Hema says: November 12, 2013 at 9:28 am
Dear All
Love is something between two hearts. And I do agree marriage is between two religion. I am a born Hindu girl married a Muslim guy and being in relationship for three years now. What I understood and consoled my self from the beginning is God is one and we are all human beings. God didnt created religion and we are the one who did it. If he likes me wearing Hijab or Burka or if he wishes me not to go temple, I will do it for the sake of him. Because I love him. If your love is true and you really love him, you will sacrifice. Never see your sacrifices because God is seeing it. God is just one and this what Muslims, Christians, Hindus or any one preach…
But yes, I get upset because of my parents and in laws feelings. They dont like me to see in bindi and my parents doesnt like to see me in Burka.. This is the problem which I face personally. No body can work under two bosses as the same no body can be in two religion. Though I know it sometimes I feel why God has made me to take this decision. But atlast I strong believe God is taking all inter caste or inter religion marriage is been done only for a goodness. It will either gives you wisdom or a lesson. Both is good any how. Life is short enjoy and make others happy , you too will be happy….
With lots of care. -Hema
tamanna says: November 13, 2013 at 5:26 am
Oh god…..
Finally a hindu girl who married a muslim guy….
M sooo pleased to see that….but please tell , e how did you managed all of it …it will be a great help….also…, how did you got married??? What about your parents and in laws??? I am reallu curious to knw,,, also, did you convert yourself??? Do you still go to temple??? Does you husband accompany you??? I would love to know the whole story…. Tamanna
Hema says: January 23, 2014 at 9:00 am
Dear Tamanna,
Admin asked me a question how your wedding happened. It happened in two way. One is Nikkha and from my parents side its Court civil wedding.
If you here about my wedding, oh my God I would say only God (Allah) helped me. One thing we need to understand without God’s will nothing will happen though you try your 100% effort. My family is complete orthodox family and I dont eat meat and my husband and in laws are 100% religious having great faith and my husband is a preacher and goes 20 days a year for preaching people in small villages.
He knows what his religion and family about as the same as mine. But it was just a spark turning about from friendship to love and we decided to marry. To be honest we both didnt reveal a word to our family and our family came to know about this themself. When they asked we completely agreed. Believe it or not both the parents said the same thing, our children knows what is right and wrong and they know about each family and pride and if they did so, its not these people who did, its only God made them to unite.
But when it comes to the ritual, there was lost of up and downs. My family preferred doing wedding in one way and my in laws obviously they have their domination too. Both understood each other that marriage is not with domination or rules but both sides has equal rights and equality. Hence my in laws agreed to do two weddings. One is Islamic Nikkah which happened first and second for our relatives its court civil register marriage. We had two receptions for each family relatives. Everything was smooth.
Have clarity in kids in which religion it should be bought. I decided to bring it in Islamic because they suggest to have a discipline in desire (please dont misunderstand not to have desires at all, you can have it but to have a discipline in it).
Analysation what I made is Hindu or Muslim they follow the same but having more disciplinary acts in Islamic tradition. We ladies in Hinduism go to temple wearing jewelleries, well dressed and groomed. This makes a person happy while seeing a lady with a blissful attitude. The same things are done in Islamic but with a disciplinary act thinking that not to make a poor person to feel jealous hence they are wearing a burka.
As Islamic people are bought in much discipline they seems to be more strict than other general communities. Hence we all have some kind of screen between them and us. But if you analyze both the sides you will come to know all we are walking in same path of God.
I really dont know why God made me to come into this site and made me to write a blog, but for sure at least one person after reading this will feel better and for that one person God made me to spend some of my time.
Last but not least Love is God and God is Love. Love everyone and God loves you.
With lots of love and care. -HemaWhy are your frustrated Md, Zia ? This (India) is a secular / democratic country, so you would be a communal minded sick person to ask her (Sabana) problems in “light of Islamic Laws”. In India the light is Indian law, constitutional rights… so use that light to see her problems, this is not a Muslim country for you to show your Islamic laws.
