Neha says: April 20, 2015 at 11:23 am
Hi i am in love with a muslim guy frm past 7 years…neither of our parents are agreeing to let us marry…well he is a good guy and works in a good company…as a person he is good but also religious at the same time. please suggest me being a hindu girl what is right for me to do?
For now he is telling me that u dnt hav to convert and no need to wear burka… but in reality will a marriage be valid if u dnt convert to muslim? can we still be like a hindu? i realy have no clue wat all muslim women follow… pls let me know wat all things wuld be different marrying a muslim guy… -Neha
Admin says:
Dear Neha,
Thank you for reaching out to us. It seems that you have never bother taking any interest what happen after interfaith love.
For a Hindu, Marriage with a Muslim guy is like walking on fire. You got to be very well prepared for next steps in life, if you wish not to be burned.
We will discuss more at length later but let us answer quickly some of your questions, if that helps:
1) “being a hindu girl what is right for me to do?”: Tell him that I am a Hindu and will die as a Hindu. Further, our children will be 50-50% Hindus and Muslims. Are you okay with it? If not walk away.
2) “he is telling me that u dnt hav to convert”: Islamic Nikaah is not possible unless a Hindu converts. Further, most probably, he will not sit in a Hindu wedding.
3) “in reality will a marriage be valid if u dnt convert to muslim?” Yes, go get married by the Special Marriage Act 1954.
4) “can we still be like a hindu?” NO, he already said he is religious Muslim. Read Nusrat.
5) “i realy have no clue wat all muslim women follow”: Read this article and that may help you. Not all may apply, but you have to find what is truth.
5) “pls let me know wat all things wuld be different marrying a muslim”: Considering he is religious, are you willing to convert to Islam (100% Muslim – 0% Hindu)?
Note we do not know your specific situation but these are some of general understanding we have. Let us know how many of things are true in your case. We hope to hear from you soon. -Admin
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Why Brahmin Girls like Muslim Boys?
Neha,
As a Hindu girl you should not get trapped by a muslim guy. Being a muslim girl, I understand the intentions and motives of muslim guys to trap non muslim girls as it is allowed in Islam for expansion of religion.
Islam permits lying! It is called “Al-taqiyya.” One Muslim said that Al-taqiyya means dissimulation then he expanded it to diplomacy but he should have gone further to deception. Now some Muslims who do not follow the Koran are as faithful Americans as any of us, but the problem is, we cannot know.
Muslims lie when it is in their interest to do so and “Allah” will not hold them accountable for lying when it is beneficial to the cause of Islam. They can lie without any guilt or fear of accountability or retribution. A lie in the defense of Islam is approved even applauded in their “holy” books.
Muslims are permitted to lie: (1) to save their lives, (2) to reconcile a husband and wife, (3) to persuade a woman into a bedroom and (4) to facilitate one on his journey. Muslims are even permitted to disavow Islam and Mohammed if it is not a genuine heart-felt rejection. Muslims will tell you that concealment of a truth is not an abandonment of that truth if it benefits Islam.
Mohammed gave permission for a follower to lie in order to kill a Jewish poet who had offended Mohammed. I could provide many examples of permissible lying from the Koran and Hadith and will do so when my critics accuse me of hatred and bigotry because of this column. My motives are not important but the truth is. However, many unprincipled people do not consider truth important. It is political correctness that sits on the throne to be worshiped.
Muslims may appear very sincere; in fact, they are sincere, when they lie for their own protection or in the cause of Islam. They have permission to lie. However, a Muslim has no guilt since the Koran and Hadith permit his deception.
Muslims have no hope for eternal salvation without their good works, so they must keep working to advance Islam. If a few lies will accomplish that goal, then lying is not bad but good. If they can get good publicity for Islam by lying, then lying is acceptable, even desirable.
They will lie to make Islam more attractive to potential converts as they speak of “no compulsion in religion” while all of them know that verse was abrogated by later verses. They will quote verses that speak of tolerance and kindness knowing that those verses were written when Mohammed was desirous of “tolerance and kindness,” but when he climbed into the catbird seat, everything changed and he became a terrorist.
