My Sad Christian-Hindu Marriage

shekhar says: November 1, 2015 at 7:27 am

Dear all, I would like to tell you about my sad marriage.. My name is Shekhar from Bangalore .. I married christian girl 9 months back and dying everyday before marriage we both loved and decided to marry, girl herself took me to all Hindu temples and gained trust and asked to get converted to her christinity for marriage sake just like drama, she does not take seriousaly for life long and promised me that she would come to my religion but I did not accept then. she emotionally told that this is only for marriage, not to hurt her parents also blackmailed me that if u do this life long she will be with me and family.

We both converted (she converted to Hindu) but not made any documented. Marriage also happend in both tradition.

As per her I did we fought whenever her parents called me to church but she convinced its only till marriage and they made everything documented. After marriage her parents asked me as father and mother started forcing every Sunday .. Although my wife converting to my religion. Started listening her parents forced me to come church for parents.

Now she is not ready accept words which she gave before marriage, I’m staying alone with my wife and her also parents stays in same city.. I hate in-law behavior. They had put conditions that they have taken loan for marriage so we should not do anything for one year (child) so they can take her salary after this they asked to take loan to buy gold her otherwise they will not let her stay with me .. 1st 3 months torchured me every day with multiple reminders the. I got loan and my finance level become wrost and started creating circumstances where I should depend on them after marriage not even single day she came to Hindu temple and called me many times to church even though I don’t like.

Now my side family does not know anything about this even I’m not able to tell if I do these people blackmailing me that they would tell about converted to chrisinity. Now I’m loosing hope on life.. I can’t even take divorce as her father threatened me that he will give police compliant of dowry and her mother harrashment case and my wife suicide.

plz suggest me. My side I have only dad and relatives they stay very far my place ..my dad is very old and can’t work anymore and I’m in the situation where I’m not able to help him financely and take care of him.

Many times I felt like suicide is best option but my dad nobody there to take care of him and younger sister. My wife does not like my family and never come to my house where dad stays.

I’m dying everyday plz tell me if there any way getting out of this hell. my wife does like to give divorce ..give any legal solution is there chances where I can get back to my religion by legal..

Does church take any legal action? If I disobey. never truseted this changing my religion ..

I really appreciate your ur suggestion to get out of this hell -Shekhar

Admin says:

Shekhar,
Perfect, you reached out to us, we will solve your simple problem. In year 2020, you will be a free man out of all these issues. Think it like it was a bad dream of 5 years. A very bright future is waiting for you. Life is long so you will also recover financially later. Ready?

First, you have not committed any crime in eyes of God or according to Indian laws. This is important to make sure you do not get violent to hurt her and break Indian laws.

Most important thing you need to do is not plan for a baby. No sex, understood? If baby comes, your 10X hell is fixed for this life.

You converted to Christianity and signed documents on rupees 50 stamp (something like this) is this true? This is not an irreversible document, you could convert back to Hinduism today. As per Indian laws, you could change your faith every day, no one could stop you from expressing your faith, never.

Now tell us what you wish to do with this marriage? Do you want to divorce her? This is the decision that you have to make.

Now a separate issue from your marriage, that is faith. If you want, you could convert back to Hindu Dharma today. After informing to your wife (legally not necessary), go to any Arya Samaj (or contact) and formally convert back to Hinduism. They will make legal documentations. From that day, you are no more legally a Christian. Present that document to your wife and church. Tell them that sorry, Christianity did not work for me. However you are willing to honor your marriage as you being Hindu and she being Christian (actually both Hindu but her conversion not documented). If the church takes any legal step, call TV reporters and make a big show on this case. The church will realize their mistake and keep quiet.

Do you have any document or photo or witness for her converting to Hinduism? If yes, your Christian marriage could turn invalid because she was not Christian.

If your wife could put up you up as a Hindu, well maintain the marriage. If legality is concerned with your first marriage, get paper divorce and remarry as you wish.

Other option is, simply stop going to their church. There is no legality that you must attend church. Tell them it is boring and you have better things to do in life.

Make sure you do not get into financial trouble. Ask a good account for help.

Above all discussion is necessary for irrational religious fanatics. If you two (husband and wife) have little smartness and willing to work with each others, then we recommend to forget this man-made religions and fights in name of God. Keep both faiths out of your marriage, but only follow religion of humanity. You formally go back to your own faith and she back to her Christianity. Terminate your Christian marriage and reregister as court marriage. Do not listen to your parents/pandits/priest about religion. Do not visit temple or church but instead go serve at a center for hungry people. Just love and respect all. Enjoy this life! Any interest? Talk to her.

Tell us what else we could help? We will work with you over years right here. -Admin

shekhar says: December 18, 2015 at 8:26 am
Dear Venk,

Even I had same feelings like instead of dying everyday better put full stop for my life but I could not do it because of my parents – who will take care of them – then I realised what made me to feel is love is’not it!!
Forger about that when u r not getting respect .. Give respect who really gives u respect…admin thank u so much for kind support ..venky my mail I’d XXXXX. U can contact me through mail any time.. -Shekhar

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