Hi all I was really looking for some good website to know how it goes for a hindu woman who marries to a muslim guy. I would like to discuss it you all. Please add me.
Suresh,
Probably the best site for this purpose is http://www.InterfaithShaadi.org. We don’t think there is any other site even close. Put it in the Google for “Hindu Muslim Marriage” or similar terms and search it yourself.
We recommend you start from this link. https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2402
Let us know what is that you are looking for? Do you know someone in relationship?
I m a hindu girl. One of my muslim friend is in love wd me. I dnt know wat to do. I really respect his feelings and also felt something in my heart for him. But it s the start. I dnt knw hw to pursue everything. We decided to wait until we both get good jobs on our apart. I m vry pure frm heart about any religion. I always feel dat god s inside we people, we jst gave him different names, bhagwanji, allah, jesus, waheguruji. But nw m very confused. He said dat he also eats cow’s meat but i worshp cow. In returned he said ill stop eating dat. I dnt knw wat to do. I m so confused. But also wanna wid him. But i dnt know anything about islam. I dnt know how to cope up wd my situation. I want a sudden help, splly from hema and tamanna.
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7688
Hema,
Can you share more information about your married life?
Do you work out side the home?
What is your given Muslim name?
How many children you have by now?
When did you visited last your parents for an overnight stay? Remember, these are your parents who gave you birth, the mother who breast feed you, parents who spend lots of money for your education and wellfare and gave you liberty and freedom.
Would you be happy if your children treat you one day the same way you treated your parents?
For liberty and freedom people come to USA and West (including Muslim women from East). Do you feel more liberty and freedom for what you wish to do in your now married life compared to your parents home? Can you wear sari, bindi and go to a temple, if you wish? Can you go out with your Hindu friends for movie? Can you mingle with your Hindu cousins? How much liberty you have (other than being an “obedient” or a puppet wife to a Muslim)?
Hema,
Thank you for your recent reply to Tammana at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7354#comment-314809.
You said “both sides has equal rights and equality”. You took shahadah conversion for your Nikaah, got a Muslim name, agreed to raise children Muslims and following all Islamic life. You did not followed request from your parents to have a Hindu wedding. Further, you said earlier, “(Muslim relatives) dont like me to see in bindi and my parents doesnt like to see me in Burka”, and now you are praising burka practices. We see that you have 100% Muslim vs. 0% Hindu deal, can you explain how your marriage is a marriage of equality of two faiths?
In the West it dose not matter but in India the first marriage counts for legal reasons. So all Islamic laws apply to your Muslim-Muslim married life. He could have 3 additional wives if he wishes, he could lightly beat you to correct you, he could give you a legally valid divorce simply by saying Talak three times but you will have difficulty getting a divorce if wish for and you will never have custody rights to your children after your talak. if you do get a talk, where are you going to go? We hope not your parents. Why are you suggesting Tamanna to follow your footsteps?
Even in West, considering you both are Muslims (after your Shahadah), you will not get custody of your children after divorce because you cannot raise them in Islam. There is nothing you gained by Shahadah, unless you wish to be a true Muslim.
You said, “My family is complete orthodox family and … my husband and in laws are 100% religious having great faith”, explain how your husband and his family are not orthodox?
Your parents may be orthodox but they have hearts. You said “love is God”, did you gave them love? How they are coping with your conversion to Islam?
How many children you have by now?
We see this as a liberty for “Hinduism go to temple wearing jewelleries, well dressed and groomed”. Why any free thinker will like to settle for burka instead of choices of what one wishes to wear?
You said, “they seems to be more strict”, yes, you will know it well on the day you raise your head. You are loosing all liberty and freedom in life and being an “obedient” wife. Enjoy your restrictions and disciplined life. It is good for your husband!
You said, “Love is God and God is Love.” However, he would not have married you if you declined shahadah. Love is NOT important, but your conversion to Islam is.