Most Muslims will not have the “opportunity” to become a martyr in this war between Islam and the rest of the world and make no mistake every true Muslim must be involved in making America (or the nation where he lives) a Muslim nation. Since Muslims are limited in their ability to die for the cause, they can help the cause by supporting terrorists with money, succor, and cover. Sure, they are aiding terror against the U.S. but since they believe they are doing Allah’s will, then any deception is acceptable.
Dear Neha,
Here as I read Your question and reply by admin, As per the holy Geetaji, “Swadharm Nidhanam shrey”, Our own religion is beneficial to us.
Admin has rightly used a word that you are trying to walk on fire. I think I should not tell you more although I have lots of. I hope you are quite intelligent and mature. You will take Mature decision.
YES I AGREE WITH YOU SIR, AS BEING MUSLIM WE LADIES FACE MANY PROBLEMS SO HINDU GIRL CAN NOT ACCOMMODATE IN THIS SITUATIONS. WE DON’T HAVE LIBERTY IN MOST OF THE MUSLIM FAMILIES WOMENS ARE KEPT BEHIND PARDAH (UNDER THE PRETEX OF SHARIAHH). WE FEEL THAT WE ARE JUST “SLAVE”. MEN USE US AS AN INSTRUMENT. MY DEAR FRIEND PLZ PLZ DONT MARRY WITH HIM, YOU WILL GET BETTER CHOICE IN HINDUS.
FARIDA SADIQ
One more point, it would be better if everyone here helps the people who post to solve their problems and clear their muddled head than proving something about religion or starting quarrels.
This is true and wish people consider your request.
Dear Neha,
i too love a muslim guy. In your situation if your partner is religious, think for it twice. Whenever you both converse, you should completely forget that you both are of different faiths. Religion should never become the point of your argument.
YOU are going to live into his family. So if his family doesn’t accept you, you will obviously suffer. Sometimes, husband takes a back seat in the arguments of his family and his wife. At that particular time, women feel too much lonely. Moreover, is it really possible for you to not to have children? think about it emotionally this time. you may change your decision after marriage. hope this helped.
Dear sister Neha, being a Hindu girl, can you please answer me some questions, here I put my questions…
Qn. 1 :- Do you support Rape, Do you believe Rape is a Holy act?
Your Ans :-
Yes or No
Qn. 2 :- Do you believe a woman is born sinful,lower-grade? Do you believe you are born fro sinful wombs.
Your Ans :-
Yes or No
Qn. 3 :- Do you believe Dog=Women(you) ?
Your Ans :-
Yes or No
Qn. 4 :- Do you believe women are idiot ?
Your Ans :-
Yes or No
Qn. 5 :- Do you believe the incident of a mother giving to female child birth is bad,unfortunate?
Your Ans :-
Yes or No
My answers are
Ans no 1 : NO
Ans no 2 : NO
Ans no 3 : NO
Ans no 4 : NO
Ans no 5 : NO
Sister,I am waiting for your answer…
suppose i marry him under spl marriage act and i follow my own customs and he will follow his own customs..is that permitted
coming to kids i may not be having kids as it will be a problem for them and us.
Already mentioned he is religious and follow five times namaz daily…
This is 100% truth and there has to be no doubt for “suppose i marry him under spl marriage act and i follow my own customs and he will follow his own customs..is that permitted”. Yes, there is no law against this.
How ever, this is a big contrast that “he is religious and follow five times namaz daily” and he is not going to ask to be a Muslim. Tell us if he agreed to marry you by the Special Marriage Act 1954? Did his parents agreed to it? After marriage, are you going to live in his parents home or with his parents?
It is impossible that he will not dictate to change your religion. Test his love . Just tell him to convert him in Hinduism to get you and see. These Muslim guys love their religion much more than anything else.They pretend loving non Muslim girls just to convert her. Come out of this trap. Dont jump in to a hell of fire. Dont play with your life.
