muslim. society will make your marriage miserable i can forsee. His self respect is eroded. Now by making him to convert, he knows its a blackmail, he will marry 3 more women in future. It is a curse you brought upon yourself, he will not give maintenance either. For he has no reason to, he is a muslim.