Your husband has managed to preach you all that is in his favor. You are certainly a gullible girl. You will realize facts only when it is too late. We are waiting right here to hear more from you. Good luck!
you are agood girl because you are honest every one like it thanks
Hiiee……. Admin !! 🙂
Do you remember me? Kaveri?? 🙂
Actually today m here to share my story… I am dating a muslim guy frm last 2 and a 9mnths… He loves me a lot dat i knw nd me too but he was very a bit strict abt his religion, bt he never imposed his religion on me but he wantd to raise our kids as muslim nd follow only islam…..
so after cumng to dis website i sumhw got provoked, we had lots nd lots of fights over this issue… he was not at all ready to sacrifice nethng, nd he was like i cannot go against my religion…
so i than said if u cant dan how can i????
After dat i left him, i dint even tried to contact him also….
Than after 1 nd a half mnth he cm up to me and said dat ”Please cum back… If u want i will gt convert nd bcm a hindu …” These were his wrds nd soon after that dis year he celebrated diwali with me…
I hv light diyas in his house, make rangoli && did pooja too… He is compltly a chngd person now with liberal thoughts….
we will gt married by hindu vivaah ceremony…
I am so happy u knw…. this website helpd me so much….. 🙂
Today i have gt everything i wanted from my muslim bf….. 🙂 Nd i hoped that each nd every hindu girl instead of sacrificing their religion or getting convrt must try nd fight to remain in their own religion..
Now today i can say proudly that i have changed my bfs attitude towards my religion && nw he is such a good muslim…. 🙂
I am so proud of my muslim bf…. 🙂
Thanxx a lot…. :* 🙂 🙂 🙂
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=6025
Congratulations! 🙂
Admin
How do you expect logical argument from illiterate persons like Riya(Accepted hindu….. for penetration) and ex Muslim (who has declined to make his new name known to the readers) as none of them has seen the gate of a school. Don`t think every got primary education in England or highly educated as I am.(Sorry for talking big)
Md.ia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Bloody bitch Riya and bastard “Ex Muslim”
As soon as you die both of you will be burnt in hell fire. Riya, you became hindu but your parents are pious Muslims and therefore they don`t allow you in their house. You have become hindu for “penetration.” Am I correct. Yes it is a fact. And you,ex-Muslim,@ swine/hogget/pig which religion do you follow? No use, I will give you the ticket to go to hell without any problem. Bastard, why don`t you request Admin to arrange a debate with me? You traitor do it now.
Md.Zia-ulHaque,Alim & Advocate
Admin
In an earlier occasion I had requested you to filter filthy language used against Holy Prophet Muhammed(S.W.A) but unfortunately you have allowed this blog to be used as an abusive center where some of your readers are using filthy,foul,unclean,nasty,obscene,dirty,profane,unholy,offensive and abusive language against the Holy Prophet of Islam which is even disliked by a non Muslim, Love Guru who has advised me to join somewhere else.
Admin, I now request you to kindly delete the abusive and objectionable words/language used by some of your readers and take sufficient care so that such language is filtered henceforth or else this is my last communication/response with you or in this blog.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque
There are some 10,000 comments on this site and it is difficult to go back and filter and keep that is suitable to all. However, moving forward for new comments, we could remind readers to focus on the site’s main goal of helping youths in interfaith love.
We would appreciate if you could guide to these youths:
Hema: https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7354
Mahek https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7337
Halima https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7249
If you don’t guide, then who else will guide them?
Admin – Any guidelines that you are setting for posting the messages should be applicable to all the religions. It cannot be for satisfying the followers of one particular religion. There are several abuses against all the religions. Request to keep this point in mind.
My personal preference is to set the guidelines for discouraging personal abuse and leave religious figures/topics open for questioning.
Mr. Haque,
Do you agree here? Any personal attack without any supportive evidence should be removed. If someone has question about Krishna’s multiple gopis or Muhmmad’s multiple wives, that stays on for others to explain. Please focus on helping youths in love and leave less essential matters for others. Carry on Godly work!
Mr.Tenali
Good suggestion. This is called equal treatment under equal circumstances.