Garbage.
There is no such thing as a Muslim that will let his wife remain a non Muslim.
He will force her to convert very soon after the marriage. And after he has had sex with her.
My own wife, an ex Muslim says that Muslims use all sorys of trickery to get girls and boys to become muslims. Amd there is easier way than the lure of sexual bliss.Muslim girls trap non Muslim boys by their bodies and the stupid boys are so charmed by the girls that they convert. And Muslim boys go out portraying themselves as very decent people and trap non Muslim girls.
It is their duty to convert people by any means.
They are evil and evil has the best and most cunning ways to cheat people.
Ram never seen hypocrite like you, on one hand your wife is ex-muslim and you having sex with her on the other hand you have problem with muslim boys marrying non-muslim girls and having sex…. no doubt why you believe ” for god so loved the world that he committed suicide ” . Only people like you who have such cheap mentality can believe such things.
///Muslim girls trap non Muslim boys by their bodies and the stupid boys are so charmed by the girls that they convert. ///
here to bash muslim, you have insulted girls, no doubt why you are a christian, coz this is what exactly bible teaches, while you married a muslim girl and converted her to Christianity but blaming muslim girls who are brave and can influence their religion on their spouse, you are a jealous man, just wait, i am exposing Christianity here.
///And Muslim boys go out portraying themselves as very decent people and trap non Muslim girls.///
hahah and what did you did, didn`t you confessed above that your wife is an ex-Muslim. haha hypocrite, use some brain before writing anything on internet, coz every one is not fool like you, not everyone believe that `god so loved the world that he committed suicide` or `god is so powerful that he needed rest` . now don`t tell me that you wife converted out of her own will as most of non-muslim spouse who convert to islam, they did it on their own will, even we have such examples in our this website.
//It is their duty to convert people by any means.///
you are 100% right that it is our duty to convert people , but you are 100% wrong when you say `by any means`, islam doesn`t believe in spreading islam by any means, duty of every muslim is to convey the message of islam, that`s it, our job is done here, you convert or not convert is upto you, Allah never told us that if you don`t convert people, you will get hell fire. Here ( https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=9764#comment-350373 ) you are saying fake converting to islam and fooling the parents of her is a very good idea and here you are saying the opposite, you are a paragon of hypocrisy.
Now here is what Quran says about spreading Islam.
And report to the people the truth from your lord, let him who wills believe in it and let him who wills reject it. [The Noble Quran Chapter-18;Verse-29]
In Islam, the job of messenger was only to deleiver the messgae, prophet r any muslim is not responsible if you don`t convert to islam, our job is just to convey the messgae. Here is the verse from Quran:
“Say: Obey Allah and obey the Messenger. But if you turn away, he is responsible for the duty imposed on him, and you are responsible for the duty imposed on you. And if you obey him, you go aright. And the Messenger’s duty is only to deliver (the message) plainly.” [The Noble Quran Chapter-24;Verse-54]
“And obey God and obey the messenger and be cautious; but if you turn back, then know that the sole duty of the messenger is the deliverance (of the message)” 5:92
mac, do you think “muslim boys marrying non-muslim (Neha, a Hindu) girls”? Be honest and give advise to Neha for what is coming.
A muslim is not allowed to marry a non-muslim untill he or she accept islam except in some cases like jew,christian. Even conversion just for the sake of marriage is also not allowed in islam. So she should study islam, and if she likes islam frm heart then she should accept islam and marry him through islamic way of marriage or nikah,else walk away frm the relationship, and if that her bf marry her in unislamic way like mandir marriage,civil marriage then he is hypocrite and not a pure muslim, even after doing nikah, he allows her wife to do idol worship, then he is hypocrite and not a muslim. Now what i said above is islamic point of view. If he allow her wife((neha) to follow hinduism, then it is his wish,his way of life not islamic.
full of pig shit .Islam cannot survive without blatant lies
Ram, we agree to your statement “There is no such thing as a Muslim that will let his wife remain a non Muslim.” We feel that Muslim guy is just fooling Neha, we hope we are wrong.
