BRAMHIN says: March 29, 2020
I am in mid-twenty Hindu girl with a job in an MNC. I am in a live-in relationship with a Muslim boy for 3 years. My partner is very supportive of my religion. I told my parents about our relationship recently but they are denying to accept the boy. Please note that my parents have no one except me to take care of them but I can never leave my partner because of this fact. My parents are asking me not to marry my partner even if I am not marrying anyone else. My partner (also me) is not ready with this condition. My parents are scared of the relatives as I was a perfect girl from my childhood and this is the only time, I disobeyed them. I want help with how should I behave in this situation.
Also, though my partner is very supportive about my religion still he believes in “ALLAH” and takes part in all Muslim festivals. Also though I do not go to mandir regularly, I can’t imagine taking part in Diwali or Navaratri. I am scared that though we are supportive of each other now, in the later stages will it be an obstacle in our relationship. -Brahmin
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Hi
I’m Anjali*** a 21 year old Gujarati Brahmin girl from London UK. I was born in England but my parents are originally from Ahmedabad Gujarat. I work in my dad’s company. He has his own insurance business and there are about 40 people working in the office. For the past few years I have been dating a 49 year old Muslim guy from our office. His name is Irfan Malik but he is known as Sultan. I won’t go into detail about the things that happen in the office when my dad is out attending meetings, because it might not be appropriate for this site, but I do have fun with some of Sultan’s friends who work with us.
Sultan is married and has 2 children. His son is 18 and his daughter is 23. Sultan’s family is in Pakistan but will be coming to UK soon. Sultan said he will carry in dating me in secret even after his family arrive, but I am not sure because I am supposed to get married next year to Ashok. He is my dad’s friend’s son. He is also Gujarati Brahmin. I have a few options but need help deciding what to do. I could break up with Sultan and start a new life with Ashok, but I do not love Ashok, I am not attracted to him in anyway. I could tell Ashok about Sultan and give him the opportunity to break our engagement. Or I could marry Ashok and carry on seeing Sultan in secret.
***Admin’s note: Admin tried to get connected with this person (used named Anjali) to verify provided information but he/she declined to follow it up.
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Hi Anjali, are these (including yours) names and ages correct? If yes, are you not concerned giving your private information? Sometimes we get fake comments and they wish to go graphic with specific details.
Now to your questions, what do you think is right steps to take? If your best girl friend ask you the same, what would recommend her to do?
If you don’t love Ashok, don’t waste his time. Be bold and tell your parents.
Is Sultan willing to accept you as his second wife?
You said, “I do have fun with some of Sultan’s friends who work with us”. We do not have much left to tell you here for the life you wish to lead.
Hi Admin
I fully understand what you mean about people wishing to go graphic., that is why I said that I will not go into any detail as it may not be appropriate for this site. The names and ages I have given are correct as I do not mind sharing that information but I do not give out numbers, emails or other contact info.
I have read your advice and I thank you for it. I am enjoying my secret life the way it is at the moment, so I think I will leave things the way they are for now. Unfortunately Sultan is not willing to make me his second wife, and that is not legally allowed here in England. Also I do not wish to marry him anyway. I enjoy the physical side of our relationship but I am not interested in marrying someone who is older than my father. I can not tell my parents about Sultan because my dad would be very angry and very upset. My parents have an image of me as a traditional sanskaari brahmin girl, I do not want to ruin that for them. I will consider telling Ashok about Sultan. Then if Ashok wants to break off the wedding he can.
Thanks again for your advice.
Anjali xx
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On “I will consider telling Ashok”, you should learn to take charge of your own life. This is not Ashok and his problem, but this is your own personal issue. It is YOU and not Ashok to solve it. It is you to go and tell your parents that you do not wish to marry Ashok and put and end to it. Be bold. The day you will do that, we will be convinced that you are a mature girl capable of taking care of yourself.
Why you took the approach of lies and deception to your own dear parents? If one day, your own daughter cheats you this way after you raising her to 20 some years with lots of love and affections, how would you feel then? If you hate your parents and are not worth calling them parents, then the above does not apply.
You said, “I do not mind sharing that information”. Do you know this information will stay on this web site, potentially for next 50 years for all to come and view it. How would you feel when your (who ever) future husband read this about Anjali, will not it make you nervous? How about your children read this about their mother that “I do have fun with some of Sultan’s friends”? Have you taken Sultan’s permission to disclose his personal information. Google Image search for “Irfan Malik 49 UK”, does his picture comes there?
We are little confused for how to help you. However we do care for you. Keep in touch.
Don’t marry him. You may end up serving ISIS as a sex slave.
Marry any one from Hindu community. At least you can live as per your dreams. Further you are already in M NC. You can keep going up and up.
Muslims women literacy rate is just 6%. So obviously your in-laws may not like you. You may face serious consequences at any time.
Without thinking all these issues you should have not lifted your legs.
Now you are half done. Don’t become fully done and feel later.
Dear Brahmin, you already read what we said to Priya at https://interfaithshaadi.org/rose-rose-carnation-carnation/ Assume Priya is your older sister. What would you recommend her to do now? What would you do different than her? Let us know what is your number one concern marrying that guy? Please get back to us and lets talk more soon. Best wishes.