I don`t know whether you have noticed or not that ever since I have joined this site some frustrated ladies duped in love by their former Muslims husbands and/or boy friends have been abusing me and that I had no other option but to retaliate. However, you must have seen that moved by such pathetic conditions of these women I have already started giving legal aid & advise with cooperation of some Muslim and non Muslim Advocates for which Admin has also appreciated my gesture.
I hereby request you to kindly advise those women to stop abusing me and instead take appropriate free legal help if they so desire or require.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Mr.Tenali
You are very much active here but why are not answering to the last question I have asked you in that blog “First I am a Muslim and then an Indian” Please answer as this will enhance my little or limited knowledge.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque
I already answered it, it is only that you don’t want to read. If you want your answer to come from me, I am sorry.
My only request to you to kindly ensure that henceforth no nasty or abusive language is used against the Holy Prophet of Islam(S.W.A) by your readers in this website. If used it should be filtered or deleted.
If the condition is fulfilled then please advise your readers to ask me any question about Islam and Islamic Law.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Mohd. Zia Ul and his entire family is bastard for the last
10 generations working against humanity.
May his soul burn in the hell fire.
Imrana,divorcee woman of the town,
You have proved yourself a jealous person and therefore yelping so frequently now a days.You were divorced by my clerk`s son as you were already married with Ramesh Kumar,sweeper of Muslim Hotel,Kolkata. Why did you suppress this fact? It is your fault. If you want I can get you married with my domestic help`s widower son dhokabaz. I am not a widow hunter.Your mother,getting my address from your master wanted to come to my life but knowing her past I said no Then she brought your little daughter with her and therefore I have accepted both of them.You know very well, I am doing yeoman`s service. I did not know that you would be so much angry and annoyed. Alright take back your mother and leave your grand mother here. In no circumstances I will allow your daughter to go with you for her safety.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque, Your proud father and son in law
Mr. Mohd.Zia Ulhaque,
Can you marry your own 9year old daughter or sister to a person of
58 years old? Rightly so many learned writers have exposed your monster face and rightly disclosed your childhood reality of sexually abused by so many imams and mullas in madrasas.Your entire family is notorious belonging to Sonagachi red light area of Kolkatta and even your mother does not know the exact name of your father being involved with multiple sex partners for earning money only.
Bastard Imrana,
I got primary education in England.
I am ready to marry your old mother and you six year little daughter.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Your father and son in law
Cool down cool down chacha jani! I think this blog is not the right place to discuss religion. so I am withdrawling. On the blog where nobody is sitting before you and just making your temper loose while using bad words about prophets. This is not fair. Prophets are concerned to over all humanity and allways respectable.
Please be aware of such fools those know nothing what is prophetism and make you angry.
Mulla Chacha jani you can continue with me on pongapandat421@gmail. com
I assure you nobody will use bad words there.
Now I am stopping this foolish and nonsense blog.
Thank you
Thanks for your greatness.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim& Advocate
Dear Guruji
Not getting pon…..gmail.com.
How to connect with you?
Best wishes
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Mohd. Zia is no doubt bastard He appreciates Mohammad who raped 9 years
old girl in the name of so called marriage at the age of 58 years.
He is talibani and training talibani mentality persons in India.
Bloody swine Imrana
You are one of those non Muslim women who were reverted to Islam to get married with a brilliant Muslim boy but were kicked out by the in laws for being disobedient to husband and parents in law.
Not only me but every Muslim loves and respects Prophet Muhammed(S.W.A.) or else he is not Muslim.Ask your former husband.However,I can solve your problem by getting you married with my hindu servant.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Hema
Do you eat Beef? How long you married now?
Are you sure you muslim husband will not bring another wife?
Eating beef is optional in Islam but it is recommended in Hindu religion my dear Imrana.
Who knows who will not get married second time.Know about former Union Minister N.D Tewari whose son from 2nd wife had to file a case in Court for his identity as the son of Tewari.