Thank you. Suppose if a hindu girl and a muslim guy marries under the special marriage act ( without conversion to islam ), then wat are the consequences that wil happen? after marriage under Special Marriage Act, can the hindu girl follow her own customs? so is Special Marriage act like a registar marriage like how it is for within Hindus? can u pls elaborate more
You can marry and ur marriage will be acceptable in the front of the people but its not acceptable in the front of the God
Mohammed,
Neha’s boy friend is probably not a true Muslim any ways. Probably 1) he does not perform namaz five times a day and, 2) during past 7 years, he must have looked at Neha with open eyes (not following Koran (24:30): Muslim men are not supposed to look at women. If you see other girl, lower your gaze). Allah is watching and knows it all, thus your statement “not acceptable in the front of the God” has no meaning.
Neha, let us know truth about these two points raised above.
The Special Marriage Act is Civil marriage. There is no consideration for religion and there is no pressure from religious institutions. Like Kareena Kapoor, you could remain 100% Hindu if you wish and he could remain 100% Muslim, if he wishes. Further, child could be what ever two parents decide. If you wish, make sure with your bf that your children will follow both faiths, 50%-50%. It is possible your parents wish your husband to be a Hindu, but at least they may accept this neutral and fair deal for both sides. Let us know what else you wish to know.
Convert to islam if you want to marry him.A Muslim can’t marry Hindu. If you want to live a blissful life with him convert to islam.
Mac, will definitely boil up when some body points the islamic evils against women. He is so called brahmin and his mother married to a muslim guy(s) under certain traps.
For Neha, why are you interested in a muslim guy, who follow terrorist religion, where women are sex toys, they have to wear burka,prove verginity by bleeding on wedding night sex,their clitoris is removed, non muslim girls are forced to eat beef,women are stonned to death, no men or even terrorist has been stonned to death.
Neha if you want to be sexually exploited go and marry him and soon you will find how you are transferrred to different males for sexual pleasure.
Admin, who are you to tell her that if children are not ”50-50” hindu-muslim, then walk away from relationship. Never saw you advicing same to muslim girls. Hypocrisy again. When ever admin finds a brahmin girl with muslim boy, his blood gets boiled, i don’t kno why, may be he is fanatic brahmin!
Neha,
As mac implied, are you a Brahmin?
Are you interested in becoming Muslim (meaning 0% Hindu)?
Are you dreaming of raising 100% Muslim children?
We suggest to a Muslim or Hindu to 1) not convert for marriage and 2) raised children in BOTH faith. We are not telling you anything different as mac implies here. However, it’s your life and your choice. View our video message here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvZSqdmnxKM .
Dear Neha,
Thank you for reaching out to us. It seems that you have never bother taking any interest what happen after interfaith love.
For a Hindu, Marriage with a Muslim guy is like walking on fire. You got to be very well prepared for next steps in life, if you wish not to be burned.
We will discuss more at length later but let us answer quickly some of your questions, if that helps:
1) “being a hindu girl what is right for me to do?”: Tell him that I am a Hindu and will die as a Hindu. Further, our children will be 50-50% Hindus and Muslims. Are you okay with it? If not walk away.
2) “he is telling me that u dnt hav to convert”: Islamic Nikaah is not possible unless a Hindu convert.
3) “in reality will a marriage be valid if u dnt convert to muslim?” Yes, go get married by the Special Marriage Act 1054.
4) “can we still be like a hindu?” NO, he already said he is religious Muslim.
5) “i realy have no clue wat all muslim women follow”: Read this article and that may help you. Not all may apply, but you have to find what is truth.
5) “pls let me know wat all things wuld be different marrying a muslim”: Considering he is religious, are you willing to convert to Islam (100% Muslim – 0% Hindu)?
Note we do not know your specific situation but these are some of general understanding we have. Let us know how many of things are true in your case. We hope to hear from you soon.