Mike says: February 12, 2013 at 10:18 am
How can i marry my Muslim girl friend?
I’m black christian and my girlfriend is an arab muslim. She is working with me in Boston in a private company for the last 1 year. Earlier she used to put a scarf on the head, but now not. She ears pant and sleeveless shirt and looks very smart and sexy to me. We both are taking interest in each other, attending lunch and snacks parties together, going in the evening in the park. Earlier she was not interested in me because of my dark colour but now openly says she likes me. We have also seen movies and exchanged kisses in the hall.
I want to marry her one day but I don’t think her parents will approve of me since I’m not Muslim. So is it possible to marry her and if so what will I have to do without converting. She is scared of how to make her parents agree to marry with me.
She told me that she is not virgin, as her cousin one day, when no body was at home, had sexual relations with her. She is afraid of marrying a Muslim guy, if arranged by her parents, how to prove virginity on the wedding night. I told her don’t marry any Muslim guy, I am ready to accept her as it is.
Please guide me. -Mike
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Admin says:
You are already on a right track, give a year or two. Read every thing that is written on this web site and ask her to do the same.
Islamic Nikaah means Sahadah conversion. Do not fake-convert unless you wish to be a true Muslim and live an Islamic life. The same token, do not ask her for a fake-Baptism for your church wedding; do not be a love-proselytizer. You are in Boston so no one will stop you from having a secular wedding. Plan to raise children in both faiths or even better, in all faiths. Best wishes.
Muslim brothers, please stop this “bloody bed sheet display to prove virginity” practice. This is scarring Muslim sisters to death. This practice is making Muslim sisters to look outside Islam. Ultimately, who is at loss? -Admin.
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First of all, why repair your hymen for the sake of your family? Why hide it from them and feel shame if you did it on your own will?
You can’t call yourself a Muslim if you go around doing things against Islam and Allah’s rules?? I dont see the point. I mean if you don’t care what Allah said and if you don’t care what he’s seen and how you are going to be judged by Him and only Him in the afterlife then why do you care how people are going to judge you now?
You shouldn’t even call yourselves Muslims. You may see all of these people having fun, getting wasted, having sex and etc but trust me in the end they’re going to have a horrible afterlife. I’m pretty sure there are religions other than Islam that forbid drugs, premarital sex, alcohol and whatever else they’re doing today so if you want to join them in hell then be my guest but don’t represent Islam that way because you are NOT a Muslim. Whoever approves of this or thinks its ok because “people changed, the world is different now or everyone’s doing it” and still goes around calling themselves Muslims, I hate to break it to you but you are NOT a Muslim and this is definitely not ok. Its either you’re a Muslim and you follow the rules of Islam or you convert completely and save the Muslim reputation.
Hi sisters,
I am a muslim woman now 35 years,living in Canada. I lost my virginity during my graduation with my non-muslim BF. I could not marry with him due to pressure from my parents and had to use artificial hymen kit very tactfully on the wedding night, full of blood stains on the bed sheet, which was shown very proudly by my inlaws to the neighbourers.
Lateron I could not pull on with my muslim husbiand due to restrictions and divorced him. Now having live in relationship with a Hindu Brahmin boy happily, and soon marry him through court marriage with out conversion. A virginity for muslim female, it is a curse and why the same principle is not applied to the males?
The restoration of Muslim virginity is in demand in Germany. The Muslim women in need of new, unused hymen, are mostly older, 20 to 25-years-old Muslimahs. They come from Turkey, Balkans, Iran and the Arab countries.
The Muslim women call themselves Zeda, Aysegul, Cancun and Samar. They met anonymously on the Internet and discuss the vital issue for them: “I urgently need information on where a Muslim woman can get her hymen sewn restoration; what would it cost – please help me,” writes of them in the lifestyle and health forum. She received many responses within minutes.