Just ascertain how many times DMK leader M.Karunadhi has married.It has become more common amongst the Hindus now a days, at least statistics say so.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque, Alim & Advocate
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & ASdvocate
Eating beef is optional in Islam but it is recommended in Hindu religion my dear Imrana.
Who knows who will not get married second time.Know about former Union Minister N.D Tewari whose son from 2nd wife had to file a case in Court for his identity as the son of Tewari.
Just ascertain how many times DMK leader M.Karunadhi has married.It has become more common amongst the Hindus now a days, at least statistics say so.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque, Alim & Advocate
This is not duplicate Mr.System
@Zia –ul-Fuck…..Read this, If you have minimum brain….Mohammed slept with slaves without marriage, Another evil face of Fucking MUHAM–MAD:—-
As a Muslim, do you people actually believe that Mohammed never had sex outside marriage? Would it shock you to learn then that Mohammed not only had sex outside marriage but did it with prisoners he acquired during wars, and that too with full consent of his god Allah, in his book the Quran. Let us read Surah Al-Azhab (chapter 33), verses 50-52 while keeping in mind that being lawful in context of women in Quran means to be lawful to have sex with, since your wives and your right hand possessions are lawful to you according to Quran.
Quran 33:50 reads as follows:
O Prophet! We have made lawful to thee thy wives to whom thou hast paid their dowers; and those whom thy right hand possesses out of the prisoners of war whom Allah has assigned to thee; and daughters of thy paternal uncles and aunts, and daughters of thy maternal uncles and aunts, who migrated (from Makka) with thee; and any believing woman who dedicates her soul to the Prophet if the Prophet wishes to wed her;- this only for thee, and not for the Believers (at large); We know what We have appointed for them as to their wives and the captives whom their right hands possess;- in order that there should be no difficulty for thee. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
You can see clearly that Mohammed had lawful right to sleep with his wives, and many other kinds of women acquired through various means, including women who were prisoner’s of war captured on the battlefield. May I also remind you of the verses of Quran that allow Mohammed to accept 20 percent of all the war booty including his share of slaves especially women (read Quran 8:41).
So seeing the above, do you believe even now that Mohammed never had sex outside marriage? What about Maria the Copt with whom Mohammed had the son Ibrahim? All Muslim sources unanimously agree that Maria was Mohammed’s concubine.
Read the Tafsir of Quran Chapter 66 verses 1 to 5, and you will see what ensued when Mohammed slept with Maria the Copt the first time. Are these traits really truly of a person who is pious and a prophet of GOD?
Eating beef is optional in Islam but it is recommended in Hindu religion my dear Imrana.
Who knows who will not get married second time.Know about former Union Minister N.D Tewari whose son from 2nd wife had to file a case in Court for his identity as the son of Tewari.
Just ascertain how many times DMK leader M.Karunadhi has married.It has become more common amongst the Hindus now a days, at least statistics say so.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque, Alim & Advocate THIS IS NOT DUPLICATE RESPONSE
This is not duplicate Mr.System
Idiot Mr Fuck……….Now answer this…….
I know, Your ass will be Burning………….
Mr, Idiot, Now, I will see, How much literate are you? Now, Answer my questions:
One VERY simple question really needs an answer…because I am personally sick of it! Every time Muslim takes Mohammad’s name each time they say peace be upon him (pbuh).
My point why peace be upon Mohammad?
Was he evil? Was he Satan? Was he sinner?
If not then why peace be upon him? Not a single Prophet from the Old Testament nor the Apostle from the New Testament needs our prayers.
So why Mohammad needs peace?
I am looking forward the ANSWER from Muslim.
Bastard “Ex Muslim”
First let me know your new name,Occupation, educational qualification and the religion you follow now and then only I may interact with you. Is swine your new name?
Md.Zia-ul-Haque, B.Sc, LLB, Alim(Cal)
Advocate,High Court,Calcutta
And
Supreme Court of India
Ex-Asst Director in Charge,Legal Cell,EIA,Calcutts,Ministry of Commerce & Industry, Govt of India,
Ex-Asst.Director in Charge,Law Cell,Office of the Custodian of Enemy Property,Calcutta, Govt of India.
