Nigar says: September 14, 2012 at 9:29 am
Hello Fauzia,
It is a great sin to marry a cousin, which is worst part of Islam.
I was pressurized to marry my cousin about 6 years ago, when I was studying in Graduation. I tactfully denied the proposal and I was already in touch with a Hindu Marathi boy, who was working in MNC and with his help I got a job in his company. When I gave first salary to my abbu, he was happy and permitted me to continue job.
I told my parents let me work for few years and because financially our position was not so strong, parents allowed to continue. In mean time, my relations got stronger with that boy and one day we decided to marry.
In the meantime that boy got transferred to Singapore and he earned a goot reputation in the company. With his help I also got an opportunity to get transferred in the companies Singapore based subsidiary. Managing very tactfully, I reached Singapore and started living together. We got married there and informed my parents and I told them that I was not converting to Hinduism and shall continue to help them financially to support my younger brother and sister’s education, which my husband never mind.
Initially, parents, under the pressure of some fundamentalists, opposed but I continued to send money for more than 2 years and parents realized the truth. One day, I invited them to visit Singapore. They did not tell any thing in their community and visited and saw my house. In the mean time I had given birth to a male child. Parents found that so many muslim girls had married Hindu and Budhdhits boys and living happy life, whereas those girls with muslim husbands were not happy and confined to burquas.
So Fauzia, dont spoil your career by marrying your cousin.
Better to get a job and try to become self dependent.
May God give inspiration to be bold. -Nigar.
Admin says:
Nigar, we do not have any thing to add to your happy real life story, not like the Bollywood love stories which ends with marriage. Every one likes to have an easy life and fun, but you have done a real hard work and “earned” it!
As Seema and we have been telling to all youths…..
- Rome was not built in a day, take time to make a fully “informed” decision that is right for you.
- Meantime, get an excellent education, get an excellent job, move out to a different city and do what is right to do.
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Nigar replied: on September 15, 2012 at 4:44 am
Hi Admn.
Thanks for the mail. I got married first through Hindu wedding in a temple, later got marriage registered legally and also sought blessings through a famous muslim shrine.
It is my personal experience if the partners are like minded, loyal and committed to share all ups and downs of life, irrespective of religion and community, they enjoy their life. For all this both need to understand each other, have faith on mutual sentiments. Both working together, is also an added advantage.
I strongly condemn attrocities on women folk in the name religion and depriving their fundamental rights.
Thanks for publishing my comments in the interest of the Muslim sisters. -Nigar.
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I accepted Islam on my own for the love and affection of Khatija who was one year old at that time;i.e. in 2002
Masha Allah bro. . .Allah has given hidayah to you. . .
Be practise on it !!!
and spread the peace message to other peoples
Hi Rajendra,
Can you share your experiences (when you met her, what was your initial reaction, what you learned now, how your parents are managing now, are you still practicing some Hindu practices/holidays, etc), we would like to make a separate post.
Inspirational Nigar…..
Dear everyone,
I have been reading through this website and saw many good stories about how love can be so strong regardless of religion and culture etc.
I have been living my whole life in a western country, but my parents are from a Asian muslim country. Growing up with strict parents in a secular country was really hard for me. I was not aloud to do much without their permission. Going to school and college was my way out for freedom. My parents never had a problem with me studying. Though they did always wanted me to marry as soon as possible. I managed to decline all the marriage proposals and continued studying and travelling around the world.
During my stay in India 3 years back I fell in love with a wonderful hindu boy. To me he is my everything and today we are still together despite the differences of religion and culture. We had our ups and downs but we love each other soo much that nothing can stop us. We both live in 2 separate countries from each other but we have maintained our relationship very well and im just really proud of us because of that.
My mom totally disapproves it and my dad will never accept it since he is a very strict religious muslim. They will for sure disown me for a while and try to do anything to make me not be with my hindu boyfriend. I really feel sad about the fact that my family is like this. I wish i could just be with him without causing much trouble in the family… I also feel very guilty about me being with someone who is not a muslim just for the sake of my parents.
I respect Islam and also my parents believe in Islam, but i would like them to respect and accept my choice of being with a hindu man for the rest of my life.