On the WWW the Muslim women can share their fears and discuss Muslim issues undisturbed. Only a few could talk about this taboo topic within the family. The loss of virginity in Muslim world is as much disgrace as unwanted pregnancy. The Muslim family honor is equated with the purity of their daughters.
The Berlin’s family planning center receives numerous request for information on Muslim hymen restoration every week. “The demand has increased dramatically,” says Dr. Christiane Tennhardt. The woman are mostly between 20 to 25-years old and came from Turkey, Balkans, Iran and other Arab countries. “Most are not veiled and speak perfect German.”
The parents must be presented with the bloody sheet
Th story is the same: An Iranian woman wants to save her future husband from ‘Infamy’ and ‘disgraced woman.’ The Muslims of Kurdish persuasion present their bloody sheet to the parents after the wedding night.
“Many of the Muslim woman have had sexual intercourse several times, then comes the wedding and the reality catches up with them.”
It has happened that a Muslim girl has been raped by her family and then forced to prove her virginity.
There are cases when the restoration of the Muslim hymen is the only option due to the health concerns of the Muslim woman. The human rights organization, Terre des Femmes, disagrees on the hymenorrhaphie issue.
“The social significance of virginity is often utilized to deny women their sexual freedom and to restrict their lifestyles.”
Dr. Teenhardt has long worked with Muslim women seeking hymen restoration. It usually turns out that the Muslim women know very little about their own bodies and sexuality. “If I tell them that hymen does not necessary guarantee bleeding, or that some Muslim girls are born without a hymen, they’re very surprised.”
The gynecologist teaches the Muslim women how virginity can be faked.
In cases where the Muslim woman is in great distress and afraid of deadly honor violence, the doctor is prepared to perform the outpatient surgery. “We want to prevent mental and physical suffering.” The cost is about 200 euros.
How many thousands of hymen restoration operations are done in Europe is unknown. The demand is huge, shows the offers by plastic surgeons, some charging up to 2100 euros for the procedure.
One advert promises: For only 24.95 Euros (including shipping) you can save your honor.
The tips and addresses are also provided by Internet forums. “My gynecologist operates in outpatient basis and it will cost only 100 euros,” writes a Muslim woman.
Dr, Tennhardt emphasizes that much more important than tip for doctors and cost is to tackle the issue of Muslim woman through societal shift of thinking. The young Muslim women should be encouraged to demand their right to fuck anyone, anytime, anywhere.
My virginity was restored in a delicate operation just last week, and I honestly view it as life-saving surgery,” says Aisha.
“If my husband cannot prove to his family that I am a virgin, I would be hounded, ostracised and sent home in disgrace. My father, who is a devout Muslim, would regard it as the ultimate shame.
“The entire family could be cast out from the friends and society they hold dear, and I honestly believe that one of my fanatically religious cousins or uncles might kill me in revenge, to purge them of my sins. Incredible as it may seem, honour killings are still accepted within our religion.
“Ever since my family arranged this marriage for me, I’ve been terrified that, on my wedding night, my secret would come out. It has only been since my surgery last week that I’ve actually been able to sleep properly. Now, I can look forward to my marriage.”
Reply to Islami girl at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4409
Hi
I know what they are doing now a days?
They are busy with repair Hymen of their sisters/daughters so that they could bleed on the wedding night and display of that blood tainted sheet before society.
Regarding Fatima she is exploring economics of Hymen repair surgery or use artificial hymen kit for wedding intercourse and blood sheet full of artificial blood spots for open display in the neighourhood.
Hello sisters,
Really proud of you. So intelligently and frankly speaking and sharing your life experience for the betterment of our female community, kept depressed for thousands of years.
Now a days, no comments from Aamir, Suhail or Zahid, Fatima, are seen.
Where are they?
Muslim girls are now turning towards black persons too, to live blissful life.
Lets hope Muslim community now wake-up, otherwise like you said “Muslim girls are now turning towards black persons too, to live blissful life.” Who is at loss?
Chand, with your help, lets hope Muslim community will come to terms with reality in next 10 years. Lets be hopeful.