interfaith says: January 7, 2016 at 10:09 am
Hello Alok
It is amazing to read about your happy marriage. My boyfriend and I are from different religion and culture (Christan and Hindu) like you guys. We want to get married but would like to talk to somebody who has been in same shoe. We live in Boise (Idaho, USA). It would be really helpful if we can have an opportunity to meet you guys and maybe get some insight. Let me know if you are willing to talk to us, it will be really helpful.
Thank you. -Interfaith
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hi… i am catholic and my boyfriend is hindu.. he is a staunch hindu, and i would like to know how do i go about it without baptising my child as he is not keen on the children becoming catholics.. i am confused.. please do help me.. thank you..
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Hi hema. I’m a Christian, my wife is Hindu. I understand the differences between all religions, and from my point of view, religion causes more strife and seperates the already unified parties. What you should look at are not the differences, but the similarities, and each religion has its own, “rituals” so to say. I say drop the ceremonies, you don’t need them. My wife and I both believe that God brought us together. I also believe that there is truly only one God, spread across the world in every nation, diluted in books by human hands. What we do know to be true, is that God is real, and he does things in miraculous and awe-inspiring ways. Look to Him for guidance. Both of you should not just speak with others in the same situation, but to religious parties of both sides, and allow God to show you where to begin. Remember, God is spiritual, so you must look with your spirit, and listen with your heart. And together agree on one thing. I believe we are all on a spiritual walk with God, and Jesus in my religion. That he will guide us and show us the way to spiritual freedom and growth away from religion and into a more stable spiritual way of life. Jesus gave but 2 commandments. Love one another the most important. We are humans, not races, we are spiritual, not religious, we are all one, and must act as one whole, and truly love each other completely, free of such information that only confuses and creates problems between individuals, so that we may one day all have one thing in common. Love for one another, and for all others around us. Hope this helps. Peace and love!
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The video was really insightful I appreciate you providing me the link to the video.
Neither of our parents are very religious. Neither him nor his parents go to church every Sunday, my mom prays at home everyday, not my dad or me though. I don’t think I’ve ever seen his parents going to church and we do see them on all holidays. My parents and me seldomly go to temple, most of our temple visits are to appreciate the beautiful and different temples in the country.
I also talked to my boyfriend about baptizing the kids. He does not seem to have very strong opinion about it and neither do I. I told my boyfriend if he wants the kids to learn about christanity he has to do that himself and he was fine with it and same goes in case if I want them to learn about Hinduism.
We do wish to meet couples with experience in our area but we don’t know any. I was hoping if you could get us connected with somebody in boise, ID.
Thank you.
On this point “I told my boyfriend if he wants the kids to learn about christanity he has to do that himself”, actually you should also “learn” as much about Christianity. Read the Bible. Read all above recommended articles. Knowledge is good, knowledge will always help you. Learning is one thing and baptizing (Christening) a child is totally another. We highly recommend all interfaith couples to learn of both faiths but no BBS (any type of religious labeling on the child).
Talking to other interfaith couple will be difficult. First, those who are just got in love don’t want to talk (probably the same in your case a year before) and those are already married/divorced/broke up don’t want to talk to others about their experiences. Further, every one will has different situation and thus may not be applicable to you. Yes, you should still try to reach out to such couples. If that does not work out, read some Hindu-Christian experiences here.
In your case, religion does not seems to be a big issue. If so, you have to focus on other cultural differences. Are his parents’ first marriage? Other points to look are eating habit, drinking habit, spending style, education, compatibility, two families common interests, divorces in his families, etc (what goes, comes around). What seems to be your major concerns? What is your back up plan, if you dump this guy?
Dear Interfaith,
You have come to a right site. We have experience with some 300 other youths just like you. We have collected a wealth of information just for you.
To start with, issue will not be Krishna or Jesus but your church. Do you have to get married in church? Are you going to marry by the Hindu vivaha and his parents agreed to it? Let us know and we will discuss more later.
Meantime, read the bolded video above and let us know your thoughts.
Our parents are fine with marriage. We haven’t decided yet how we are going to get married but we will have non-religious ceremony as neither of us are very religious. Neither of us plan to change religion either. Presently we are looking for a couple we can get connected with to get some insight.
Did you review our recommended video, do you have any views on it? This will help us improve in the future (and you to learn if you missed something else).
You are in great shape if both sets of parents agreed to it and you are willing to keep church/mandir at a distance if there is any conflict between two of you.
We don’t think in your case, but major issue in any interfaith marriage is how to raise children. Are both sets of parents agreed that a child can be raised in two faiths (true pluralists). More specifically, does you child have to have Christening/Baptism ceremony as a child and later attend church every Sunday? Do not assume any thing on this point but learn clearly from his parents. If this is not an in cards, then rest could be managed.
You wish to meet couples with experience and talk to them directly. Best bet will be talking to people who married in your area. Remember, no two cases are same. This is something you will have to face your interfaith issues on your own. However, you could learn from experiences of others. We have about 300 youths in your situation and their experiences are listed here https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?cat=8 . Best wishes and keep us posted for how it goes.