Ex-Genl Secy,(Central Executive Committee) All India Export Inspection Officers` Association
@Haque: You r a Bustard, F… scum……..ISLAMI Swine, Your Puppet like face producing faul smell since 610 A.D. Do not worry , You have to be stoned to death…F… , Sex maniac, scoundrel , Muslim Puppet……
You bastard nom Muslim
Before I am “stoned to death” I will liquidate you and your entire family to become a SHAHEED.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
@Mr F…….Now f… your own ass . Just like your Poppat Muham–mad who f… your Mother, Grandmother. Bloody f… Pedo, Just like your sex maniac, Rapist , Road side lutera MUHAM–MAD. F… yourself, No body cares whether you r dead or alive……Lolzzzzz. Low life Muslim Scoundrel, Cow–dung eater.
Riya, Please do not abuse this Muslim bastard……He is totally mentally retarded. Let him die.
@Zia –ul-Hauq…..Read this, If you have minimum brain….Mohammed slept with slaves without marriage, Another evil face of Fucking MUHAM–MAD:—-
As a Muslim, do you people actually believe that Mohammed never had sex outside marriage? Would it shock you to learn then that Mohammed not only had sex outside marriage but did it with prisoners he acquired during wars, and that too with full consent of his god Allah, in his book the Quran. Let us read Surah Al-Azhab (chapter 33), verses 50-52 while keeping in mind that being lawful in context of women in Quran means to be lawful to have sex with, since your wives and your right hand possessions are lawful to you according to Quran.
Quran 33:50 reads as follows:
O Prophet! We have made lawful to thee thy wives to whom thou hast paid their dowers; and those whom thy right hand possesses out of the prisoners of war whom Allah has assigned to thee; and daughters of thy paternal uncles and aunts, and daughters of thy maternal uncles and aunts, who migrated (from Makka) with thee; and any believing woman who dedicates her soul to the Prophet if the Prophet wishes to wed her;- this only for thee, and not for the Believers (at large); We know what We have appointed for them as to their wives and the captives whom their right hands possess;- in order that there should be no difficulty for thee. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
You can see clearly that Mohammed had lawful right to sleep with his wives, and many other kinds of women acquired through various means, including women who were prisoner’s of war captured on the battlefield. May I also remind you of the verses of Quran that allow Mohammed to accept 20 percent of all the war booty including his share of slaves especially women (read Quran 8:41).
So seeing the above, do you believe even now that Mohammed never had sex outside marriage? What about Maria the Copt with whom Mohammed had the son Ibrahim? All Muslim sources unanimously agree that Maria was Mohammed’s concubine.
Read the Tafsir of Quran Chapter 66 verses 1 to 5, and you will see what ensued when Mohammed slept with Maria the Copt the first time. Are these traits really truly of a person who is pious and a prophet of GOD?
Riya,
Please refrain from using bad words. You could make any logical argument with supporting evidences. Thanks for understanding.
@Zia Ul–Haq: Hey, Mind your language, You Bloody Swine!
@Admin: Please, Remove this bastard from this page, This muslim scum is totally drunk, He even does not know How to speak Properly, His only motto is How to abuse Others.
Dear Imrana
I believe in one thing strongly. Love is God and God is love. I love my husband a lot and I am damn sure he wont marry again. If he marries again the wife would be the same. If you say eating beef is wrong eating non-veg itself wrong, if you suggest eating living things is wrong eating itself becomes wrong. All things and particles in the world has sense and it is alive until one kills them. And my one small request kindly dont argue each other whose religion is great, etc. Please let us all understand if we are a good human for sure God will take all of us to Heaven. You need not be in this religion or that religion. We can be Indian, British or Chinese being in Christanity, Muslim or Buddhist but we all are humans, unique as a souls.
If I have hurt some one feelings, my sincere apologize. And Riya husband who is converted or reverted in Hindu is not wrong at all and for sure God will bless him because he did sacrificed known or unknown something for his love but last understand one thing, if you are not comfortable in being in any of religion that becomes sin. If you do anything full heartedly then stone too becomes mud. If you not then the mud will seems to be like a big mountain.
