SIMI says: February 15, 2020
I am in a situation where I’ve fallen in love with a muslim guy, who believes our relationship will not last as our parents will not accept it, we haven’t told them yet. However I don’t know anyone who’s been through this situation so i can’t ask questions. Can I ask how you parents have come to accept it? Will we be fighting a loosing battle? -Simi
Thank you for reaching out to us. We have guided some 1200 youths in love like you and thus will help you step wise. We hope Priya will come back to guide you.
How long have you been in relationship?
Why he said, “…muslim guy, who believes our relationship will not last as our parents will not accept it”, what do his parents want?
Your Sikh parents may be open minded somewhat and may want you to remain Sikh and he can remain what ever he is (that is Muslim here). If this is acceptable both sides, it is possible your parents may ultimately accept your relationship? Are Muslim boy friend’s parents also open-minded to accept you as a “Sikh”?
Before asking your parents, first you have to decide what do YOU want? Most critical question with any Muslim is–are you ready to convert to Islam?
Did he bring up discussion of changing your religion yet?
If you are curious what this conversion means? or what else is on the plan for you, print these questions below and ask him or to yourself. Let us know what is acceptable and not for you and him.
Sikh ceremony, your marriage may be invalid (read Supreme court’s ruling). Check with a lawyer for these legal complexities before taking the shahadah oaths.
Discuss these points with your boy friend and let us know what else you learned about him and his religion. Remember, if you are concern with some of Islamic practices, simple way out is to marry the Special Marriage Act, 1954. Can he agree that for you?
Lets talk more for what you learned and what is good for you. After you are convinced about your future situation, try to convince your parents. We hope to hear from you soon. Best wishes. –Admin