I believe in god, but i dont practice religion since i just dont think i need it personally. I am not against any religion and i just want my children to learn about all religions and they can choose any religion if they want.
I am planning to tell my parents about me wanting to marry him in a few months from now. At the moment i am busy with my MSc and my boyfriend is focussing on his business in India. I am already financially independent and know how to manage things on my own.
I hope that everything works out for me and my boyfriend in the future. And i also hope the same for other muslim girls in the same situation. I know how hard it is but please don’t give up if the man you are with is really good to you and is making you happy. Because finding a good man is hard these days, regardless of any religion.
Once again i am not against Islam or any other religion. I highly respect all religions and the people who don’t believe in the existence of god. And i am not planning to convert to hinduism and i am certainly not expecting my boyfriend to convert to Islam.
Thanks,
Suzanne
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Please let that boy live na…
Hindu Boy Burned Alive for Loving Muslim Girl…
http://indiawires.com/13271/news/state-news/hate-jihad-in-kerala-youth-set-ablaze-succumbs-to-burns/
Nigar & Suzane, congratulation for your decision for choosing life partner overcoming these hurdles. Real education has brought these ideas of thinking in this judicious ways. This is the reflection of logical thinking . Pl. show the light of education to all such girls.
you should firstly kill your parents who give you birth and allow you to study.. after that go a head and marry with that Hindu guy… may be he is now world for you.. and your parents are nothing for you… ask all muslim girls to marry only with hindus.. and not maryy with muslim guys.. one day the muslim comunity will die its silent poison.. and there will be no need for hindus to kill muslims…
Why are u getting so hyper
Dude there is no difference between hindu , muslims or any other religion
Our parents are every thing for us but we know that we are not wrong, They are just want to convince their parents……….
Its good you consider all religion are same. If you come across a muslim girl who wish to marry non mulsim, will you support her..
@Prethvi What kind of mentality do you have man ? Are you even literate? Atleast, educated people like you should not fall into this custom made religions. No religion denies intercaste/interreligion marriages. Show me any Vedas or puranas where intercaste/interreligion should strictly not be followed. Its only the fake religions made by people mostly uneducated people in India and also educated fools like you.
dear Suzanne,hope that now I m writing this to you ,you are married to your beloved one,m also Muslim fell in love with a Jain,just keep up gal.
Nigar Congratulations,
All is well that ends well. God helps those help themselves.
Millions of girls are suffering from islamic barriers imposed on them.
Hope your story will be guide factors for millions of girls of muslim community to safeguard their interests for a happy married life of their choice.
Self also looking for a like minded, god fearing, liberal, educated guy.
God bless you always.
Hi Nigar,
Thanks for your courageous efforts otherwise you would have been leading a very miserable life, like thousands of girls who could not come out of social evils of muslim society. I too married a Hindu business guy in Canada and supporting him in his business. Very happy, no cultural or religious barriers to lead married life. Only good understanding and adjusting is needed in interfaith marriages. In Toronto, most of the muslim girls have non-muslim husbands.
Congratulations. God bless you always.
Hi Admin.
Thanks for the mail. I got married first through Hindu wedding in a temple,later got marriage registered legally and also sought blessings through a famous muslim shrine.
It is my personal experience if the partners are like minded, loyal and committed to share all ups and downs of life, irrespective of religion and community, they enjoy their life. For all this both need to understand each other, have faith on mutual sentiments.Both working together, is also an added advantage.
I strongly condemn attrocities on women folk in the name religion and depriving their fundamental rights.
Thanks for publishing my comments in the interest of the muslim sisters.
Nigar,
You are certainly a role model for other Hindu-Muslim couples dreaming for a good married life. You are certainly blessed by (with what ever name) God, but certainly it was not easy for you, you have “earned” it.
You have mentioned that “in the interest of the Muslim sisters.” By publishing your story will help little, but bigger help will be if NIGAR comes back here weekly to guide other youths for a right path (like Seema and Salman).
If you do, use this as your web address while signing in… https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2630
Yes.
Nigar,
One general question…how did you got married? Nikaah, Hindu wedding ceremony or a Court marriage?