Love everyone and God loves you.
Take care
With love and care
Hema, you know it well that “God will take all of us to Heaven” is not Islamic teachings. Only Muslims who followed Muhammad’s teaching will go to heaven while all non-believers will get Hell Fire. If you have not heard it yet, go ask your imam.
You said, “eating living things is wrong eating itself becomes wrong”. Let us explain you the principle of nonviolence. It is absolutely impossible to be 100% nonviolent, however objective is to pick an option that is less violent. If you desire for a mango, eat mango but you do not have to cut the mango tree. If you need, use milk rather than killing a cow when other better healthy options available.
Oh god…..
Finally a hindu girl who married a muslim guy….
M sooo pleased to see that….but please tell , e how did you managed all of it …it will be a great help….also…, how did you got married??? Waht about your parents and in laws??? I am reallu curious to knw,,, also, did you convert yourself??? Do you still go to temple??? Does you husband accompany you??? I would love to know the whole story….
Tamanna
I feel sorry for you. Pl.tell me the obstruction you are facing. I think i will be able to solve your problem.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Tamanna
Dil ki tamanna hai k solve karey problem Tamanna Ki.
Tamanna, why don`t you follow the foot step of Hema and settle in life? Alternatively allow me to take up the matter with your BF`s parents.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque
Dear Tamanna
Admin asked me a question how your wedding happened. It happened in two way. One is Nikkha and from my parents side its Court civil wedding.
If you here about my wedding, oh my God I would say only God (Allah) helped me. One thing we need to understand without God’s will nothing will happen though you try your 100% effort. My family is complete orthodox family and I dont eat meat and my husband and in laws are 100% religious having great faith and my husband is a preacher and goes 20 days a year for preaching people in small villages.
He knows what his religion and family about as the same as mine. But it was just a spark turning about from friendship to love and we decided to marry. To be honest we both didnt reveal a word to our family and our family came to know about this themself. When they asked we completely agreed. Believe it or not both the parents said the same thing, our children knows what is right and wrong and they know about each family and pride and if they did so, its not these people who did, its only God made them to unite.
But when it comes to the ritual, there was lost of up and downs. My family preferred doing wedding in one way and my in laws obviously they have their domination too. Both understood each other that marriage is not with domination or rules but both sides has equal rights and equality. Hence my in laws agreed to do two weddings. One is Islamic Nikkah which happened first and second for our relatives its court civil register marriage. We had two receptions for each family relatives. Everything was smooth.
Have clarity in kids in which religion it should be bought. I decided to bring it in Islamic because they suggest to have a discipline in desire (please dont misunderstand not to have desires at all, you can have it but to have a discipline in it)
Analysation what I made is Hindu or Muslim they follow the same but having more disciplinary acts in Islamic tradition. We ladies in Hinduism go to temple wearing jewelleries, well dressed and groomed. This makes a person happy while seeing a lady with a blissful attitude. The same things are done in Islamic but with a disciplinary act thinking that not to make a poor person to feel jealous hence they are wearing a burka.
As Islamic people are bought in much discipline they seems to be more strict than other general communities. Hence we all have some kind of screen between them and us. But if you analyze both the sides you will come to know all we are walking in same path of God.
I really dont know why God made me to come into this site and made me to write a blog, but for sure at least one person after reading this will feel better and for that one person God made me to spend some of my time.
Last but not least Love is God and God is Love. Love everyone and God loves you.
With lots of love and care
Hema,
Thank you for sharing your views and life experiences. We agree that “God didnt created religion and we are the one who did it” and “Life is short enjoy and make others happy, you too will be happy”.
Based on your life experiences, what would you say to Tamanna and Mahek? We would love to work with you here as a consultant helping youths.
One question for you…. How did you got married? By Hindu Vivaha ceremony? … by Islamic Nikaah? …or by Court-civil wedding?