Nique says: May 30, 2019 at 3:25 pm
Hi,
I am a catholic and will be marrying my malay boyfriend in Singapore thru civil marriage. We wish to marry muslim wedding after decided to convert. If we go to Malaysia after our muslim marriage, will we have any problem? Thank you. -Nique
Nique says: May 30, 2019 at 10:22 pm
Hi,Yes I do. It is just that I am currently at the UK and we wish to get married asap as he wants to follow me. He is adamant to follow me and I wanted to pursue marrying thru muslim marriage but it will take time and we do not have much as of the moment. We are still trying to pursue that but just in case we go through marrying civil afterwards. I wanted to know the implications… -Nique
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Hi,
Thank you for these. You have given the guidance that I need.
I only worry for my partner because of the laws in his country, but I do want to convert that is why I wanted to go thru muslim wedding first but he wants to follow me legally. And the only way to do that is to be married. He is adamant to follow soon and cannot wait for another year, thus, he is taking a risk to do so.
Dear Nique,
In general for you life, learn to make any decision only after you are fully convinced about it. This will save you lots of aggravations later in life. For example, if you are out buying a new car and the salesman is pressuring you to buy the car now because prices are going to increase tomorrow; simply walk away. This is specifically true for marriage where it is easy to get married but divorce will ruin you. It is your life and you know the situation best, so do that you feel is right.
On “He is adamant to follow soon and cannot wait for another year”, don’t feel pressured. A simple Nikaah does not take more than a day and non-Nikaah registered marriage also does not take more than a month or so. For this reason, you do not need to wait more than a year. However, we recommend to take at least a few months to critically think through.
Have you been to Malaysia? We highly recommend to go visit Malaysia as a tourist and meet his parents before marriage. Spend a week or so with them and know and understand them. This will increase your chance of a successful marriage since you are reducing many surprises.
Can you explain us “I do want to convert”? Amongst many religions, why you picked one over the other religion to convert to. Please share how you decided to convert to Islam. Let’s talk more. Thanks.
Dear Nique,
Thank you for reaching out. You need to understand Malaysian marriage laws critically because it could create big problem for you later. Before we guide you further, can you explain what do you mean by “We wish to marry muslim wedding after decided to convert.” Have you (a Christian) decided to convert (be a Muslim) or are you saying if you decide to covert? Please clarify. Let’s talk more later.
Hi,Yes I do. It is just that I am currently at the UK and we wish to get married asap as he wants to follow me. He is adamant to follow me and I wanted to pursue marrying thru muslim marriage but it will take time and we do not have much as of the moment. We are still trying to pursue that but just in case we go through marrying civil afterwards. I wanted to know the implications…
Dear Nique,
Marriage is something life long thing. Further, converting to Islam is a not-reversible conversion that something you should understand clearly. For these reasons, we do not agree to “get married asap … and we do not have much as of the moment.” We highly recommend you to take your time for the marriage and conversion and not rush into it.
You said you wish to be a Muslim. If you never met this guy or if he gives you talaak (divorce), would you still convert or stay converted to Islam? Please clearly understand Sharia and read Koran if that fits with your life ambitions and ideologies. We found Malaysian marriage laws very unfair to Christians and other non-Muslims (view). It’s your choice and your life, we will be glad as far as you are happy on a long run.
The conversion to Islam takes only 2 minutes and Islamic Nikaah wedding can be done quickly. Ask any imam in your country. If you truly wished to be a Muslim for life and want Nikaah, there is no need for the intermediate secular marriage.
If you have even 1% hesitation converting to Islam, simply don’t convert now. Instead get married by the secular marriage in UK or Singapore. After the secular marriage, if you go to Malaysia as a tourist for a few days, that will not be an issue. However if you consider to settle in Malaysia, then you will have to convert to Islam then.
Let us know what else we can clarify. Best wishes.